To suddenly find this very unattractive

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Am dating this guy.

Early days.

I offered to cook for him.

Asked him, is there anything you don’t eat.

Only veg he eats are peas and sweetcorn and tomatoes if they are in a sauce.

Wtaf? And no he’s not 5 he’s in his 40s

It would be the end of the relationship for me. Ick factor off the scale.
It would make me think he was immature and probably extremely limited in other areas too - travel, for example.
I might be unreasonable but, at only a few weeks in, I wouldn't want to waste any more time.

It would be a deal breaker unless he was willing to change. I had an A4 sheet of food dislikes for a previous partner. I knew I could never live with that person.

Nah I couldn’t be doing with that.

I would suspect someone that fussy of having an ahem limited sexual repertoire as well.

I live off veg and love cooking so no.
If it was just some, fine, w all have dislikes. I don't like some either, but most bar 2?
Nope. Food is really big part in our relationship and we really enjoy it and cooking and having fun with it. It would not be fun with just them two

I can't believe the sex is good.

I find this quite an odd attitude. We all have things that we like and don’t like, whether it’s food, drinks, hobbies,etc. We don’t have to go along with stuff we don’t like to be ‘polite’.

Obviously if you don’t want to date them that’s fine, any reason is ok not to date someone. But to say you don’t understand people having food preferences is just weird. You don’t really have to understand.

Deal breaker for me.
Because, if he's in his 40s, that means he's got there without learning how to cook, (how?) or having never been out to a decent restaurant. Neither would appeal.

I found 'what's your favourite meal' quite a good fact finder outer when I was online dating. A paragraph long response detailing flavours and varieties and sauces and jus; equals tick regardless of what it was- but a 'ooh I like an Indian' would probably have me winding the conversation down.

Judgement and snobbery in full swing once again on MN. Food preferences aren't really something I prioritise in a partner. But then again I like a Turkey dinosaur once in a while. Thankfully dh hasn't left me yet.

I dated a non veg eater briefly. His shits were horrendously smelly. That was enough to give me the ick.

I would just cook as normal and he can leave the bits he doesn't like.

I don't like courgette or aubergine, I don't think that makes me an less appealing as a partner.

What? 😅

He’s told me he can cook and the sex is fine 🤣🤣

What's the problem, he's an adult he can eat what he likes. My oh only like sweetcorn and potatoes with a roast and cabbage. So that's what he has. He likes cauliflower cheese and any veg in dishes but he doesn't like tomatoes. He eats soup curries Chinese sketty etc an adult can choose. If we go out it's steak and chips. Not limited really

Nope. I couldn't do it.

I once proposed a fancy fish restaurant for a second date as a treat from me and the guy did this retching sound to illustrate how much he hates fish.

So we went for Italian where I found out he doesn't drink wine either and sat there chucking down Coke all evening.
THE END.

It isn't about being a snob, it's about being incompatible. If someone loves to go to good restaurants, or travel and explore different world cuisines; then they're not going to be compatible with someone who only eats toddler food.

The sex being just ‘fine’ would be more of an issue. 🤣

I'm definitely not a fussy eater but I'm now fiercely allergic to garlic.....its horrific, I'd kill for a chicken Kiev!

And people wonder why they are single so long ffs. My DP eats limited veg but he is the kindest most wonderful and amazing man - brilliant in bed too but just because he eats limited veg would not put me off him. Jesus the things that put people off.

gives me the ick

if I otherwise really liked him & he wasn't childish or rude (making faces, noises when you eat it for example) with it, then I'd go out to eat a few times & see how he handles it & same with you cooking for him.

tbh it probably wouldn't work for me, as I'm low carbing vegetarian and I can just see every single meal being a right bloody nightmare between us.

one season in a the ski resort we had a guest who said (on the pre arrival sheet) I ONLY eat chicken & chips. Because head office were a shower of Shite we couldn't contact him before arrival. He REALLY meant it!! No other breakfast food either...

he was a lovely bloke though, it was down to some childhood trauma.

My diet is quite limited and even I like more veg than just peas and sweetcorn.

I once dated a guy who didn't like cheese. Weird. One guy thought all meals had to have meat in to be worth eating. Rude, when I'm veggie and a good cook. Cheeky sod never cooked for me.I didn't cook for him again.

OP what does he eat on a day to day basis?

Ahhhhhh!! Jesus, someone always writes this on any thread!

Being. Single. Is. A. Wonderful. Choice. For. Many. People.

Stop using it as some kind of poor man's option.

I’ve been married to one for over 20 years. You get used to it.

I could not have a relationship with a man who's an immature eater. It just wouldn't work. I find it extremely unattractive.