To suddenly find this very unattractive

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Am dating this guy.

Early days.

I offered to cook for him.

Asked him, is there anything you don’t eat.

Only veg he eats are peas and sweetcorn and tomatoes if they are in a sauce.

Wtaf? And no he’s not 5 he’s in his 40s

My DH’s 40+ daughter smothers gravy over everything on her plate, doesn’t like fish except fish and chips, doesn’t like fruit except bananas, always orders rich chocolate desserts then asks servers do they have any ‘squirty cream’, won’t eat vegetables apart from peas… lots more examples …You get the picture. Extremely immature imo. She is an extreme example of Mr I Only Eat Peas And Sweetcorn. I find faddiness very immature and I am OP’s side with this one.

Why? OP didn't put a meal in front of him and get annoyed when he didn't eat it. She asked if there was anything he didn't choose to eat and he told her. And then she made snotty comments and judgments about him being immature.

It is bizarre that people equate ANY personal choice, especially food with immaturity. It literally indicates nothing other than the person doesn't want to eat foods they don't like. Why would they? What's mature about eating things you don't want to just to please others?

It doesn't indicate he'll be a PITA about anything. The OP said she asked him what if he was served a meal with veg he didn't like on it and he said he'd eat around it. Not that he'd not eat the rest of the meal, or complain. He just didn't want to eat food he didn't like.

The idea that adults should be forced to consume anything they don't like or enjoy or be judged as immature is so odd.

I didn't say he should be forced to eat vegetables. He's free to eat whatever he wants. I think an adult behaving like is. immature. I wouldn't be surprised if someone who can't cope with vegetables is also rigid about other things he can't cope with.

Refusing to eat any vegetables other than peas and sweetcorn is way, way, beyond not liking a particular, specific item

I'd find him deeply irritating in a very short time. Almost every savoury meal I cook would be impossible for him to eat. Vegetables are an integral part of most of what I cook - not just something stuck on the side of a plate.

Can he even cope with soup made with vegetables? If not what a pita that would be. What restaurants can he cope with Steakhouse?

I couldn't be be bothered with this.

Starting the week feeling really great that Mumsnetters are willing to describe people like me as immature, annoying types that give people the idk.

Fussy eating is a sensory processing issue. I'll hazard a guess you all have foods you won't eat, whether it's oysters (eeewwwww slimy) or offal. Well, the fussy eaters just have more things that feel unpleasant.

You say you like to cook, perhaps if you think there's a chance with this guy, you'd be interested in challenging yourself to cook things he likes sometimes? Or call it a day and move on without the name calling?

Ignore it @TheFeistyFeminist. Anyone who assesses maturity or potential for a relationship on something as trivial and superficial as willingness to eat a variety of vegetables isn’t someone any mature person would want to be involved with. I eat every vegetable ever created and I’d find that attitude a total turn off.

Comments like this are so odd.

• It doesn’t matter why fussy eaters are fussy. I genuinely don’t care. It’s simply not something I’m willing to deal with in a prospective partner.
• People who think similarly are discussing something that they find unattractive. The fact that you have said characteristic or behaviour doesn’t mean that they are required to find it attractive, accept it or not discuss it.
• It was clear from the outset what this thread was about. Nobody made you read it.

Food restriction is a sensory processing issue if you suffer from autism or have been diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder.

If not, aversion to certain foods is not a “sensory processing issue” it’s just dislike.

And disliking things is fine. It’s also fine not to date that person based on their dislikes.

But it’s not ok to laugh at them and call them immature.

What are we allowed to laugh at? Please provide a comprehensive list of everything I’m permitted to find funny.

What are we allowed to laugh at? Please provide a comprehensive list of everything I’m permitted to find funny.

Laughing at people for issues they control isn't a nice thing to do....that's obvious surely?

I haven’t laughed at anyone but it’s perfectly fine to call someone immature if you think they are.

I think Boris Johnson is immature for example.

You CAN laugh at anyone if you want to. It doesn’t make it ok and says a lot about you.

Do you often laugh at people who have differences to you? Maybe people who don’t like cats or snakes or skiing or whatever. As I say, fine that their life wouldn’t align well with yours to date, not ok to laugh and call them immature.

I’m asking you to provide a list of things that it is ok to laugh at. Please.

Because laughing at a fully grown adult who only eats peas and sweetcorn, and thinking they’re immature, is the height of cruelty.

I had no idea so I’m going to really need that list.

F**k him then. Good luck to her feeding this man child.

You deserve better

Why would he need to be fed? We expect adults to feed themselves, don’t we?

Most people don't cook separate meals regularly. I don't know anyone who cooks separate meals on regular basis.
It's normal for partners to "feed each other".
I am assuming this is what pp meant?

Thank you. You got it@IHaveaSetOfVeryParticularSkills

No I couldn't be bothered devising recipes which have no vegetables other than peas or sweetcorn. I might do a one- off rice and peas, but permanently limiting all meals to only those 2 vegetables? Not a chance.

Not liking oysters or offal bears no comparison to not eating any vegetables except peas and sweetcorn.

This thread has lasted longer than my involvement with this guy 🤣🤣🤣

Hahahaah

Never mind , it can only get better ! 😆

It would annoy me as I love to cook. But as I am old, and if he was perfect in every other way, I'd deal with it. If I was young and dating this would be a huge put off for me.

Honestly yes this would put me off. Enjoying food is a huge part of my life and I'd not like to be with someone who I couldn't share that with.

Husband is like this but has improved massively since we got together. He wouldn’t eat anything that had a spice to it, fajitas, curry. Wouldn’t eat pizza or any veggies that weren’t your typical traditional thing. He now eats a much better variety of foods than he used to, still hates curry and picks the courgette out of my bolognese but much better than prior. I do however have to tailor meals to his tastes, when he travels I cook what I’d like.