Page 9 | More of a WWYD re inherited house

Puzzledandpissedoff · 13/03/2023 13:31

Once probate has gone through and the house belongs to someone again, even if it’s empty the council tax will have to be paid, but until probate has gone through it’s kind of in limbo, so nobody officially owns it to pay it

You're right of course, Honeyroar, and and I should have made it clear that I meant after probate (and we still don't know whether it's been granted here)

I also agree with the many who've said that with family it's worth keeping things pleasant as much as possible - though in fairness the same applies to the sister who's been enjoying a free ride for years at OP's expense

Mirabai · 13/03/2023 14:45

It’s all very well saying to keep things as nice as possible, but these forums are full of confrontation-averse, people-pleasers.

Sometimes you have to stand up for own rights with family if they are not behaving well. OP’s sister is taking the piss, she is not worried about being ‘pleasant’ to the OP, she is currently living at OP’s expense.

It also depends what kind of relationship OP has with her sister - some family aren’t close anyway. Apparently not close enough for the sister not to attempt to shaft the OP.

Toooldtoworry · 13/03/2023 15:37

Mirabai · 13/03/2023 14:45

It’s all very well saying to keep things as nice as possible, but these forums are full of confrontation-averse, people-pleasers.

Sometimes you have to stand up for own rights with family if they are not behaving well. OP’s sister is taking the piss, she is not worried about being ‘pleasant’ to the OP, she is currently living at OP’s expense.

It also depends what kind of relationship OP has with her sister - some family aren’t close anyway. Apparently not close enough for the sister not to attempt to shaft the OP.

Agree with this. Tbh. I think you should consult a solicitor so you know your position and can confidently state your case.

BreadwinneBaker · 13/03/2023 15:39

Nowadays when someone dies and you go to get the death certificate you are registered for “say it once” or “tell it once” which means that all things linked to government are notified, such as pensions, driving licences, council tax etc.

Nope, it's an option. An optional thing.

If you are the one to register the death legally, you may be offered a code in order to use the tell us once service, but it's not forced.

Xrays · 13/03/2023 15:48

Just a heads up - this story has been published in the Daily Mail.

PighillJamie · 13/03/2023 17:12

It would be very mean to force your sibling to sell, or to ask for rent on your share.

You should let your sister remain living there and you should certainly not charge her rent for the percentage of the house that you own. They are family and families should stick together and support each other.

My brother and I own a 25% share in my parents' house, may eventually own 50% of the house between us. My brother still lives in the house.
Would I ask him to move out to sell the house? No.
Would I ask him to pay rent for 50% of the house? Also No.

I would never even consider for a moment asking him to leave in order to sell, and would never ask him for a penny for rent.

Blossomtoes · 13/03/2023 17:15

Good for you @PighillJamie. Now go and burnish your halo.

waterlego · 13/03/2023 17:24

Presumably you don’t need the money then @PighillJamie? The OP does. She owns 50% of the house and is entitled to it.

Families should support each other you say. Does that only work one way? What is the sister doing to support the OP who is struggling for money while sister lives rent and mortgage free?

aSofaNearYou · 13/03/2023 17:30

PighillJamie · 13/03/2023 17:12

It would be very mean to force your sibling to sell, or to ask for rent on your share.

You should let your sister remain living there and you should certainly not charge her rent for the percentage of the house that you own. They are family and families should stick together and support each other.

My brother and I own a 25% share in my parents' house, may eventually own 50% of the house between us. My brother still lives in the house.
Would I ask him to move out to sell the house? No.
Would I ask him to pay rent for 50% of the house? Also No.

I would never even consider for a moment asking him to leave in order to sell, and would never ask him for a penny for rent.

I cannot fathom this mentality at all.

Their parents left their assets to both of them, because they no doubt wanted to provide for them. Why should OP see none of that?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 13/03/2023 17:40

I would never even consider for a moment asking him to leave in order to sell, and would never ask him for a penny for rent

That's absolutely your choice to make, PighillJamie, and presumably you can afford it

However "never" is a long time, and things might look a little different if like OP you were in reduced circumstances and genuinely needed the money

Whatisthisanyidea · 13/03/2023 17:59

They are family and families should stick together and support each other

So it you were in the family home, and your brother was desperate for his share of the money - would this still apply? Family’s stick together - I’ll live rent free whilst keeping your money to myself - hardly sharing is it?

GasPanic · 13/03/2023 18:09

I'd take a guess that far more people are ripped off by family members than are ripped off by outsiders.

Toooldtoworry · 13/03/2023 18:44

GasPanic · 13/03/2023 18:09

I'd take a guess that far more people are ripped off by family members than are ripped off by outsiders.

I'd reckon so too. Death brings out the greed in people.

Blossomtoes · 13/03/2023 18:47

GasPanic · 13/03/2023 18:09

I'd take a guess that far more people are ripped off by family members than are ripped off by outsiders.

That wouldn’t surprise me at all.

NeedToKnow101 · 13/03/2023 19:00

PighillJamie · 13/03/2023 17:12

It would be very mean to force your sibling to sell, or to ask for rent on your share.

You should let your sister remain living there and you should certainly not charge her rent for the percentage of the house that you own. They are family and families should stick together and support each other.

My brother and I own a 25% share in my parents' house, may eventually own 50% of the house between us. My brother still lives in the house.
Would I ask him to move out to sell the house? No.
Would I ask him to pay rent for 50% of the house? Also No.

I would never even consider for a moment asking him to leave in order to sell, and would never ask him for a penny for rent.

Hello OP's sibling

NeedToKnow101 · 13/03/2023 19:03

GasPanic · 13/03/2023 18:09

I'd take a guess that far more people are ripped off by family members than are ripped off by outsiders.

I think so. I was ripped off by my sibling in a similar scenario to the OP. Finally got my half, but it was at least £15k short and he caused me so, so much stress in the process. I don't talk to him now.

I was Googling about it last night actually and apparently inheritance fraud is becoming more and more common. It's largely based on trust and goodwill and is open to abuse.

Daleksatemyshed · 13/03/2023 19:33

I said earlier in the thread that you should just speak to your DS and arrange for the house to be sold. Thinking about it I can understand that you don't want to fall out with her, but she is being very cheeky here and the longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be. As you've not mentioned selling the house directly she can tell herself that you don't mind really, you don't need the money that much, you're happy for her to keep the house in the family. No need to make a row about it, just tell her that you've been happy to let her use the house but now it's time to move on - keep to facts and don't let her emotionally blackmail you. Your DM wanted you both to inherit and it's time that happened.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 13/03/2023 20:20

Have a conversation with your sibling about your feelings. It needs to resolved amicably and also legally sooner rather than later for many reasons. What if something was to happen to your DSis where would that leave you or vice versa? Did the will specify that they could live there? The longer this goes on the more difficult it becomes. Speak to a solicitor and get your facts straight beforehand as to what your options are.

Cantstandbullshitanymore · 13/03/2023 21:29

Pbbananabagel · 12/03/2023 23:05

So my Sibling and I inherited a house from our parents which they have been living in for the last few years.
with the cost of living crisis obviously money is tight for both our families and I am now desperate to either sell to be honest as it would be a life changing amount of money at present.
my sibling obviously has no intention of leaving but says they cannot buy me out at present due to lack of finance herself but this is really impacting on my family of 4 whereas they only have themself and partner to think of as child is significantly older and at Uni now. They pay all bills and maintenance on the house and I’ve never wanted to demand anything more but I feel like I’m being taking my a mug now.

aibu to be really frustrated? I don’t want to piss them off as they’re the only family I have now but I really need to figure out how to move this issue forward.

FYI you made the dailymail or should I say dailyfail

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11853913/My-sister-family-living-house-inherited-ask-leave.html

juice92 · 13/03/2023 21:40

Surely if they aren't paying rent or mortgage money can't be that tight. If their child is at uni (so no childcare) bill, the presumably have very few 'big' bills and won't have done for a while. If they are both working, I don't understand why they can't send you something for honour your share in the house. 40% - 50% of market rent is probably pretty fair. They still wouldn't be paying huge amounts and you'd get something to ease your situation.

Cherrysoup · 13/03/2023 21:52

Sell, don’t rent to family, it will never end well. If she can’t buy you out, it’s an easy decision. She’s being really unfair. See a solicitor and get official.