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Neighbour has told our village I am a thief

419 replies

crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 20:59

NC as obviously outing


Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.

Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.

It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.

He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.

YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth

YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing

OP posts:
kazlau · 25/03/2023 18:29

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

This!!

LaDamaDeElche · 25/03/2023 18:36

If he's named you, you can take legal action. Send him a solicitors letter. That should make him shit his pants. You can't just go around slandering and making defamatory comments on social media and naming people.

Buffs · 25/03/2023 18:42

Post the video. The best way to clearly present the facts without adding to the drama.

Justbefair · 25/03/2023 18:45

What a complete ungrateful arsehole! I'm sure everyone knows what he's like so you could just add your version of events in a polite yet mocking manner. Also add u have video footage if anyone would like to see it. Sowing his own seeds, he will reap his own rewards. Scary and unpleasant for you. Xxx

ReallyTryingTo · 25/03/2023 18:48

Yeah. I'd post it. He's calling you a thief. All you'd be doing is giving the true reflection of what happened.

Snapdragonsoup · 25/03/2023 18:51

I bet the delivery driver delivered to you because they know other neighbours refuse his parcels! Given he has been libellous I would post it up and screenshot his comments in case he removes them to protect yourself against any action or complaint. He sounds awful!

CaveMum · 25/03/2023 19:06

Handy hint for all newcomers to the thread, in the bottom right hand corner of the OP is the option “See All” this will allow you to read only the OPs posts so that you can read the updates and not inadvertently post suggesting that she “post the video/cancel the cheque” almost 24 hours after the thread was first started.

Nootkah · 25/03/2023 19:12

YANBU but please post the link here, I'm way too invested in seeing your awful neighbour taken down a couple of pegs

Pipsquiggle · 25/03/2023 19:20

Well done for responding in such a dignified manner OP. He sounds like an immature dickhead.

I too live in a village and unfortunately you cannot just let things lie if untruths are said about you on a public forum.

I would totally send the ring doorbell footage to the admin of the village fb site, she needs to be warned of him being a twat

ewright86 · 25/03/2023 19:33

I would post it. I’ve been in your position - on the receiving end of Facebook lies in communication groups and it’s not nice when you seem like the bad guy and other people buy into it.

Sillyname63 · 25/03/2023 19:43

I would post it TBH as he has slandered you so why sorry about his feelings.
It Also with out saying never ever take a parcel for him again.

Missingpop · 25/03/2023 19:44

I’d put a post up saying that not true at all & you take the post down & replace apology immediately or you’ll post the full copy of the conversation from your ring doorbell & it will cause him a lot of embarrassment considering how immature he behaved & how pathetic his excuse was. Give him an hour. Then sit back & wait to see how he reacts should have tge twat shitting himself

Pupinski · 25/03/2023 19:56

Don't post the evidence. Just calmly respond to his post stating what happened, as you've explained here. Don't bother replying to any comment he might post in response.

He's obviously two sandwiches short of a picnic and that will be clear to the rest of the village
Your story sounds much more plausible than his, so don't engage in an exchange with him. Take the moral high ground and let him have enough rope to hang himself with (metaphorically speaking of course!).

Evan456 · 25/03/2023 20:14

LaDamaDeElche · 25/03/2023 18:36

If he's named you, you can take legal action. Send him a solicitors letter. That should make him shit his pants. You can't just go around slandering and making defamatory comments on social media and naming people.

This

Twillow · 25/03/2023 20:14

MissHoollie · 24/03/2023 21:01

Ignore it .
They must all know he's unhinged

Exactly what I was going to say.

BMW6 · 25/03/2023 20:24

I'll bet this isn't the first time he's been an absolute arse and everyone is all too aware of his twattery.

Pixiedusty · 25/03/2023 20:25

Gosh so sorry you have to deal with this OP - I'm angry for you! Luckily he's not immediately next door!!

crazyneighbour123 · 25/03/2023 20:45

The admin woman has private messaged me and asked to meet tomorrow to discuss what happened as crazy neighbour has said there is ‘plenty to iron out, including my language’. I’m assuming this is reference to me saying the word ‘bloody’. I have declined and explained that he was out of order and I won’t be engaging any further as I have to live here and then I privately sent her the video. She has just responded with ‘good on you’ and said she will make it clear to him that it was his actions that we’re not acceptable

He is unhinged. I am hoping he looses interest in me as soon as someone else will surely annoy him soon enough

OP posts:
LoisLane66 · 25/03/2023 20:46

@TruJay

This...but I'd make sure that his apology was made on the Facebook page and it was a proper apology, not just 'Sorry'.

cannockcandy · 25/03/2023 20:51

I agree with others. Tell him "take this post down and remove your slanderous and liable comments or I will be forced both to contact my lawyer AND post my Ring Doorbell video so everyone can see what actually happened!

MarvellousMonsters · 25/03/2023 20:59

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Do this.

MaryHinges · 25/03/2023 21:00

crazyneighbour123 · 25/03/2023 20:45

The admin woman has private messaged me and asked to meet tomorrow to discuss what happened as crazy neighbour has said there is ‘plenty to iron out, including my language’. I’m assuming this is reference to me saying the word ‘bloody’. I have declined and explained that he was out of order and I won’t be engaging any further as I have to live here and then I privately sent her the video. She has just responded with ‘good on you’ and said she will make it clear to him that it was his actions that we’re not acceptable

He is unhinged. I am hoping he looses interest in me as soon as someone else will surely annoy him soon enough

Good for you. He's just goading you now, don't take the bait. People like this thrive on neighbour disputes. It's all in his head. Expect him to try and engineer confrontations in public as well. He won't like being humiliated by a woman. Stay strong xx

AlwaysFoldingWashing · 25/03/2023 21:02

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Agree with this

MaryHinges · 25/03/2023 21:03

Jesus Christ they're still not reading the updates are they? 🤣

Hey everyone READ THE FULL THREAD!!

Hopefully that works...

Thisismeyeah · 25/03/2023 21:05

Best thing you can do now is ignore it all and refuse to engage in any kind of conversation with anyone about it. If the woman contacts re this again Id be clear and say you really are not interested in communicating with him as there is little to gain from it. If he obviously wanted to appologise then thats fine you are happy to just forget about it but its already taken up more of your life than it should.

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