My eldest, 13 year old girl has a longish girls name with lots of options for shortening and nicknames.
They told me yesterday that they are non binary and would like to be referred to as they them. Whatever, ok.
Then they tell me that they want to change their name, to another long girls name.
I don't get it. Surely the point of changing a name is to be less feminine?
Their response is "it's just a name I like more"
Well tough? Not everyone likes their name, but that is your name??
They went to a youth group night. And I said to the the leader "I'm here to collect X" and they corrected me and said their new name.
So I was already miffed as I told them we need time and to think about this and to maybe test it out with friends. I don't like being corrected about my child's name at pick up.
They get in the car and ask when I'm going to tell school their new name and that they can't use the female toilets or changing rooms anymore.......
Help me understand or tell me I'm not going crazy to still call them their "dead name" according to them.