To ask if you earned the same or more as your DC's father when you gave birth to your first child?

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Personally I did. I was in a managerial position. Couldn't go back part time after mat leave as the role didn't exist part time. Ended up moving down a pay grade.
What I want to know is how many women already earn less pre children, therefore making them the ones to sacrifice their careers (temporarily) and how many do so because they want to be the ones who stay at home due to enjoying raising children more, breastfeeding, PND, birth trauma etc.
I have no agenda, just curious

Earned about 10% less than DW. Now she earns 6x more. My having the kids definitely hurt my career.

I earned less when we had our first but it was marginal. I know a number of women I worked with who left when they had kids even though they were earning similar to their partners

I was never able to take full maternity leaves though, only two weeks with my first, one week with my second and four weeks with my third as I wanted longer due to missing out on my others.

I earned more. But i am in a sector where you start relatively high in salary, but you don’t have many possibilities to grow further. My husband is in a more commercial sector, he started relatively low in salary, but had lots of promotions over the years and now he has the higher salary. We both work 4 days now.

I earned more and will continue to, there was never any question of DP doing the parental leave. I wanted to and have always wanted to 😊

No, DH has always and probably will always, earn more than me.

I think before kids I was on about £28k and he was on about £34k. Approximately.

now kids are 4 & 8 and I’m on £36k and he’s on £58k I think. I’m kind of top of what I can be unless I go into management which I don’t want to. He can still progress quite a bit.

Earned more with better pay and conditions prior to ds1. Now earn 4k less (though this is pro rata still working pt

Yup - I was probably on nearly double DH when I had first DS. In terms of hourly rate I probably still earn a bit more, but hard to say as I've gone self employed (as I couldn't return to my old job part time). DH has had multiple promotions in the 15 years since I went on maternity leave and has significantly progressed his career. But I progressed mine a lot more before kids.

Earned less, he’s quite a bit older than me.

I earn four times and we are trying for baby. The plan is that I will go back to work full time and that he will be a SAHP

I earned more with my first. For the second and third we earned about the same. Later on DH's earnings soared (bonuses mostly) and mine didn't because I went part time eventually still earned decent money though. When I had 3 in daycare, neither of our net salaries covered the daycare costs. But we knew this wasn't forever, We still got benefits and pension contributions, and we both got to maintain career progression.

I worked in an industry which had been very male-dominated (engineering) and all of the senior guys I worked with had wives who more or less stayed home (they also all thought their wives had done the harder job tbh). We had a much more even split of male/female by around 2010 and I notice that the younger professionals then were way more likely to share the child-caring etc.

I earned more. But we looked at the long term picture for our family and my career was always going to be interrupted by mat leave + he had the potential to earn more longer term in his sector than I did in mine so I took the hit, took the mat leave and worked part time afterwards.

Now I’m in an equal role to him (responsibility wise etc) but earn half his salary because of my sector so it was the right decision. Ultimately we’re a team and support each other.

I think similar. Possibly I earned slightly more.

We made the joint decision that I would go part-time in a different role rather than go for promotion. DH went for promotions, and I went back to full-time work when the youngest was older.

I have been in a very rewarding role and have no regrets at all.

Regardless of pay, I really wanted to be at home for maternity leave. If DH had wanted shared parental leave then I would have agreed as it would have been fair but I’d have been upset about it.

I think I earned a bit less. DH encouraged me go for a promotion between dc 1 and 2. I earned more for a bit. Dh's earnings have since increased greatly as he has upskilled in a lucrative area.

We are good at supporting each other when we need to.

Yes, I earned more. Still earn more now.

Earned more. 6 months off for each child and then back to work with full time nursery. My job is in an office and has travel while DH is 100% wfh so he does more childcare. I earn more still but he could earn more if he had more hours.

I earned more than DH (and still do).

I was earning about 10k less when I was pregnant, but he's 7 years older than me so not completely comparable. I returned PT, then completed a doctorate and now earn 30k more than him working 4 days per week TTO with lots of flexibility. All of my female friends and sisters outearn their dh's.

I had 7 months off (mix of mat leave and annual leave). My employer at the time offered 5 months full pay and 5 months half but I couldn't afford to live on half (although in hindsight I probably could have done, given the chunk nursery fees took out). I think if proper paternity leave had been offered at the time, DH might have taken say 3 months off as well but he got a week paid and a week's annual leave.

I earned more before mat leave, then he earned more for 3 years, now I earn more again.

I've always earned more than dh, albeit less than 10k more. I'd argue that his career is the one that stalled, as it works perfectly around the children. However he seems very content and I've offered many times to shoulder more of the burden if he wants to progress. But the job he does now is perfect for him, and for us, and for those he works with and for.

I earned about 75% of what he did
However when we met I had a lot more savings which went on house deposit
we agreed I would be SAHM until DC were 4 or 5 as we planned 2 close together
I still earned money whilst DC were little as did work from home evenings and weekends (bookkeeping for small businesses) but that was 25-50% of his earnings depending on time of year

I earned less with DC1, took a full year mat leave then went back 4 days. Bf to 22 months. With DC2, 5 years later, I earned more. I took 6 months and DH is taking 6 months. I may drop a day but DH is compressing his hours to have one day off a week. Still bf and expressing.

You do have an agenda. Find some data and charts from ONS and other reputable sources and you will see that women tend to earn on par with men till their childbearing age, after which the gap is massive and women earn much less.
Anecdotal "evidence" from surveying mumsnet will tell you nothing.
Close to 46% of women have enhanced contractual maternity pay, men on shared leave generally don't. Often both would gladly stay at home but because the mother has a more generous maternity package, it makes financial sense all other things been equal.
It's only one factor amongst many others. It generally has nothing to do with "nature" or who is more suited to it.