Anyone else decline every invitation?

[abandonedmadem]

I hate weddings, I don't like socialising in large groups and I don't drive so there is a financial aspect.
My own wedding only had 2 witnesses (I would have had less) and no party. I don't enjoy it. I either make up a fake reason if I don't know them well enough or if I know the person well enough, they know I don't do that stuff.

I was guilted into a baby shower once and what's the point? Ill get a gift if that's what it's all about but I hate parties. I don't drink either which is probably a good reason. Everyone gets drunk and I'm just bored and tired and upset that I'm not sat in my house having a nice relaxing time.

I take my kids to parties but I hate every second and at least I know if I arrive at 2pm I will definitely be leaving at 4pm and nobodies going to try to make me drink or stay.

I know I sound like a dickhead and I am I don't even like seeing all my brothers and sisters and parents at christmas as its just too much for me. Sensory overload I think. Really takes it out of me.

The problem is nobody understands and thinks I don't like them or its rude but surely declining an invitation isn't really rude? I mean I wouldn't invite Sally to my bookclub because I know Sally doesn't read, so don't invite me to your party because you know I don't do parties!

Am I the only one? I feel like I was created wrong, like I'm an alien species sometimes.

"not wanting to engage with people doesn't mean you hate people, one can be an introvert without being a misanthrope!"

Introverts can be sociable, just that they get their energy from being alone so I'd say that not wanting to engage with people at all is more than just being introverted.

I interpreted the statement NOT as meaning that the OP might not mourn her dh's death, but that, because of her lack of socializing, she would have a lonely life if not for her dh and thus might regret her avoidance of social activities if she didn't have her dh. But isn't sure if she would regret it even under those circumstances.

fair enough if that’s how you feel, but I think when you have kids you should make an effort for them, if it’s something they can go to too.