DSS 17 is away college
Come home for the weekend as usual and went out drinking. At 2.30 made an almighty racket coming in drunk which woke us up
After 15 minutes we could hear him having sex. He'd brought a girl home.
After 30 minutes of this they came out of the room to the bathroom next to my bedroom giggling. By now I was bloody annoyed so I jumped out of bed and went out of the room. He's in his boxers she's naked going into the bathroom.
I told him to keep it down and that they were taking the piss. He apologised and said they were going to bed. I said I've heard you "being in bed" for the last half an hour.
We have no idea who this girl is. AIBU to be cheesed off. I found it massively disrespectful, not only did they wake us up which happens a lot when he goes out but to bring a strange girl home and have noisy sex then walk around undressed outside our room. What if DH had gone to speak to them. My DD was in bed in the room next to them too.
Is this acceptable for teenage boys?
AIBU?
DSS Brought random girl home
HappyMothersDayLadiesofMN · 19/03/2023 08:26
Ihatethenewlook · 19/03/2023 09:38
I did lots of fun things when I was 17. That didn’t include going out and getting pissed, bringing back a bit of strange to my parents house and noisily shagging their brains out with the whole house listening. And then walking round bollock naked post-sex for my parents to see. And then laughing about it. That’s fucking appalling behaviour from anyone, but clearly we have different standards. If it’s so nice and fun and normal then why is the op complaining about it?
Workinghardeveryday · 19/03/2023 09:18
Oh please! Don’t be ridiculous!!
You clearly didn’t do anything fun when you were growing up did you? Sorry to hear that.
Newsflash - a lot of 17 year old do go out and socialise in the pub while having fun.
The op isn’t a bad parent, she is a good one for understanding this.
I went to the pub when I was a teenager, had a great time, very happy memories of my teenage years actually.
Him going out and getting pissed isn’t the issue, it’s the strange girl in his bed and his lack of boundaries over this.
Ihatethenewlook · 19/03/2023 09:14
This. He’s still a child. There’s clearly been such a total lack of boundaries during his upbringing that he finds such disrespectful and disgusting behaviour funny. And the op apparently thinks it’s normal. So not sure what she’s complaining about tbh.
TheScreams · 19/03/2023 08:40
If you’re happy for him to go out underage drinking until 2am then it’s hardly surprising the behaviour that goes with it. Yes, most teens drink underage but most parents don’t encourage it, especially not until that time or every week. He was disrespectful but it’s not surprising really. Drunk people and children don’t tend to have the best awareness of how loud they’re being - combine those two things and I’m not surprised they were loud without realising it.
laviniapurpletips · 19/03/2023 09:10
Totally read this as came home for the weekend as usual AND went out drinking. Meaning the coming home for weekend was the usual part but not the drinking.
It's becoming a minefield for anyone considering posting a new thread on here.
TheFireflies · 19/03/2023 10:20
No, they really wouldn’t.
And unless he was going to be taking photos of the girl during their random chance encounter on the landing, the police wouldn’t be interested either.
Jarstastic · 19/03/2023 10:11
Yes, not a great position for DH to be in.
Although the age of consent is 16, vulnerable children is under 18. This applies to nude photos on phones etc
If the girl is under 18 and anything came up whether relating to DSS or DH, social services would be knocking on OP’s door.
Daisybee6 · 19/03/2023 09:44
A naked teenage girl?
Blossomtoes · 19/03/2023 09:40
What if DH had gone to speak to them.
Has he never seen a naked woman before?
longwayoff · 19/03/2023 10:27
17 is underage drinking? Is it? What's the cut off age? I dont have any teens and dont go to pubs or bars.
DaveyJonesLocker · 19/03/2023 10:18
I'm far from prudish or whatever but no way would DS be bringing one night stands to my house at 17 years old, or ever, and shagging loudly with his (non existent as yet) little sister in the next room.
Bang out of order. Bring your girlfriend over and have quiet sex all you like. But you do not bring strangers into my house and wake us all up listening to you shag.
Also, why the hell are you cooking dinner on mother's day? Fuck that.
raspberrywine · 19/03/2023 10:36
OP, how old is your daughter? That's a factor too.
Anoisagusaris · 19/03/2023 09:10
I think it’s sad that 17 years are having sex with strangers/random people they meet on a night out. I don’t care if people think that’s an old fashioned view.
HappyMothersDayLadiesofMN · 19/03/2023 09:19
Thank you. I was starting to doubt myself for a second
Anoisagusaris · 19/03/2023 09:09
Some of you can’t read! OP said he came home for the weekend as usual. And went drinking. Coming home for the weekend is the ‘as usual’ bit, not the drinking.
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Anoisagusaris · 19/03/2023 09:10
I think it’s sad that 17 years are having sex with strangers/random people they meet on a night out. I don’t care if people think that’s an old fashioned view.
HappyMothersDayLadiesofMN · 19/03/2023 09:26
We will be having a conversation when he gets up. I just wanted to be sure is wasn't being a boring old fart about it.
I don't want naked teenagers outside my bedroom, I'd already made it obvious someone was awake so common sense should have told them they'd woken us up and not to walk around in that state.
DH would have had a heart attack if he'd seen her.
LakieLady · 19/03/2023 09:24
The girl may not have been a stranger to OP's DS though, just because the OP doesn't know her. When I was that age, my DPs only knew my closest friends, they had no idea who else I was friends with.
This is especially true in a small town like mine, where most kids go to the same secondary school. When my friend had a stern word with her then 18YO about bringing home a "random" girl, he quickly pointed out that they'd known each other since they were 11.
Anoisagusaris · 19/03/2023 09:10
I think it’s sad that 17 years are having sex with strangers/random people they meet on a night out. I don’t care if people think that’s an old fashioned view.
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