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Right… I’ve had enough…

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Quietlyquitting · 26/03/2023 13:46

… of telling my OH to manage his laundry. I don’t mind doing his laundry, but I just want him to use some common sense.

is it dirty: put it in the laundry basket,

is it in between: fold it and put it on the dresser and wear it again next day rather than KEEP GETTING CLEAN CLOTHES OUT

do not: leave various garments lying around the bedroom with no FUCKING indication of what stage they are at! I should not have to sniff test his clothes!

I genuinely feel like a broken record. It’s not difficult. The other week there were two T-shirts some pj pants and two pairs of jeans that I folded neatly on the dresser to wear again. He was notified again of the “please just help me with this”

Today - again - He’s been through three changes of clothes and I’ve come upstairs to find the bed covered in clothes - so I’ve quit. I’ve dumped them all the dresser and I’ve decided I don’t care. I’m making no effort to sort/wash them so…AIBU?

yanbu: he’s being a muppet. He can sort his own shite out now

yabu: he’s a bloke - they can be a bit simple

if anyone would like to quietly quit with me feel free to add what your quietly quitting on

Right… I’ve had enough…
OP posts:
Bellsbeachwaves · 28/03/2023 16:13

You sound controlling. Fold them up and wear them again the next day. Don't keep putting on new clothes. Tbh if I was your husband I'd tell you to GF.

Solution. Stop doing his washing. Stop sniffing his clothes. Live your best life.

Anniegetyourgun · 28/03/2023 16:45

It puts the washing in the basket or it gets the hose again.

SquirrelsAreStinky · 28/03/2023 17:47

Anniegetyourgun · 28/03/2023 16:45

It puts the washing in the basket or it gets the hose again.

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

This really made me laugh!

FrillyGoatFluff · 28/03/2023 19:49

I'm harsh. I have a DH, DSD11 and DSD17. They're all capable, and lazy with washing. So I'm really strict, otherwise I end up drowning in it, and it's bollocks.

  • If it's not in the basket, it doesn't get washed.
  • If it's on the bathroom floor next to the basket, it doesn't get washed.
  • if it's not in the basket by Friday night, it won't be washed by Sunday afternoon
  • if you decide to dump a load of washing in the basket when it's been emptied, it won't magically appear the next day, you're not living on a cruise ship.
  • If it's clean and folded on the island ready to be taken upstairs, you have 24 hours then it goes in the bin, I don't care what it is (two teenagers are a NIGHTMARE for walking past their piles and ignoring it)
  • I don't care if you have no clean uniform/work shirts/pants and it's Sunday night (when it magically appears from a bedroom). Best get it in the machine yourself and get up early tomorrow to tumble dry it.
  • if it has a spectacular biological stain, don't take the piss. Prewarn me, or stick it in the machine yourself.

I HATE it when it's just assumed I will wave a magic washing wand and make stuff clean!

billy1966 · 29/03/2023 08:04

FrillyGoatFluff · 28/03/2023 19:49

I'm harsh. I have a DH, DSD11 and DSD17. They're all capable, and lazy with washing. So I'm really strict, otherwise I end up drowning in it, and it's bollocks.

  • If it's not in the basket, it doesn't get washed.
  • If it's on the bathroom floor next to the basket, it doesn't get washed.
  • if it's not in the basket by Friday night, it won't be washed by Sunday afternoon
  • if you decide to dump a load of washing in the basket when it's been emptied, it won't magically appear the next day, you're not living on a cruise ship.
  • If it's clean and folded on the island ready to be taken upstairs, you have 24 hours then it goes in the bin, I don't care what it is (two teenagers are a NIGHTMARE for walking past their piles and ignoring it)
  • I don't care if you have no clean uniform/work shirts/pants and it's Sunday night (when it magically appears from a bedroom). Best get it in the machine yourself and get up early tomorrow to tumble dry it.
  • if it has a spectacular biological stain, don't take the piss. Prewarn me, or stick it in the machine yourself.

I HATE it when it's just assumed I will wave a magic washing wand and make stuff clean!

Absolutely NOTHING harsh about that.

You sound extremely reasonable.

Laundry for a family is a huge constant.

I have found that moving to fleece pj's, fleece/polyester lounge wear for the house during winter made a huge difference to my work.

All sports gear is polyester/fleece/very light.

All the above dry very quickly, in 20 minutes if hung out.

30 in the dryer.

Game changer here.

I found putting them in charge of their heavy cottons like hoodies/jeans etc. meant they wore them far more frequently between washes.

As they shower all the time, I don't see the issue.

Devoutspoken · 29/03/2023 08:07

Both me and my dh do the laundry in our house, we have no rules and no dramas

DifficultBloodyWoman · 29/03/2023 08:10

happysingleversary · 26/03/2023 13:50

Blokes aren’t simple
they bult all the cities and run all the governments

they just get away with what they can

I’ll never live with a man again

Unfortunately, this is correct.

HettyMeg · 29/03/2023 08:27

Don't do his washing. He's a grown man.

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