Ok, I have only read the first page of your thread
@Nomothersdayforme and I would not have posted on this one normally, because I do try to go along with the adage "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
However, I feel so sorry for your dear daughter, and so angry with you OP, that I just can't not say anything. Our children are - or at least should be - the most important things people in our lives. Their feelings and care, should be the most important things to us. To be so cross with your husband that you are willing to badly (yes, I do actually think it is badly) hurt your dear child's feelings 'on purpose' - in the same way as if you decide to drive your car after you have had a couple of large glasses of wine, you could be considered to have done so with the sole intention of injuring someone! In either situation, if someone ends up being hurt, then that is such a likely consequence of your actions, that it should be morally treated as an intention to cause damage. Of course drink driving is in a different category to what you did, I am just trying to show you why, in my opinion, you can't separate your actions from the result - the most important result here being how you made your DD feel awful. You could have easily moaned at your husband once your DD was asleep.
When I was little, I used to save up my pocket money and buy my dear Mum a little bottle of violet (lavendar) "perfume", every Mother's Day, I think it even came with a couple of plastic violet flowers! I presume my Dad was with me when I bought them. I didn't stop buying them until I was a teenager, and suddenly realised that there couldn't be a much worse present than violet perfume, and rather than the reason my mum gave me for keeping them unopened on her dressing table - that she loved them too much to use them - she didn't use them presumably because she didn't want to go around smelling of a lavender field! When the "penny dropped", I loved my amazing mum even more, because she never gave me even the slightest hint that she didn't like lavender perfume!
Most of all, I think that she probably did love them as a Mother's Day present, because they were from me, because I had saved up every year so that I could buy her something I thought she loved. This, IMO, is how you should be thinking of your DD's present to you. If you are ever lucky enough for her to want to give you another present, please let her decide what to get you, and never, ever, prompt her. If you had to moan at your husband, you should have made sure that your daughter would never find out about it. In this case it sounds like you almost cross questioned the poor little sweetheart.