Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

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Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

She'd be looking for a new room if she was my lodger😘

Fucking hell you are asking all the wrong questions OP.
You don't need to list your food consumption here
You don't need permission or validation from other people.
You are an adult. What you eat is your business & nobody else's.

What you DO need is a new lodger.
“you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

"Lodger - you are in my house too much. Always here, here, here. You are getting notice to stop being here all the time. Kindly leave by 7th April."

Follow up with written notice, job done.

How rude. I would be saying “and you’re always talking. Talking, talking, talking. You’ll be homeless if you keep talking like that.”

Missing the point, but could you share your recipe for the lentil & fennel stew :)

Haha, she and her comments can fuck off. You're eating fine. Even if you weren't, none of her business.

Love it 😂

I’m itching to know where she’s from I would put money on the continent, possible even the country.

Seconded!

Is she from a different culture? Some cultures have no qualms about saying these kind of things as it’s seen as more acceptable.

It sounds pretty healthy to me. I also notice that she said you "will get fat", so even if it was anyone else's business what shape you are, she doesn't think you are fat already. If she stopped to think about it for even one minute, she would surely realise that if you're an adult, old enough to have a lodger, and you've been eating this style for a long time and your shape is still acceptable to her now, you must be doing something right.

I love the sound of all of your food by the way - wish I was your lodger!

Brilliant!

I'm not even looking at the food list, because it is none of her business what you eat.

If anyone sat in my house telling me I eat too much and I'm going to get fat, they would be looking for a new place to stay immediately.

Off she fucks.

'you eat too much'

You talk too much mate

I can't believe you've listed what you eat rather than telling her to mind her own business. can't believe the cheek of some people

Unless someone is paying for your food, it's none of their business what you eat in your own home

It is but it at least their rudeness is more understandable if it’s a culture that tends to be blunt about about these things. Still totally unacceptable though.

She's not British is she? Maybe she doesn't have the same hang ups about food as Brits seem too and is just saying what she sees. Clutching at straws...

I’d be telling her…
she only needs to worry about how much I eat when she is the one buying my food. Until then, wind your neck in. I hope you’re not this rude to your next host. You have one months notice!

I'd tell her to wind her neck in pretty fast. Your diet sounds fine, but even if you were mainlining Mars bars it isn't her place to say.

I wonder if she's from a culture where people are more direct. However, I'd still tell her to zip it.

Very rude of her to comment!
Is she a close friend lodger who you have a relationship with where you're totally honest rude to each other?

It doesn’t matter what you eat op or how much! Your lodger is bloody rude!

Seems a good amount and healthy. I think because it's a lot of veg it might seem a big amount? But obviously less calories than if you are a burger and fries.

oh jeez, my mum tells me i'm constantly eating like this (I eat way more than you've listed there) but she also fails to realise that i'm considerably taller than her, a lot younger than her, and do a lot more exercise than her. I also have IBS and find it suits me to eat little and often so while she'd have something like soup and a bread roll followed by fruit and a yogurt at lunchtime, I'd have the soup and bread roll at lunch and eat fruit and yogurt mid afternoon....so in total i might not eat that much more but I spread it out more throughout the day. It drives me mad when people comment about what I eat. i'm not overweight and I exercise a lot so get hungry! It's just rude and unnecessary.

@Greyflowers 😂😂😂