DSS 17 is away college
Come home for the weekend as usual and went out drinking. At 2.30 made an almighty racket coming in drunk which woke us up
After 15 minutes we could hear him having sex. He'd brought a girl home.
After 30 minutes of this they came out of the room to the bathroom next to my bedroom giggling. By now I was bloody annoyed so I jumped out of bed and went out of the room. He's in his boxers she's naked going into the bathroom.
I told him to keep it down and that they were taking the piss. He apologised and said they were going to bed. I said I've heard you "being in bed" for the last half an hour.
We have no idea who this girl is. AIBU to be cheesed off. I found it massively disrespectful, not only did they wake us up which happens a lot when he goes out but to bring a strange girl home and have noisy sex then walk around undressed outside our room. What if DH had gone to speak to them. My DD was in bed in the room next to them too.
Is this acceptable for teenage boys?
AIBU?
DSS Brought random girl home
HappyMothersDayLadiesofMN · 19/03/2023 08:26
Jarstastic · 19/03/2023 10:11
Yes, not a great position for DH to be in.
Although the age of consent is 16, vulnerable children is under 18. This applies to nude photos on phones etc
If the girl is under 18 and anything came up whether relating to DSS or DH, social services would be knocking on OP’s door.
Daisybee6 · 19/03/2023 09:44
A naked teenage girl?
Blossomtoes · 19/03/2023 09:40
What if DH had gone to speak to them.
Has he never seen a naked woman before?
Divorcedalongtime · 19/03/2023 11:06
I always get surprised at these threads which come up again and again. At 17 they are going to have sex. If it happens every single night and they wake you up every time then yes that is annoying a one off now and again, you at being massively unreasonable
Anoisagusaris · 19/03/2023 09:10
I think it’s sad that 17 years are having sex with strangers/random people they meet on a night out. I don’t care if people think that’s an old fashioned view.
BumpySkull · 19/03/2023 09:00
Ah, it’s going to be one of those threads where the OP isn’t getting the responses she wants so changes the story to garner more support. Cool.
In the OP: Come home for the weekend as usual and went out drinking
The comments: Not surprising behaviour when you let him out drinking every weekend.
In the drip feed: The drinking thing is infrequent thankfully
Is it “as usual” or “infrequent”? 🙄
Jarstastic · 19/03/2023 10:34
there was a recent thread by an OP whose 17-year old got in bf’s mums car and started it and knocked into another car. and even on that the police completed a Merlin report.
presumably social services didn’t do anything in that case. a middle aged man and a naked teenage girl under 18 on a landing, why invite this into your life.
TheFireflies · 19/03/2023 10:20
No, they really wouldn’t.
And unless he was going to be taking photos of the girl during their random chance encounter on the landing, the police wouldn’t be interested either.
Jarstastic · 19/03/2023 10:11
Yes, not a great position for DH to be in.
Although the age of consent is 16, vulnerable children is under 18. This applies to nude photos on phones etc
If the girl is under 18 and anything came up whether relating to DSS or DH, social services would be knocking on OP’s door.
Daisybee6 · 19/03/2023 09:44
A naked teenage girl?
Blossomtoes · 19/03/2023 09:40
What if DH had gone to speak to them.
Has he never seen a naked woman before?
Workinghardeveryday · 19/03/2023 09:12
Op I am with you on this.
I don’t want any random strangers sleeping in my home, and I certainly don’t want to hear them having sex!!
You have been understanding and patient with him going out and coming back late drunk or otherwise.
I have a 17 year old dd and I would feel exactly the same. I would be fuming if she did that wether she is male or female.
and I don’t get the pp over splitting hairs if he was drinking or not, he is 17 ffs, we all got pissed at that age. That is completely different to bringing home a one night stand
Soontobe60 · 19/03/2023 11:23
‘Coming home for the weekend as usual’ and ‘went out drinking’ doesn’t necessarily mean he usually went out drinking. It could mean he came home as usual but this particular weekend he also went out drinking. Inference is everything.
BumpySkull · 19/03/2023 09:00
Ah, it’s going to be one of those threads where the OP isn’t getting the responses she wants so changes the story to garner more support. Cool.
In the OP: Come home for the weekend as usual and went out drinking
The comments: Not surprising behaviour when you let him out drinking every weekend.
In the drip feed: The drinking thing is infrequent thankfully
Is it “as usual” or “infrequent”? 🙄
Skeuomorph · 19/03/2023 10:49
Anyway, to answer the question.
I do think bringing a stranger into the house late at night and making enough noise to wake people up is disrespectful.
That said, he was a honey drunk teenager, so not exactly thinking with his brain.
I’d have a chat with him when he’s sober and start agreeing some ground rules. Personally, given he has his own bed to bring girls to at uni, I’d be implementing a full ban on random overnight guests.
I’m curious to know why they were heading to the bathroom together, though.
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