Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

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Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

1. certainly not too much food
2. how fucking rude of her!

Are you in the healthy bmi range? If yes, then cracked on. If not, you may want to think a bit more about what you eat.

I can't be bothered to read what you eat, nor is it relevant. Kick her out. You don't need people negging you in your own home.

How old are you? I’d have been starving all the time if I’d eaten that little as a healthy, youngish adult.

anywat, how rude is she? Tell her to mind her own business or somewhere else to live.

YANBU, she’s not your parent and you are an adult, not a toddler. None of her business.

Your diet sounds lovely!

I'm not sure you're going to be happy with such a rude and critical lodger though.

It doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks it’s too much or too little. You can eat what you like!

What isn’t acceptable is policing other people’s choices. I would be very clear with your lodger that it’s not appropriate to comment on other people’s food choices, and you don’t want to hear it again, and then carry on exactly as you are.

Is she from a weight shaming culture?

She’s rude. And unpleasant.

I would ask her to move out asap.

She’s not going to suddenly get nicer from there.

if you’re genuinely concerned about portion sizes ask someone in real life but your meal content etc are obviously fine and reasonable.

Give her notice.

She needs to find a house to live in, where the owner will appreciate her unasked for opinions.

That sounds really rude of her but made me laugh! No, of course that isn't too much. Are you medically overweight or do you have any health concerns that would be relevant here? Regardless of this, it's none of her business. Could this be a cultural thing? I've lived overseas and had friends from the Phillipines and China who would be extremely brutal about weight and eating...all of them as slim as anything and with a love of food. It was always light-hearted and a chance to have a banter and eat even more.

It’s irrelevant it’s none of her business. Are you slim? I’ve had it at work from dickhead blokes ooh you’ll get fat.

Good thing she only needs a couple of weeks notice to leave your home. Cheeky cow.

Is there cultural differences. I know couple friends not form uk who are very blunt around food consumption.

I'd be getting rid of her nothing wrong with what you eat ❤️ she sounds awful!

The cheek!

Reply “you criticise too much. Always criticising criticising criticising. You will get homeless when you're criticising like this all the time”

Seriously though, I hope you're not going to allow a lodger make you feel bad in your own home?

This.

So you had porridge, a Sandwich, sausages and veg and a snack - nope

she’s rude

I think the list of food is irrelevant. I think the key questions are

Are you overweight? If yes then you eat too much for your activity levels.

Even if you were overweight, is it any of her business? The only way I can see how it would be is if you were always moaning about your weight. Even then she could have been more tactful.

It sounds like she overstepped.

Absolutely agree. Outrageous behaviour.

Just tell her you’ve thought about what she said and yes, you do like your food but with the cost of living crisis it’s hard to maintain the amount you want to eat so her rents going up

Yeah they're from a different culture

This. Don't share your home with such a judgemental person.

Wow! Very rude! She would probably pass out knowing I happily eat at least 4 sausages and sometimes 5.

Doesn't matter. It's rude regardless.