A boy in a school toilets in Coventry has kicked in a door in in an attempt to photograph a 13 yr old girl and she has received head injuries.
When unisex toilets were introduced we were told they would be closely monitored but that is clearly ineffective and they are unsafe for girls.
Do you think they should be abolished?
Yabu Allow them
Yanbu Abolish them.
www.coventrytelegraph.net/news/coventry-news/coventry-schoolgirl-taken-hospital-after-26418069
AIBU?
Schoolgirl kicked in head by boy in unisex toilets- is the idea of unisex unworkable?
Xoxoxoxoxoxox · 15/03/2023 12:50
Am I being unreasonable?
1295 votes. Final results.
POLLWakemeuuuup · 15/03/2023 13:06
This story is absolutely horrendous, that poor girl. I suspect there a big behaviour problems at that school.
My kids' school changed one set of toilets to unisex and kept the rest as separate girls and boys.
There are now only a couple of unisex toilets as the girls complained that the boys were leaving the toilets in a bad way. The school listened and agreed with them. There was no mention of bad behaviour from either sex though
GordonShakespearedoesChristmas · 15/03/2023 13:04
When I was at school girls were kicked in the head in the toilets by girls.
My daughter was knocked unconscious on the playground in secondary school.
Mixed toilets are not the problem her.
SherryPalmer · 15/03/2023 13:19
Personally, I think we need to be dealing with the growing issue of male violence in schools, not focusing on toilets.
How about, whilst we fix the difficult problem of male violence, we ensure girls can use the toilet safely. Once male violence is solved, then let’s talk about unisex toilets.
Postapocalypticcowgirl · 15/03/2023 13:15
This really isn't normal behaviour, and I do think the unisex toilets is a bit of a red herring. I work in a school which has one set of unisex toilets, the rest single sexed, and it honestly works fine. I think the key is giving students options so they can chose what they feel comfortable with.
The issue is the boy feeling entitled to take photos of the girl. If he wasn't doing it in the toilets, he would be upskirting on the bus, or cornering girls in a less visible part of the playground, or something else.
Let's be realistic, you don't go from being someone who's interacting with girls normally to kicking down a toilet door just because the toilets are now unisex- there's more to it than that.
Sexual harassment and assault is becoming a lot more common in schools, and removing unisex toilets definitely won't solve the problems. Schools really need to take a zero tolerance approach. Far to many approaches seem to focus on rescuing the boys, rather than keeping the girls safe. This won't be a first offence, and he probably should have been excluded from the school by now.
The police also tend to be very unwilling to get involved with sexual assault that's happened inside a school- even if it's fairly obvious a crime has been committed. Even when there's good CCTV evidence, or another student has filmed what is going on, they're often just not interested and want the school to deal with it. Or they'll "have a word" with the boy, but actually take no action.
Personally, I think we need to be dealing with the growing issue of male violence in schools, not focusing on toilets.
Postapocalypticcowgirl · 15/03/2023 13:22
But if male violence is an issue in a school, girls often can't use the toilets safely, even if they are single sex.
There's not a magical forcefield at the entrance to a female toilet that keeps the boys out.
SherryPalmer · 15/03/2023 13:19
Personally, I think we need to be dealing with the growing issue of male violence in schools, not focusing on toilets.
How about, whilst we fix the difficult problem of male violence, we ensure girls can use the toilet safely. Once male violence is solved, then let’s talk about unisex toilets.
gogohmm · 15/03/2023 12:53
The fact a boy committed this offence is not due to the toilets, it's due to his bad behaviour - he could have gone into a girl's toilet and done the same thing, he obviously doesn't mind breaking rules!
The issue of privacy is valid but as someone who was kicked in a girls toilet (by a girl) I am not sure crime is reduced by same sex, in fact bullying is worse. Best arrangement is full cubicles sell contained straight onto the corridor
Helleofabore · 15/03/2023 13:22
"I work in a school which has one set of unisex toilets, the rest single sexed, and it honestly works fine."
Yes. I imagine it would.
But what about those where the school has taken away all single sexed provisions?
"Sexual harassment and assault is becoming a lot more common in schools, and removing unisex toilets definitely won't solve the problems."
I don't believe that anyone would think that removing 'unisex toilets' would 'solve the problems'.
The question is, if a school has removed all single sex toilets, aren't they simply adding to the issues currently faced by girls in schools? Why would any school want to do that. And again, I mean, removing single sex toilets or allowing any male into a toilet if they have declared they are trans.
"The police also tend to be very unwilling to get involved with sexual assault that's happened inside a school- even if it's fairly obvious a crime has been committed. Even when there's good CCTV evidence, or another student has filmed what is going on, they're often just not interested and want the school to deal with it. Or they'll "have a word" with the boy, but actually take no action."
This above is very concerning. it really is.
Postapocalypticcowgirl · 15/03/2023 13:15
This really isn't normal behaviour, and I do think the unisex toilets is a bit of a red herring. I work in a school which has one set of unisex toilets, the rest single sexed, and it honestly works fine. I think the key is giving students options so they can chose what they feel comfortable with.
The issue is the boy feeling entitled to take photos of the girl. If he wasn't doing it in the toilets, he would be upskirting on the bus, or cornering girls in a less visible part of the playground, or something else.
Let's be realistic, you don't go from being someone who's interacting with girls normally to kicking down a toilet door just because the toilets are now unisex- there's more to it than that.
Sexual harassment and assault is becoming a lot more common in schools, and removing unisex toilets definitely won't solve the problems. Schools really need to take a zero tolerance approach. Far to many approaches seem to focus on rescuing the boys, rather than keeping the girls safe. This won't be a first offence, and he probably should have been excluded from the school by now.
The police also tend to be very unwilling to get involved with sexual assault that's happened inside a school- even if it's fairly obvious a crime has been committed. Even when there's good CCTV evidence, or another student has filmed what is going on, they're often just not interested and want the school to deal with it. Or they'll "have a word" with the boy, but actually take no action.
Personally, I think we need to be dealing with the growing issue of male violence in schools, not focusing on toilets.
CampervanKween · 15/03/2023 13:25
Absolutely ridiculous and continues the erosion of hard won female rights. Awful to see idiotic virtue signallers waving away the rights of girls and women in the presence that the sexes are not different.
GordonShakespearedoesChristmas · 15/03/2023 13:04
When I was at school girls were kicked in the head in the toilets by girls.
My daughter was knocked unconscious on the playground in secondary school.
Mixed toilets are not the problem her.
Helleofabore · 15/03/2023 13:22
Are you saying that boys entering girls toilets are not reported and disciplined?
Postapocalypticcowgirl · 15/03/2023 13:22
But if male violence is an issue in a school, girls often can't use the toilets safely, even if they are single sex.
There's not a magical forcefield at the entrance to a female toilet that keeps the boys out.
SherryPalmer · 15/03/2023 13:19
Personally, I think we need to be dealing with the growing issue of male violence in schools, not focusing on toilets.
How about, whilst we fix the difficult problem of male violence, we ensure girls can use the toilet safely. Once male violence is solved, then let’s talk about unisex toilets.
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