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Original poster

To think I should get these free tickets?

268 replies

Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 09:08

I was given a family voucher for an activity for Christmas. DH couldn't make it due to work commitments and DD did want to do it so DS and I went with my SIL and nephew.

The company films the activity on a go pro. None of us wanted the video but we went to the reception to watch the videos afterwards just for fun. DNs camera hadn't recorded the activity so the company have said he can come back another time with an accompanying adult to do it again.

Now baring in mind the original tickets were my chritmas gift, I didn't ask my SIL for any money for them and DN didn't actually want the video AIBU to think SIL should give the replacement tickets to me?

They're not designated to any particular name, they've just been sent to SIL email account. I know DH would like to do the activity and DS would love to do it again.

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TheGoogleMum · 16/03/2023 09:52

I think those suggesting DH offer to take DN is the best compromise here (and maybe pay to take DS!).
I think it's tricky - I can see the logic both ways. Seems a shame for DN to now say you want his tickets but they were your present originally so I can see why you feel it isn't fair he gets to go twice paying for neither

LadyHaHaHeeHaw · 16/03/2023 09:53

CheersForThatEh · 16/03/2023 09:52

Why dont you see of DH can take your nephew?

I thought that but SIL hasn't offered the tickets to them

Fragrantandfoolish · 16/03/2023 09:54

I think you can ask but you’re certainly not entitled to them.

rainbowstardrops · 16/03/2023 09:54

I can see why you're a bit miffed but they were given to compensate your nephew not being able to watch his video of the activity.
I agree that it would make sense for your DH to take the nephew. I'd have thought that's obvious.
Is SIL your DH's sister?

ThisNameIsNotAvailable · 16/03/2023 09:55

Why don’t you just say that as DH didn’t get to go last time but really wanted to, can he take nephew.

jemimapuddlepluck · 16/03/2023 09:55

I think ywbu to ask for the tickets but if I were your SIL I would have offered them to you.

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Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 09:55

Curseofthenation · 16/03/2023 09:44

So did she get 2 tickets or 4? You say that SIL got two tickets worth £100 each but then say that she has £400 worth of tickets.

If she got 4 free tickets and didn't offer to take you then I'd say that was a bit mean. However, if she just got 2 then I see no reason why you should feel entitled to them. They got lucky on a trip you treated them to and you need to get over it.

Gosh this is hard work!

I gave her £200 worth of tickets originally. The company has now given her a further £200 with which equals £400 total. Tickets were £100 each.

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JudgeRudy · 16/03/2023 09:56

Too late now but if I'd have been in your position I'm confident I'd have blagged 4 tickets!
If I was SIL I'd probably have bought a round of burgers or similar. You didn't want to go with just the 2 of you so it benefitted you both. If your nephew hadn't have been given the ticket you'd be happy with the outcome. I'm assuming it was his 'sad little face' that prompted the gesture. Suck it up and don't begrudge him good fortune.

Wrongsideofpennines · 16/03/2023 09:57

Just suggest your husband takes your nephew and pay the extra for your son to do it again.

Fragrantandfoolish · 16/03/2023 09:58

Gosh this is hard work!

lol it certainly is. You had your experience. You’ve lost nothing. The tickets are recompense for your nephews go pro not working. You are not entitled to them in his place and you’ve not lost out

SimpleMelody · 16/03/2023 09:58

Who was the gift originally off? SIL to you?

BertaHoon · 16/03/2023 09:58

Just grab the tickets from your poor crying nephews grasp whilst telling him - I paid in the first place, it's only one treat for you boy. Tough shit your camera didn't work.

Seems reasonable.

Fragrantandfoolish · 16/03/2023 09:59

BertaHoon · 16/03/2023 09:58

Just grab the tickets from your poor crying nephews grasp whilst telling him - I paid in the first place, it's only one treat for you boy. Tough shit your camera didn't work.

Seems reasonable.

😂

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Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 10:00

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Of course they're something to do with me. DN wouldn't have been there in the first place for his go pro to fail if it wasn't for me.

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Whaleandsnail6 · 16/03/2023 10:00

I think given you were happy to take sil and nephew in the first place, without asking for any money, you should let it go unless she offers the tickets. You havent lost out on anything.

Nephew just "got lucky" in that it was his go pro not working and he didnt want the video anyway. Thats separate to you giving the spare tickets to them.

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Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 10:00

BertaHoon · 16/03/2023 09:58

Just grab the tickets from your poor crying nephews grasp whilst telling him - I paid in the first place, it's only one treat for you boy. Tough shit your camera didn't work.

Seems reasonable.

🤣

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Pompom2367 · 16/03/2023 10:00

Op you are asking everyone there opinion then arguing with them if they don't have the opinion you want

Fragrantandfoolish · 16/03/2023 10:00

Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 09:32

I don't think I'm being grabby at all.

The tickets are expensive (£100 each). I didn't ask for any contribution to them doing the activity. I drove a 4 hour round trip to get us all there, no fuel contribution either.

It seems to me the polite thing to do for SIL to ask if DH wants the free tickets. It's 100% what I'd do if the roles were reversed.

Is it fuck what you’d do. Lol. You’d send your husband and son back again.😂

Wowwe · 16/03/2023 10:01

Why should you get the free tickets? Your DH couldn't make it and your DD didn't want to go so they presumably would have gone to waste so you offered them to your sil and dn.
dn equipment didn't work on the day so he gets a complimentary ticket to come again with an adult. Now you want your DH to go because he can now make it. That's not fair ... and you would actually take the free tickets from a child? God!
The paying for petrol etc has nothing to do with this. You should have sorted that on the day.

Blossomtoes · 16/03/2023 10:01

The tickets are recompense for your nephews go pro not working

The nephew who was only there in the first place because OP’s husband couldn’t go.

Original poster
Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 10:01

I wonder what replies I'd have had if I'd posted this from SIL perspective?

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Keeween · 16/03/2023 10:02

YABU. Once you gave the tickets to SIL and DN in the first place, they are their tickets. It was a fault with DNs camera, and was nothing to do with you at that point, so the free tickets are theirs by rights. You didn’t pay for those, it’s just lucky for SIL and DN!

America12 · 16/03/2023 10:02

DevantMaJardin · 16/03/2023 09:10

YABU and massively grabby. The company gave those tickets so DN and an accompanying adult could come back. SIL bought the tickets in the first place. I think you'll be embarrassing yourself if you ask for the second set of free tickets.

SIL didn't buy the tickets

Original poster
Purplepluhs292 · 16/03/2023 10:02

Pompom2367 · 16/03/2023 10:00

Op you are asking everyone there opinion then arguing with them if they don't have the opinion you want

Yeh, isn't that what people do on this board? 😄

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CatSpeakForDummies · 16/03/2023 10:02

You have as much right to these tickets as the person who originally gifted them to you. You invited SIL and DN, you aren't entitled to the compensation.

You could suggest that DH take DN, that's as far as you should go.