To think I should get these free tickets?

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I was given a family voucher for an activity for Christmas. DH couldn't make it due to work commitments and DD did want to do it so DS and I went with my SIL and nephew.

The company films the activity on a go pro. None of us wanted the video but we went to the reception to watch the videos afterwards just for fun. DNs camera hadn't recorded the activity so the company have said he can come back another time with an accompanying adult to do it again.

Now baring in mind the original tickets were my chritmas gift, I didn't ask my SIL for any money for them and DN didn't actually want the video AIBU to think SIL should give the replacement tickets to me?

They're not designated to any particular name, they've just been sent to SIL email account. I know DH would like to do the activity and DS would love to do it again.

Thankyou.

How on earth have I been 'distinctly unpleasant throughout this entire thread'? I've thanked people, I've listened to the criticism, I've replied to add context where needed.

My 'sob story' is not in response to people disagreeing with me (I clearly stated I was happy to hear a different perspective). It's in response to posters being rude, nasty and name calling. People need to consider that there is an actual human behind these messages, a human who might just be in the mist of an incredibly challenging period of their lives. To be called selfish, greedy, grabby and entitled at a time in my life where I'm trying to cram experiences in with all my lived ones whilst I've got the chance is appalling to read. Granted, no one knows the full picture when they reply but it shouldn't matter, posters should reply with some kindness no matter what.

What you seem to ve missing is that while these tickets were you present originally you then gave them to someone else so those 2 tickets are now their present. Once you gift something it is no longer yours, you no longer own it and it is nothing to do with you. Once you gave those tickets away they are no linger part of your present and anything that happened after that fact is nothing to do with you. I suggest in future not regiving gifts as you do not seem to understand the contract of giving presents.

And as I said people are irritated because you asked their opinion and then said whatever I was right.

waste of a post.

OP - can you reply to the question if you've asked your SIL if your husband can take your nephew?

No I haven't. We're going to go as a family in the summer for DHs birthday. SIL can go again with DN.

Are you really? You are being incredibly greedy. The free tickets were offered to your nephew not you, how he was there in the first place is irrelevant. If he had been offered a free ice cream or a cuddly toy would you have grabbed that out of his hands because you gave him his entry ticket. If you cannot graciously offer tickets to your nephew and take your enjoyment from having done something nice, then next time just rip the spare ones up and throw them in the bin.

It's really pathetic how unpleasant some posters are.

The OP has asked a question and has listened to the varied replies. The fact that she still thinks she is being reasonable is fair enough (tbh I think she is being reasonable too).

She only bought in the fact she was going through a rough times AFTER she had been attacked by some posters. That's not drip feeding that's a response to the posts.

Maybe send a message asking if you nephew and son could use the free tickets together as you took her previously ?

OR

hey SIL.. DS and I are wondering when is a good time to take DS & DN back to the activity place to use those vouchers ?

I don’t think she’s cheeky nor to give you the tickets… however if she doesn’t offer for your son to use one with her son then that’s really cheeky considering you took them both last time. Although I think the company should’ve given you all free tickets since you went together on a family ticket. Maybe email the company and say that the family ticket was a Christmas present, because one go pro hasn’t worked non of you felt able to but the footage, thank them for the 2 complimentary tickets and be cheeky and ask for another two so that your DS can do it again and this time buy his footage!
you can only but try!

This is actually a good idea. Your family plus DN so the kids can use the vouchers.

Here is my advice. When you go again as a family this summer, do NOT take SIL and nephew, so that they can use their free tickets. Let them get themselves there and keep this experience just for your DH, your children and yourself. They have benefited enough from your generosity.

Thank you! Your message made me LOL! I, too, think it's funny as heck that someone could actually feel SORRY that the SIL might have to pay for the gas to go back with free tickets. {smdh}
Oh, the "In-huge-manatee"!

I think there are many jealous little people on this thread who lack basic compassion, empathy and understanding. Color me shocked...not.

It's called this strange word that doesn't seem to be used much these days. That word is C-O-U-R-T-E-S-Y. It doesn't matter that they were asked or that OP was going anyway. It's courtesy to offer to pay for the gas, or the food, or SOMETHING and not just sponge off the person who already gave you something.
An example: I will go with a friend out to a casino, or for the day of going here and there. She drives. She was going to ALL of those places with or without me. I STILL give her gas money. It's the polite, correct, ethical, moral and logical thing to do.

But then, I've never made it a habit to excuse others who sponge off of family or friends. TETO

What's TETO @Nanaof1 ?

Is it "to each their own"???

Dunno, that's my best guess ....

Yes, that's it. My GD uses that, as do her friends but they say the word, not the initials.
I'm sorry if I was confusing in any way.