Mumsnet Logo
My feed

to access all these features


So upset. DP called DD this

527 replies

peachesandcreamz · 18/03/2023 18:38


For a bit of context, I’m currently going through a miscarriage and I’ve been feeling absolutely shit and tired/weepy all day. DD (8) wanted to bake which I said I’d do but I felt so poorly I couldn’t face it.

DD had the biggest meltdown, started screaming at the top of her lungs, knocked the dining chair over, ragged my phone out of my hand (I was calling her dad to get some support).

DP is obviously trying to support me and hated seeing DD screech at me and talk to me like shit. He lost his patience with her and called her a “spoilt little brat” 😢. This then made things a hell of a lot worse, and DD was even more hysterical. I tried getting her to go to her room which she point blank refused and things just escalated from there, which riled DP even more. I just cried and felt despair.

Obviously DP isn’t DD’s dad. We don’t live together and I said I think it’s best if he goes home for the night.

I’m annoyed with DD for reacting so badly but at the same time, she has no idea what I’m going through. It wasn’t DP’s place to lose his shit with her, was it?

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?


You have one vote. All votes are anonymous.

aSofaNearYou · 21/03/2023 13:35

Yup. Really quite bowled over by how male oriented some of the responses on this thread have been, favouring the boyfriend over the natal daughter.

Oh stop trying to make it about him being a man. This has absolutely zero to do with what sex they are, you could flip the sexes and people would have the same opinion.


beAsensible1 · 22/03/2023 12:05

I think can give grace to your DPh e is grieving but generally needs to work on his patience and the language used to and around children.

Its quite sad that your daughter doesn't seem to understand having empathy, most children when seeing their mother ill or upset would attempt to replicate comfort in some way.

her behaviour was unacceptable and there should be age appropriate consequences. seems she is in need of firmer boundaries from you.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Sign up to continue reading

Mumsnet's better when you're logged in. You can customise your experience and access way more features like messaging, watch and hide threads, voting and much more.

Already signed up?