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To suddenly find this very unattractive

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Besswess88 · 13/03/2023 19:39

Am dating this guy.

Early days.

I offered to cook for him.

Asked him, is there anything you don’t eat.

Only veg he eats are peas and sweetcorn and tomatoes if they are in a sauce.

Wtaf? And no he’s not 5 he’s in his 40s

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Isinglass20 · 14/03/2023 20:39

SheilaWilcox
”shaking and crying “ wtf? 😳

Rycbar · 14/03/2023 20:49

I was this person…

Turns out id just never experienced well cooked veg. I eat loads now because my fiancé is a fantastic cook and prepares veg in a way I really enjoy! Give him the chance to experience it!!

Feetupteashot · 14/03/2023 20:51

This would break me

However

If he is hot in all other respects, get past it!!!!

katepilar · 14/03/2023 20:52

arethereanyleftatall · 13/03/2023 20:10

Ahhhhhh!! Jesus, someone always writes this on any thread!

Being. Single. Is. A. Wonderful. Choice. For. Many. People.

Stop using it as some kind of poor man's option.

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Pseudonamed talked about people who are single and dont want to be. Not about the singles who want to be singles.

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Jimblob · 14/03/2023 20:57

Besswess88 · 13/03/2023 19:39

Am dating this guy.

Early days.

I offered to cook for him.

Asked him, is there anything you don’t eat.

Only veg he eats are peas and sweetcorn and tomatoes if they are in a sauce.

Wtaf? And no he’s not 5 he’s in his 40s

Yes. You’re being unreasonable. Why ask if you don't like an honest answer. He’s not forced to like everything. He could have left what he didn’t like, but considering your daft post you’d probably have a problem with that too.

Danielle9891 · 14/03/2023 20:59

Reminds me of my sister in law's boyfriend. I think he's mams babied him too much. He won't eat any veg. Took him to an Indian restaurant and he asked for there to be no veg (onions ect) in his curry or rice. He also will go out for Sunday lunch and ask for no veg just potatoes and meat (he's plate always looks half empty). It's so embarrassing. I don't understand why if you're not allergic, you can't just leave it on the side? My mother in law has to make him chicken nuggets and chips while we had lasagna, salad and coleslaw yesterday.

thatswhatfriendsare · 14/03/2023 21:04

Notforbeef · 14/03/2023 20:30

For goodness sake. He doesn't like certain foods. He's not a serial killer.

Does he eat cereal though

katepilar · 14/03/2023 21:05

I would be interested in how did it happen that he only eats peas, sweetcorn and tomatoes in sauce. There must be some kind of story behind that.

Hmm1234 · 14/03/2023 21:30

Defo put me off.. wait till you get him in a naice restaurant

GrinAndVomit · 14/03/2023 21:30

Wonderingstar1 · 14/03/2023 20:02

Well, I do have dyspraxia and textures of foods is a big thing for me. I eat more veg than the listed in the OP but hate onion in foods. It is a real thing for some people.

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I have dyspraxia too but don’t have any aversion to food.
I do however, break something or ruin something at least once a week.
I had boyfriends who got completely exasperated by it and it was a deal breaker for them.

That’s life! I moved on and met someone I’m better suited to and so did they.

This food aversion would really irritate me so would be a deal breaker.

Lostinpari · 14/03/2023 21:31

When I met my DH he didn’t eat veg said he hated it all. Now 10 years down the line he eats almost everything. He realised it was the way things had been cooked in the past not the actual veg. There is a little bit of hope.

GrinAndVomit · 14/03/2023 21:32

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Stupidest post yet.
Congrats!

meganorks · 14/03/2023 22:22

I'm out

Helswatts · 14/03/2023 22:26

at least it’s not the only thing he eats!!! I can think of far worse things to be worried about.

stonegirl · 14/03/2023 22:27

What's the problem, why as an adult can you not have likes and dislikes. By all means make kids eat certain food, but why dictate what an adult eats.
My late husband only ate peas & sweetcorn -no problem. I put it down to his mum MAKING him eat all his veg as a child!!

Tessabelle74 · 14/03/2023 22:32

I don't like mushrooms or oysters, glad my husband wasn't so shallow that it bothered him that much 🙄

fellrunner85 · 14/03/2023 22:58

What's the problem, why as an adult can you not have likes and dislikes

Because that's fundamentally missing the point. Everyone has favourite foods. But by the time you're an adult, most people have grown up enough to realise that eating healthy food is important, and that trumps "likes and dislikes."

So that's why most people eat a wide range of fruit and veg rather than existing on cake and chips - or indeed on just peas and sweetcorn - even though most people, if they were being honest, would admit chips are very tasty indeed, and would rather have those than, say, a salad.

Yes you get some people who love veg and others who like to be adventurous with food, but many people crack on and eat lots of different veg in the same way we always brush our teeth, or have regular showers, or do some exercise - because it's good for us.
It seems a bit pathetic, IMO, not to eat something we know is good for us just because we don't "like" it.

Sshiamreading · 14/03/2023 23:38

Blossomtoes · 14/03/2023 18:54

The maximum he can get of veggie is 2 a day based on what he eats, while I aim for 4/5 portions of vegetables a day based on many nutritionists advice.

What would stop you continuing to eat as many vegetables as you wanted?

No I wouldn’t stop eating veg, but it would bother me being with someone indulging consistently in unhealthy practices with no plans to change it, especially as he’s not super young. I kind of thought once people enter their 30s/40s they’d at least try identify and tackle less healthy habits. And it may become a bit annoying if I was cooking certain things even though that aspect wouldn’t be a major concern of mine.

Each to their own but for me it’s not someone I’d want to settle down with and definitely not have kids with. A PP said about a man sitting down at a restaurant and him AND his kids picking the salad out a meal. I do believe kids learn from example.

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Tessabelle74 · 14/03/2023 22:32

I don't like mushrooms or oysters, glad my husband wasn't so shallow that it bothered him that much 🙄

Oh fgs, not liking mushrooms or oysters isn't comparable to refusing to eat any vegetables apart from peas, sweetcorn and tomatoes (but only in a sauce)

Absent any genuine dietary requirements or allergies, it's just plain weird.

I'd also be wondering what other things this man can't get to grips.

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IHaveaSetOfVeryParticularSkills · 14/03/2023 23:58

Fucking hell. Some people here had some off sprouts tonight

Darlingx · 15/03/2023 00:13

Talking of snobbery , food and dating I went on a date with a man who observed his brother’s wife was high maintenance because she only liked Hagan Das ice cream as in only that brand. I thought I had better exit there because if that’s High Maintenance , Honey I am going to crush you with my expectations 😂

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The kid comment was clearly tongue in cheek.
Chill