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AIBU to think this man (who has undergone no transitioning) should be allow play on women's teams. Sick to my stomach this is happening.

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Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 07:43

https://extra.ie/2022/09/09/news/transgender-gaa-player-speaks-out

This man (in red) has undergone no attempt to transition. Yet he's playing on women's GAA football teams in Ireland because he feels he's a woman.
Imagine him tackling a poor woman would have no chance. Prior to that he played women's rugby.
Why is this happening in women's sports, prisons, changing rooms, toilets.
Why are trans women's rights more important than ours.
This man (who is in no way a woman or even a trans woman) needs to play with a team where the rest of the players have penises too or else start his own trans league. Get out of women's sports & spaces.

transgender

Transgender GAA Player: 'I Wish To Leave Lasting Legacy'

Transgender GAA player Giulia Valentino has broken her silence after a controversy erupted when a referee said she couldn't continue playing because of her

https://extra.ie/2022/09/09/news/transgender-gaa-player-speaks-out

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TheKeatingFive · 24/03/2023 12:51

Stonewall is very well funded. They could be ploughing millions into third space provision.

Why aren't they?

Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 12:52

@TheKeatingFive they just want to be in women's spaces & faces.. It's a joke.

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Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 12:53

Again kudos to mumsnet this week for keeping up the discussions. Common sense is prevailing finally.

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FOJN · 24/03/2023 12:55

TheKeatingFive · 24/03/2023 12:51

Stonewall is very well funded. They could be ploughing millions into third space provision.

Why aren't they?

Too busy trying to make out that trans people have been banned from playing sport whilst giving very little attention to Uganda which has just introduced the death penalty for homosexuality.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 24/03/2023 12:58

The thing is @whatkatydid2013 back in the day before we realised how unrelenting TRA demands would be, many of us are where you are now

‘surely if we’re all reasonable we can find a solution, third spaces’ etc but then we realised that the relentless threats, anger, encroaching on women’s spaces was a feature not a bug

i think it was Datun who really crystallised this and she puts it much better than me but essentially the point of the spaces is the women in them. Without women in the room, it’s just a room. They need women to be in the space too for it to be validating. Hence the likes of Hannah mountcey being so angry at being asked to shower separately or the TW at work who when they found out women were using a different toilet to them (because you know not wanting to share with a man) tried to force them to use the same toilet as they did.

they don’t want third spaces, they want womens spaces

Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 12:59

FOJN · 24/03/2023 12:55

Too busy trying to make out that trans people have been banned from playing sport whilst giving very little attention to Uganda which has just introduced the death penalty for homosexuality.

@TheKeatingFive you're so right. They're too concerned about their first world problems 🙄
What's happening in Uganda is absolutely horrific.

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ChateauMargaux · 24/03/2023 13:01

In 2021, the Sports Council Equality Group who represent the governing bodies of Sport England, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland said:
'Competitive fairness cannot be reconciled with self-identification into the female category in gender- affected sport.'
'sports should retain sex categorisation'
'testosterone suppression is unlikely to guarantee fairness between transgender women and natal females in gender-affected sports:',
‘Case-by-case’ assessment is unlikely to be practical nor verifiable for entry'
'Categorisation by sex is lawful, and hence the requirement to request information relating to birth sex is appropriate.'

Any UK sporting organisation permitting trans identifying male persons from competing in female sport should be challenged based on the guidance from SCEG.

The example in the OP is from Ireland, where self id has been in place for somtime and no such guidance exists.

CandyLeBonBon · 24/03/2023 13:07

@BoogieFun

'...And a biological male Autistic person who waa seeking treatment to transition who told me they wanted to transition because 'women are much better at being empathic and understanding other people's feelings'.
*
So to me, their desire to transition was because being a 'woman' would magically stop them from having the social communication, interaction and imagination difficulties that were part of their ASC. And they have sensory things and just preferences where they liked soft fabrics so thought that wanting to wear silks, satins and the physical freedom of shirts and dresses so they meant they must really be a woman?'*

Yes. I think this is very possibly what's going on. Thankyou for putting into words what was a nebulous mess in my head!

Sassyfox · 24/03/2023 13:07

There have been a couple of instances where women (wrongly or rightly) have been banned from playing because their natural testosterone levels are too high and it would be unfair.

Yet there are men who are allowed to compete who have had years of much higher testosterone levels and benefitted from the effects of it their entire lives.

It is very unfair.

ThreeblackCats · 24/03/2023 13:07

Just remember dear Mumsnetters, that ‘men’ who can only win at sport by pretending they identify as ‘women’ are basically just shit at their chosen sport and the only way they can hope to win is by playing as the gentle sex!
So a 19 stone woman called Rita instead of Peter who still sports a full beard is just a rubbish footballer/cyclist/ swimmer.

Abitofalark · 24/03/2023 13:11

gencritdd · 24/03/2023 08:31

I think your title reads wrong?

It certainly reads long.

turbonerd · 24/03/2023 13:14

Nanny0gg · 24/03/2023 12:49

How is that the same thing at all?

Gay people are not suffering from a mental illness or body dysphoria. They want to be who they are. They also don't want to take away anyone else's rights. Transpeople want to be who they're not. What does being a woman or a man actually mean?

And biologically they WILL always be the sex they were born.

Exactly. Well said.

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Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 13:17

Joanna Harper, scientist and trans athlete speaks to Kate Varley as the World Athletics Council announces they are to ban transwomen from participating in female category events; Prof Donal O'Shea, Endocrinologist, also gives his reaction to the decision.

Please watch the above link & see the trans propaganda that is currently ruling Irish media

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Curiosity101 · 24/03/2023 13:17

It all feels very much like a grey area to me. At what part are you womanly enough to play with biological women? I don't have a strong enough opinion either way on it because I know men that have transitioned or are transitioning who I would not want to be excluded, but equally appreciate that a man could claim to be transgender for nefarious reasons and that in sports this definitely could confer some unfair advantages to the person who has transitioned.

If the issue was just physical safety in a contact sport then theoretically it'd be sensible to impose size limits (upper and lower) or introduce weight categories similar to boxing? Cause you could still have large biological women playing on teams with very small biological women.

FOJN · 24/03/2023 13:21

Clip from morning Ireland which had a transgender scientist in to say science backs up trans playing in women's sports. No woman athlete on air to give a woman's perspective

Well he's wrong.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40279-020-01389-3

There are now many more studies which prove men maintain their advantage from male puberty and higher testosterone levels even after taking female hormones and suppressing testosterone.

Transgender Women in the Female Category of Sport: Perspectives on Testosterone Suppression and Performance Advantage - Sports Medicine

Males enjoy physical performance advantages over females within competitive sport. The sex-based segregation into male and female sporting categories does not account for transgender persons who experience incongruence between their biological sex and...

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40279-020-01389-3

Weallgottachangesometime · 24/03/2023 13:22

Curiosity101 · 24/03/2023 13:17

It all feels very much like a grey area to me. At what part are you womanly enough to play with biological women? I don't have a strong enough opinion either way on it because I know men that have transitioned or are transitioning who I would not want to be excluded, but equally appreciate that a man could claim to be transgender for nefarious reasons and that in sports this definitely could confer some unfair advantages to the person who has transitioned.

If the issue was just physical safety in a contact sport then theoretically it'd be sensible to impose size limits (upper and lower) or introduce weight categories similar to boxing? Cause you could still have large biological women playing on teams with very small biological women.

The thing is there is a multitude of physical advantages that males have over women in sport not just height and weight, there are hormonal, lung, bones density etc.

A 5ft male runner would beat a 5ft female runner because of all the other advantages being male includes.

Is it realistically possible to check all those things and put people into categories on the basis of all the different biological advantages. No.

Weallgottachangesometime · 24/03/2023 13:26

I’m having some back and forth on TT about this at the moment. I really struggle with the basic premise of the argument that seems to be that sex isn’t that important in sport.

Yet when you ask basic questions there is no logical answer…

*If sex isn’t relevant then why do men outperform women in almost every sport. I literally can’t think of any, where the male and female sport is the same, where females outperform men.

*If some people believe that sex isn’t relevant why would you ask for transwomen to be admitted to the female category instead of asking for all sex categories to be abolished.

*If trans hormone treatment make that much difference where are all the tea males competing in male sports and beating the best times.

Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 13:27

@FOJN its so frustrating as an Irish woman that we weren't given a voice re the Athletics ban. We heard from a transgender scientist & a male doctor. It was like women didn't exist.

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Happylittlechicken · 24/03/2023 13:29

It all feels very much like a grey area to me. At what part are you womanly enough to play with biological women?

when you’re female. HTH 😀

Helleofabore · 24/03/2023 13:33

Sassyfox · 24/03/2023 13:07

There have been a couple of instances where women (wrongly or rightly) have been banned from playing because their natural testosterone levels are too high and it would be unfair.

Yet there are men who are allowed to compete who have had years of much higher testosterone levels and benefitted from the effects of it their entire lives.

It is very unfair.

To be clear though, these are NOT female athletes at all.

No woman has a 'natural testosterone' level that is 'too high' for playing sport. They are male people with differences of sex development. But they are definitely male. And most likely have realised they were male from puberty.

And therefore to be very blunt, which you may not like to hear, there is very little difference except they may have, or may not have after puberty, been brought up a woman.

Unfortunately the media has stated they are 'women' but they are not. These males though have made the choice to compete when they know they are not female and that if a female took testosterone they would be banned.

WickedSerious · 24/03/2023 13:35

Mommymoments · 24/03/2023 09:17

The first thing I would do is get him psychologically assessed. Then explain to him he'll always be a man no matter what mutilation road he goes down. I wouldn't be sugar coating it to appear a liberal, woke, mother. He'd get the hard facts & a few trips to the psychologist.

If my son wanted to 'live as a woman' I'd insist that he lived as me for a couple of weeks.

Not that he'd last a couple of weeks.

FOJN · 24/03/2023 13:36

Curiosity101 · 24/03/2023 13:17

It all feels very much like a grey area to me. At what part are you womanly enough to play with biological women? I don't have a strong enough opinion either way on it because I know men that have transitioned or are transitioning who I would not want to be excluded, but equally appreciate that a man could claim to be transgender for nefarious reasons and that in sports this definitely could confer some unfair advantages to the person who has transitioned.

If the issue was just physical safety in a contact sport then theoretically it'd be sensible to impose size limits (upper and lower) or introduce weight categories similar to boxing? Cause you could still have large biological women playing on teams with very small biological women.

A man can never be womanly. He can adopt a feminine presentation but he can not adopt a womanly presentation. A woman will alway be female no matter how masculine she presents.

Why do you think the male transitioners you know should not be excluded?

What would be your criteria for inclusion/exclusion?

How can we tell the difference between a man pretending to be trans and someone more sincere in their identity?

A man will always be stronger and faster than a woman of a similar size and age. Men in their late 40's are trouncing female cyclists who are at the peak of fitness and in their 20's.

MMA fighters are separated into weight categories and yet a trans fighter fractured the skull of a female opponent.

https://www.sportskeeda.com/mma/news-when-transgender-fighter-fallon-fox-broke-opponent-s-skull-mma-fight

When transgender fighter Fallon Fox broke her opponent's skull in MMA fight

Fallon Fox, the first MMA fighter to come out as transgender, once fractured the skull of her opponent in an MMA fight in 2014.

https://www.sportskeeda.com/mma/news-when-transgender-fighter-fallon-fox-broke-opponent-s-skull-mma-fight

FourTeaFallOut · 24/03/2023 13:38

Living as a woman certainly doesn't seem to include pulling your weight in unpaid labour.

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