Getting married on my first anniversary

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I got married to my husband last year after many years together and a year after a major health scare which made us realise how special life is.
A close family member who was involved in my wedding announced her engagement before my wedding and I couldn't have been happier for her, she's wanted this for so long I am honestly thrilled and he is perfect for her. They went to view her perfect venue and I heard all about it, and then found out that they booked it the same date I had my wedding but the following year. So this will be on our one year anniversary. Now if it was the second year, third whatever it wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest. But to say I was hurt is an understatement. I want to spend my first anniversary with my husband. Now to make it even more awkward she asked me to be bridesmaid, and we are close family where I have to go. So I will spend half of the day no where near my husband as I will be with her.

Husband kicked off and hasn't spoken about it in months. Everyone else is acting like it isn't a big deal. It just feels like no one has thought about my feelings at all.

AIBU?

Just to clarify we will be going to the wedding, I will be bridesmaid but we will be leaving after the dinner (I have been open and honest with the bride although I think she was upset, but she understood)

Reverse or not, someone’s still bridezilla’ing a whole year on! Hilarious.

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Oops posted too soon! I think if this is a reverse, the right thing to do is for the new bride to do something to highlight the anniversary - get the band/DJ to play something appropriate? Propose a toast? And the gracious thing for the already-married couple to do is say to the other couple that they hope the date is as propitious for them as it has been to the first couple.

My cousin got married the day before my 20th anniversary. I was only annoyed that it wasn't the actual same date, so we could share the same anniversary!

This. Or troll or journo.

This is absurd.
Also unusual to have a wedding on a Sunday, which presumably this is if the wedding last year was on a Saturday...

YAB absolutely ridiculous . Nobody cares about other peoples wedding anniversaries .

Friends of ours had their 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day. They were mentioned and got given gifts. Another friend was recently engaged and they got a congratulations mention too.

Grow up.

Totally bonkers. Grow up!

How very precious 😂

Drama over nowt!

This, so romantic being at anot3hr wedding. I personally don't see the big deal, it's a bit OTT to me, but it's your life so do what makes me happy. I do think YABU

I can’t believe after a serious health scare - which made you realise time is limited and precious, that it didn’t also make you realise that you shouldn’t sweat the small stuff.

Why risk falling out with people you are so close to? Have you thought about how the ‘bride’ must feel. If your anger is like this over an anniversary, then you REALLY would have been beyond livid and deeply hurt if this was done to you by your nearest and dearest bridesmaid to be!

I must have missed the memo that the date you got married on becomes “your date” that no one else you know can use. Makes a change from all the someone has stolen my baby name threads I guess 🤷‍♀️

Fucking hell.
no one gives a shit about YOUR anniversary apart from you and dh

way to ruin your cousins day.
celebrate another day

ridiculous

Seriously?

Ridiculous

Was bridesmaid for friend on my one year anniversary and for another the second anniversary

People don’t own dates

Either go or don’t go - you actually have is choice. Your husband is acting like a child though.

This is mad? You’ll basically be getting a free meal, booze, Dj and if you play your cards right professional photos on your anniversary! Imagine how much it’ll cost if you leave and go and do that somewhere else? I think you’ve stumbled on a winner personally! Enjoy

Husband kicked off and hasn't spoken about it in months

So he was upset too ? Ridiculous. You both need to grow up and stop expecting others to plan their lives around you.

Incredibly unreasonable and extremely childish to leave after the dinner.

Right on OP it's YOUR day and nothing should ever happen on that day ever.

Even if your best friend has a baby on YOUR day she should do the right thing and register the birth as the day after.

I hope Charles doesn't think he's getting coronated (?) on YOUR day. Do one Charlie. You tell him.

YANBU at all.

Very rude of you. She probably picked the date to honor you, and this is how you act. Her wedding will make your anniversary all the more special.

Hopefully she will cancel your bridesmaid role, disinvite you, and never speak to you again. What a witch you are.

I’ve heard of Bridezilla but Anniversaryzilla is a new one. Get a grip.