Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

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Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

Seems fine to me

Lots of snacking full of sugars and low quality carbs. Not a lot of fresh fruit. Lots of tea and coffees causing acid attacks on your teeth.

I think they are just making an observation that you seem to be grabbing snacks and drinks regularly. What they said was rude though so YANBU.

Not sure why she has you doubting yourself enough to type out what you've eaten for a few days!

She can sod off with her judgemental shit.

I learned never to comment on people's food after I told a colleague her lunch (a whole pineapple that she was cutting up) looked delicious.

She said it made her really uncomfortable.

What your lodger said was really rude, no matter how much you eat.

She'd be finding herself homeless if she was my lodger. Rude twat.

Yabu to only eat 2 sausages. You need at least 3.

I want to downvote swede 🤢

I'm not reading your detailed list of food because it isn't relevant. She's rude and inappropriate.

I bet she is from the same culture as me, as I have grown up here I don’t do this but some of my relatives would have no qualms telling you. If you are over a size 10 possibly and certainly a 12 you would be considered fat. I went to a family wedding, I was easily the biggest at a size 10, I’m post menopause and mid fifties.

Get a decent Five Guys delivered tonight. Eat it in front of them and give her notice to go.

Jesus Christmas this.
You do not need to tell us your food intake!
Noone gets to say this.
P.s is thus a performative I eat too little bravo thread.
P.ss it DOES NOT matter what you bmi is or what you eat.

How much or what you eat isn't the issue imo, you feel undermined by a comment your lodger made. If you find this is a repeating problem then get a new lodger.

These foreign chappies might seem rude to us but more than likely she's just making banal conversation, the way we might talk about the weather.

Not too much at all! Sounds like a decent diet with loads of veg. I hate it when people comment on my food or how much I eat, my boss does it sometimes - like "wow, are you going to eat that whole huge piece of feta??".

How much you eat is irrelevant, that's a really fucking rude thing to say! In your own home as well. If she says something again you should point out how rude she is being and tell her to mind her own business.

I couldn't be arsed having someone so rude living in my home. I'd ask her to leave ASAP.

Doesn't matter what you eat, it's up to you and nobody has the right to tell you that (unless you have sought medical /professional opinion)

Next time she says anything just call her out

hay Jessie no need to be so rude, i don’t comment on what you eat. Remember you are a lodger not a friend or family. Don’t be rude again

if she is give her notice and get someone else

Your diet is perfectly fine, even if it wasn't no one has the right to comment on your food intake, shes a judgemental twat, get rid

She should not have commented obviously but would never have crossed her mind it was rude.

I would be DELIGHTED if that were my diet OP! Mine is horrific!

She needs to close her beak, the neck of her.

Is she normally this rude?

Sound like a healthy diet to me! All that veg and seeds, we're all aloud a treat now and again too. what does she eat?!

Even if you are lodger can do one. So rude. You never comment on people's eating jab it's unless invited to. You never if some has an earring disorder or is in recovery for one.
I'd be thankful lodgers have very few rights as tenants and be looking for another one.

(May sound extreme from one comment but it would make me feel too aware/ uncomfortable eating in my own home and that just won't do!)

People from all sorts of different cultures can be intentionally rude.