To think I should get these free tickets?

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I was given a family voucher for an activity for Christmas. DH couldn't make it due to work commitments and DD did want to do it so DS and I went with my SIL and nephew.

The company films the activity on a go pro. None of us wanted the video but we went to the reception to watch the videos afterwards just for fun. DNs camera hadn't recorded the activity so the company have said he can come back another time with an accompanying adult to do it again.

Now baring in mind the original tickets were my chritmas gift, I didn't ask my SIL for any money for them and DN didn't actually want the video AIBU to think SIL should give the replacement tickets to me?

They're not designated to any particular name, they've just been sent to SIL email account. I know DH would like to do the activity and DS would love to do it again.

I would also message SIL and ask her to send over the tickets as DH is able to go now, and how brilliant it is that he now gets the opportunity.

Put it in such as a way as to suggest that would be the default thing to do anyway.

'Hi SIL, great that the tickets came though! Can you send them over? DH is really pleased he is now able to experience it too after giving up his place for you guys initially, so thats worked out brilliantly for everyone'.

Have you asked SIL? Or are you hoping she will just offer? I think the first step is to say "DH would love to go - would it be ok for him to have the free ticket?" But if she says no there's not much you can do. The ticket has been given to her, rightly or wrongly, and you can't force her to give it to you.

DN go pro didn't work during the activity so his footage of the activity wasn't available to buy. None of us had any intention of buying it anyway, we just wanted to watch the little 10 second clip. The staff didn't know this. It was a physical voucher so they just asked for SIL email address to send the 2 free tickets to.

Just ask if she is planning on using them

You are being grabby because you are trying to take tickets away from a child who received them in compensation for their equipment not working on the day. It doesn't matter that the tickets were originally yours or that you didn't ask SIL to pay anything that was your choice at the time. The new tickets are a separate transaction between DN and the company.

No I think they have been given to your nephew so they’re for him to go again if he wants to. You received a gift, you had a nice day out. I think it’s a bit grabby to want another free go.

The tickets were offered to your nephew. To him. Probability because he’s a kid and the company thought it would be a nice gesture because something hadn’t quite worked as it should. They are his tickets.

I don’t think you are being greedy. SIL should have offered you the tickets in the circumstances especially given you invited her (for free) to enjoy part of what was your family’s Xmas present.

SIL and DN were invited by the OP and it was her present that paid for the tickets... DN didn't want the video.

SIL should offer the tickets back to the OP..... to do otherwise would be rude.

So did she get 2 tickets or 4? You say that SIL got two tickets worth £100 each but then say that she has £400 worth of tickets.

If she got 4 free tickets and didn't offer to take you then I'd say that was a bit mean. However, if she just got 2 then I see no reason why you should feel entitled to them. They got lucky on a trip you treated them to and you need to get over it.

I think it’s a bit grabby to want another free go.

On the sil’s part, most definitely.

Don't be so bloody sensible @Ijustdontcare , we don't want any of that common sense here

YABU, if my SIL phoned me about this I'd give her the tickets back but also think ew, what a mingebag taking from a kid.
Would it not make sense for your husband to take your nephew back? He can surely ring his sister and say ey, I really wanted to go, I'll take nephew so I get a chance as you've already been. That's how normal families work I think

Oh I see, she's had £400 worth in total. I'd just let it go. The tickets were free for you too.

It's not difficult to work out, is it? She had two tickets on the day worth nearly £200, now she has another two tickets worth nearly £200. Add them together, what do you get?

This. Regardless of him not wanting to purchase the video.

Let your DH go with your DN and pay for one extra child as DS missed out. You can then argue over who'll pay for the extra child.

I don't understand why you couldn't postpone it in the first instance, given how expensive it is.

I don’t get why folk are saying you’re being grabby! It was your DH present so of course you should get the tickets. I’d be asking SIL

Could your DH take his DN on the free tickets?

Is it likely DN will want to go again? If not won't he offer tickets to his cousins anyway?

They are his tickets. Regardless of who paid for the original set.

@Rosula I already corrected myself! I guess I can't do maths and can't read. It's a sign of the times...

You're not entitled to the tickets, but you can politely ask SIL if she plans on using them, as if not your DH would be really keen to go with DS. Then see what she says 🤷‍♀️ If she's a half decent person, she'll offer them back.

If you you treated your dn to a meal and hers came out burnt ot raw and the restaurant gave a replacement would you take it and eat it?

You got to do your activity, you haven't lost out.

Why dont you see of DH can take your nephew?