Just after some advice really.
Reality has hit. Financially I’m in a crap position.
I’ve been a SAHM for the last 9 years. My partner runs his own business so I’m terms of pension (in my 30s) the plan was when the business makes more we would invest the money. I’m not married . We have two kids primary school age.
we have a house and a mortgage on it. My name is on the mortgage too.
he pays majority of bills.
I'm after advice . Where do I stand? How do I start saving for a pension? I’m employed by the business part time and that will continue because his business partner is a decent man who wouldn’t see me out of pocket.
the car I drive is under his name and he pays for it. He won’t see me without a car because he needs me to do the school runs.
I don’t want to sell the house because it would mean disruption to the kids lives.
Financially we are stronger as long as we live in the house together and work together but I’m not interested in a relationship.
reality has hit in terms of me being in a stupid financial situation.
I ask you please not to judge. I’m quite fragile.
and no I don’t want to work on the relationship. He did the same thing when I was pregnant with my first child.
I don’t want to waste the energy on repairing the relationship. I just need to grow the fudge up and accept this is him and that I need to be independent from him,
just not in a way it will affect the kids.
thank you in advance x