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Neighbour has told our village I am a thief

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crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 20:59

NC as obviously outing


Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.

Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.

It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.

He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.

YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth

YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing

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Soapyspuds · 25/03/2023 14:23

He sounds like an utter cock badger. Possible mental issues?

Seriously though. Why would he not answer the door during dinner if expecting a parcel?

shockthemonkey · 25/03/2023 14:24

crazyneighbour123 · 25/03/2023 11:59

It’s gone. The post has been taken down. The Facebook admin woman has put a post up stating that this is a space to make the community aware of positive actions in the community and to discuss ways to improve it. It is not a space to defame residents. She has also stated she is happy to work as a go between for those who have a grievance but this will be done privately. He has blocked me too as I can’t find him on Facebook anymore. However my neighbour has sent me a screenshot of his post this morning that says
‘I’m ignoring you, I don’t want to speak to you and don’t care about you’

Is he about 3yrs old?

IcedBananas · 25/03/2023 14:53

People always know about these types. He’ll have shown himself up so many times. It won’t be the first or the last time for sure. A LOT of people will be eye rolling at him. But your response was perfect. Last thing would be to put the video footage on your own profile and make it public. Try to blank out face of delivery driver. A simple comment ‘In case anyone is still in any doubt here’s the video. Next time he can collect his own parcel or it can sit in the rain. Cheeky fucker’

TrashyPanda · 25/03/2023 14:59

What a silly little man.
I had a nasty experience last week - took in very large parcel (3 foot high, 2 foot wide) for next doors adult so, despite the husband being an abusive prick. Trying to be a decent person. This was about 2pm and itwas blocking my hall.

11am next day, I phoned the son, explains about size, nconvenience and that I saw delivery guy put notice through his folks letter box. He asked me to take it round! I refused, saying it was too big for me. Later got very rude text telling me never to take in anything else. When his mum came back, she came round, very embarrassed (her husband had been in the whole time). I just stood and watched as she struggled with the box.

last time I do anything for them.

longtompot · 25/03/2023 15:28

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 25/03/2023 07:26

In the Art of War, Sun Zhu says if you make an enemy, you must obliterate him totally or he will be emboldened and come back for more trouble.

OK, then, if it's now reached the final Death Or Glory stage, I think the neighbour needs to receive another massive box in the post labelled 'fragile - open indoors on soft surface only' - with 100kg of spring-loaded glitter inside!

🤣🤣🪩🧨

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/03/2023 15:47

crazyneighbour123 · 25/03/2023 11:59

It’s gone. The post has been taken down. The Facebook admin woman has put a post up stating that this is a space to make the community aware of positive actions in the community and to discuss ways to improve it. It is not a space to defame residents. She has also stated she is happy to work as a go between for those who have a grievance but this will be done privately. He has blocked me too as I can’t find him on Facebook anymore. However my neighbour has sent me a screenshot of his post this morning that says
‘I’m ignoring you, I don’t want to speak to you and don’t care about you’

Sounds she was supportive towards you

JFDIYOLO · 25/03/2023 15:48

My vengeful reaction would be - post everywhere and expose him for what he is. However ...

My sensible grownup response would be - send the recording to the group admin with your statement that his post they are hosting is slander/libel.

And that before you consult your solicitor re taking legal action, you're giving them the fair opportunity to remove his post, publish a full apology which you will approve before publication, and remove him from the group.

Lies cause personal, professional and reputational harm.

If this is not resolved to your satisfaction you will have no option but to take it to court.

Let us know ...

JFDIYOLO · 25/03/2023 15:49

.. just noticed it's gone 👏👏👏

MaryHinges · 25/03/2023 16:33

crazyneighbour123 · 25/03/2023 11:59

It’s gone. The post has been taken down. The Facebook admin woman has put a post up stating that this is a space to make the community aware of positive actions in the community and to discuss ways to improve it. It is not a space to defame residents. She has also stated she is happy to work as a go between for those who have a grievance but this will be done privately. He has blocked me too as I can’t find him on Facebook anymore. However my neighbour has sent me a screenshot of his post this morning that says
‘I’m ignoring you, I don’t want to speak to you and don’t care about you’

Well done. I wouldn't take up her offer as a go between because it might inflate his ego and make him feel important. The admin clearly didn't take kindly to him using her page to skag you off. His reaction sounds like a scolded 5 year old child who's had his toys taken away. He's made himself look a complete idiot to the whole community 🤣

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 25/03/2023 17:13

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

This is good advice, neighbour sounds like a dick.

MaryHinges · 25/03/2023 17:14

I want to know what village this is so I can bury dead frogs and take parcels in lol

TaysideTeuchter · 25/03/2023 17:20

Emotionalsupportviper · 25/03/2023 12:41

However my neighbour has sent me a screenshot of his post this morning that says 
‘I’m ignoring you, I don’t want to speak to you and don’t care about you’

I'm so sorry @crazyneighbour123

You must be heartbroken.

<proffers hankie>

🤣🤣🤣

Ifrozethehoumous · 25/03/2023 17:47

He sounds like a right pig. I'd post the video whether or not he can see it. It's your reputation you are defending. Be prepared for further repercussions though - nasty people like him don't shut up easily. He's nuts.

Bekstar · 25/03/2023 17:56

Post it I would and keep us all updated

Isinglass20 · 25/03/2023 18:01

OnlyFannys

I agree with this post. In responding op will add fuel to the fire and what he intended. The best way is to ignore and don’t take any more deliveries.

MaryHinges · 25/03/2023 18:02

Perhaps nobody read the update? It's already been posted.

Crancod · 25/03/2023 18:03

I’d absolutely cancel the cheque.

Penny1979 · 25/03/2023 18:05

This. He then has the chance to respond or delete his post. This is the best way to handle someone who like him who would probably complain about filming him without his consent or some other flimsy excuse to get at you.

Penny1979 · 25/03/2023 18:05

Thanks! I should have read the whole thread 😆 🤣

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 25/03/2023 18:08

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

This is what I'd do. Maybe with a screen grab / still image from the video.

Also, do you have video of the delivery driver ASKING you to take in the parcel.

Don't let him get away with this. tag the local police while you are at it.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 25/03/2023 18:11

Sorry, should have read the whole thread.
Post it on your own page anyway. I'd be irritated with the admin.

T1Dmama · 25/03/2023 18:14

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

100% this

oosha · 25/03/2023 18:26

I would post it for everyone to hear and see the behaviour

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