DH organized nothing for tomorrow

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Just found out DH has not organised anything for tomorrow. He did this once before but it was just as Covid hit so I wasn’t too upset, hard to go into shops etc and Amazon deliveries all over the place. I’d mentioned something I’d like to him and DD. DS is too little to know. DD tried to advise DH on this and they ordered something totally awful online last week. DD let slip and I told her that maybe she and DH might want to swap it as she’d misinterpreted what I’d said… Said something to DH now about looking forward to what they’d chosen as an alternative once the misunderstanding had been cleared up and he told me they hadn’t got anything else. DD now crying as DH didn’t sort anything else. She is also too young to go to shops alone.

AIBU to think DH is crap? I always get him ace presents and bought gifts and cards for both my DM and his!

Sorry you’re being absolutely ridiculous! the fact that you’re expecting the ‘perfect’
gift!?

you havent said how old DD is but assume young that she cant fo shops and you have made her cry because she can’t do anything about the gift that wasn’t up to your standard?

Yeh I’m with this.
however I do believe what’s important is enjoying the day- be it time with the family or without for a break- buying things just isn’t important

YABU. Your DD tried to do something nice for you, you should have accepted her gift with good grace. You could always have talked to DH about it later.

For my birthday DH took DS out, who picked me a truly hideous cheap bracelet. I’d never dream of letting him know I don’t like it.

DS asked me what I’d like for tomorrow, and I said maybe some flowers and a big cuddle. It’s the thought that counts - so as long as your DD tried to do something nice for you, that’s what matters.

Stop making a big fuss of your DH on Father’s Day if he’s not able to reciprocate as you see fit. Job done.

@RedToothBrush totally agree and cba myself as a mother but MIL literally cries if people don't get her something

From your title I thought you were getting nothing tomorrow which btw is what I'll be getting from H and 2 DCs. I've learnt to not be bothered.

Why on earth do you think you should get a gift? Do you know what Mothering Sunday actually is? A card and a few daffodils is more than enough.

What age is your DD?

I wouldn't have told her to swap it because that's ungrateful and she tried.

Huh?

I'm confused.

How do you know what gift they got you?

Surely you'd receive it tomorrow, plaster a smile on for your children and that's that?

Mother's Day doesn't have to be consumerist at all. My DC always used to draw me a picture or make me a card. They would help DH make me breakfast in bed (for all of us) and cook dinner that i liked and i got to choose a film to watch in the afternoon. (they used to tell him off if there was football on, never mind that i like to watch, so he switched it off and i thanked them because they were thinking about what I'd like, not really far enough to actually work it out but the thought was thee) etc etc

it's not about the card, the gift or whatever. It is about your children appreciating you. And as for all those moaning about how their DH has got something for his mother - bloody Norah. Pack it in

I know what I'm getting. Mine are all adults. I'll get a card (which dd bought today I assume - she duked out just before lunch) and some chocolate.

And that's all I want. A big bar of chocolate aero and a card
And I'm not even really bothered about the card.

A hand made card and some daffodils (& a lie in!) that’s what we used to do for my mum and that’s perfect in my eyes!

I don’t think it’s that unusual tbh, I have a play date with a couple of mums tomorrow because we have no plans because DH’s aren’t doing anything for Mother’s Day but I really don’t care. I don’t care about Father’s Day, I don’t care about my dog just did a fart day either. Birthdays and Christmas are just about doable.

however my DD seemed to be forming plans for Mother’s Day so I asked DH and DD if they had spoken about her plans and organised something otherwise she would be disappointed. DH said no and they went off to chat about it.
So long as DD is happy tomorrow then I’ll be happy. It’s a shame if your DH has left your DD upset through lack of organisation.

It doesn’t matter what gift your young dc get you - you look delighted with it.
you (presumably ) do not want to be remembered by your children as being awful to please with presents.

poor dd.

He's taken offence as it puts the blame on you and he can renege all responsibility.

I feel for your DD reading this. Frankly, your post sounds entitled.

Oh I'll get a lie in - DD will get up with the dog and that's perfect. She was going to cook but I am quite happy to cook. Pasta or something easy.

I really feel desperately sorry for the DD here. She must be gutted and she will never forget it.

Horrible thing of you to have done op.

So dh did get you something but you actually don’t like it (it’s not even Mother’s Day and you’re already telling them to go and change it) and your dd is upset now about it all

I think you’re being massively unreasonable and cf. I don’t have anything tomorrow and tbh I don’t care. But if i did get something at least Id be grateful for the efforts they’ve done rather than kicking a fuss about not liking it

Dear Lord, what a lot of fuss about nothing! You just thank your child nicely for whatever she gives you. Who would be so rude as to reject a gift, even before the date when it's due to be handed over?

I think you are being a brat.

It’s awful to tell you young child you don’t like what they got you. Just exchange it quietly.

Secondly, it’s Mother’s Day, not your birthday - a card, some flowers, a lie in followed by burnt toast made by your loving children is what you get. Lunch out if you’re lucky. It’s not about presents.

Mother's day is going to hell in a handcart IMO. Since when are mums being asked for opinions about their gift?

Yup, agree with this. This expectation of something 'organised' seems to be at the root of such upset, it's more harmful than helpful.

Your poor DD. You couldn't even show a little bit of gratitude?

DD is crying because you, both but especially you, made this whole fiasco look like it's her fault because she "misinterpreted" what you wanted.

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Start looking into savings for her. With parents like this she will probably need some therapy to get her selfesteem up

You were definitely BU to your dd. I still remember being told I’d spelled porridge wrong when I’d done a menu to choose from for breakfast in bed. Really took the shine off the treat I was trying to organise (never mind that I wouldn’t have had a clue at that age where to start with making the porridge!).

Be grateful, some of us will never get a mother's Day card or present, and don't have our own mother's anymore. Tomorrow is hard for some people, grow up, accept that you have people that care about you enough to buy you a gift ,any gift, and hug them hard .

My OH told me earlier he wasn't going to be able to get me any flowers as he was busy stripping wallpaper off our hall landing, and did I want to get some flowers myself from Sainsburys when I did the food shop, and he'd give me the money! ha ha!

I said no don't be daft..I know the kids have made me a card and I have bought stuff for a roast dinner tomorrow that OH will be cooking..oh and I'll get a cuppa in bed..that'll do for me.