To suddenly find this very unattractive

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Am dating this guy.

Early days.

I offered to cook for him.

Asked him, is there anything you don’t eat.

Only veg he eats are peas and sweetcorn and tomatoes if they are in a sauce.

Wtaf? And no he’s not 5 he’s in his 40s

I don't understand getting so worked up about what other people eat.

Just cook whatever you want and he can leave the bits he doesn't like.

We had a male friend who is the same . In a restaurant he ordered burgers for him and his kids they all pulled the salad off their burgers . Just too weird .

I don’t understand why people think he can’t eat at restaurants. I manage to eat at restaurants and not order food I don’t actually like. It’s hardly rocket science.

I would find that a total turn off.

I think some people have had shit cooks for parents and aren't very imaginative in the kitchen.

Yes, if they've been fed soggy veg that's been boiled to within an inch of its life since they were a kid (both by parents, and in school dinners) then inevitably they aren't going to like it. If he's otherwise a good catch, then the OP could try introducing things gradually (roast carrots might be a good way to start).

I didn't like pasta as a kid. It was generally served without a sauce so was pretty bland. Then as an adult I was absolutely ravenous after an event and the chef had prepared a cheesy pasta bake. I was hooked. Likewise I didn't like raw cheese, something I now put down to it being too mild - I make a beeline for extra mature now.

Some of these answers are so bizarre and snobby. My DH is like this, he will only eat carrots and peppers vegetables wise. His parents are massive foodies, he just doesn’t like the taste of most veg. He is happy to try most things, eats lots of fruits, will happily eat spicy foods etc. I don’t get the big deal people are making about it honestly. I eat pretty much all veg but only a few types of fruit. There are much worst traits to have.

Why are you having sex with him if it's "early days"?

No wonder he thinks he can be fussy about food if he's already got a free shag-pass. He ought to be grateful that he's getting a decent free meal as well as sex.

(Any man who was subjected to my cooking would not be hanging around for the shag).

It's bad enough dealing with kids who act like this let alone an adult

Just peas and sweetcorn? Suggests he has a very sweet tooth - both high in sugar. Can he be persuaded to try other foods or is he toddler-stubborn about 'not liking' (or worse 'not eating') new/other veg?

'I don't enjoy X' - fair enough, surely, even though it is a teeny bit childish to have so little vegetable component to a diet.
'I don't/can't/won't eat x' - instant turn off if not based on actual allergy. Like all 'my child won't drink water - only squash' posts which make me wonder at how the human race will survive. I bet they can. They choose not to.

I'm a fussy eater... tbh I don't actually enjoy any veg but will eat the ones I don't actively hate because I know I should, but I cant get excited about it. It is very limiting if the only veg he'll eat is peas and sweetcorn to be fair! Even I have more than that.
I think it's maybe a little unfair to make other assumptions based on fussiness. I do like to travel, I have good sex. I can order from Indian and Chinese (although there are admittedly only a few dishes I'll consider)

Why are you having sex with him if it's "early days"?

Because she wants to?

Of course we have things we like/don’t like. You just decline. If someone suggested taking up a hobby I didn’t like then I would just say no sorry it isn’t for me. Someone kindly inviting me round for dinner and then me accepting and listing a load of food I don’t eat is just rude. Sorry if you don’t agree.

I like to eat at least 3 veggie days a week, so three vegetables wouldn't work for me. My ExH wouldn't eat cooked cheese, it was ok at first, but by the end it was a major source of resentment. What was worse he was 'alergic to the smell' so I couldn't eat it in the house. Don't put yourself through it.

My ex was one of these and I wouldn't deal with it again. I like to cook but it was incredibly difficult catering for a fussy eater. Also it took the complete joy out of going to a restaurant as there was always something in every meal that he didn't like.

Hopefully he'll go for someone who is less of a snob!

Agree so unattractive.

i had an ex with a whole host of picky eating choices including random thing like he didn’t like potatoes in any form including chips.

who on gods Green earth doesn’t like chips…Red flag.

But he does eat, he just doesn’t eat certain things. She asked him if there’s anything he didn’t eat, should he have lied? 😬

Anyway, she finds him unattractive now and the sex is only ‘fine’ so it’s time to end it.

I went on one date where he said he only ate peas and carrots.

There was not a second date

She presumably doesn't want to, now she knows that his eating habits are akin to those of a toddler. But that ship has sailed.

What he told you the sex is "fine"?

I share with you this nearly 10 year old post that still makes me chuckle

SaucyJack · 06/09/2013 22:02
It would put me off.
I want a man I can have adventures and fight the world with.
Not one who sits there crying because the peas are touching the carrots

Is he otherwise healthy? One of my own values is a reasonably healthy diet of mostly home cooked meals with loads of veg, never just one or two veg with a meal. I wouldn't want to live with an unhealthy eater!

I was single myself for over a decade before deciding to date again. I am well aware of this.

I’d find it unattractive.

I might say something like “this is a bit of a problem for me so let’s change plans - why not eat before you come and we can just have wine/ cheese/ snacks when you’re here?”

So he knows you cooking for him won’t become a thing if he eats like a toddler

I am completely disinterested in food. I am not picky as such, just don't get excited about it. I dated a guy for a while who was a real foodie. He used to get offended when I wasn't in raptures about him cooking me a meal and he wanted to do things like spend Sundays together making pasta from scratch.

It didn't last long. So I guess YANBU to find it unattractive as you clearly are mismatched on this point.