To be raging that DH puked on the carpet

[Willyswaggingfinger]

He's not drunk.
He's had a bad stomach all day, lots of loud burping and moaning that he feels ill. Although he felt well enough to eat a nandos at 2pm.
At around midnight he goes to the bathroom and I hear him retching. He comes back to bed and carries on with the loud burping.
At half past midnight he vomits twice on the bedroom carpet on the way to the bathroom.
Im raging because my argument is that if you feel sick you keep a bowl next to you. I've known a grown adult vomit on the carpet.
He says I'm disrespectful and unkind to have a go at him because he's ill.

Wow. If my DH was so unkind to me whilst I was suffering from a vomit bug I’d be pretty upset.

He isn’t your child, but most couples do try and take care of each other when the other one is ill. It would have saved your carpet too.

Actually I do.
It's how we say "you all".
😊It's not complicated.

Not as bad isn't the same as good.
It's not some kind of moral failure that means you don't deserve help.
I honestly think that if you were fine on some days you would use them to seek help for the not fine days.
Please OP go to the doctor, you don't sound OK, even if you still want to leave your partner you need to be as healthy and strong as possible.

This.

I'd go as far as despising him. I'm not sure I know any couple with the attitude "they're a grownup, why should I do anything for them, they're more than capable of doing it themself" especially when sick.

Oh OP, I started this thinking I was going to tell you YABU to be so unkind but I think you've heard that loud and clear.

I can hear that having your baby 5 months ago was a happy time and you were still in love with your husband then. But about 3 months ago you started to feel indifferent at best (but resentful at worst) towards him. It feels like you're aware that this low mood could be PND but feel reluctant, indifferent or worried about seeking help.. How would you,feel about phoning an organisation like PANDAS anonymously to explore options for PND support? 0808 1961 776 or you can find out more here pandasfoundation.org.uk/

Unless he vomited on the carpet on purpose (unlikely) you are being unreasonable. Have a bit of sympathy and just get the bowl next time!

Please go to speak to someone. Don't give up so quickly on your marriage for your kids sake if not yours.

Who actually says "you all" though?
Unless they are an extra in Steel Magnolias

What a vile comment.

He should have kept a bowl or bucket next to his side of the bed if he felt sick. Though I also think you should have put a bowl next to his side of the bed. It seems that neither of you thought he would actually be sick despite all the signs.

Wow you sound very harsh. Why didn't you get a bowl. I would have got one for Dh and DH would have got one for me. It's working as a team and looking after someone. Yabu. He ill treat him abit nicer. You sound like you can't stand him the way you wrote this. You sound cruel

You and your husband both need to be kind to one another, because it’s sounds like you both might be unwell. I have been there. In fact, I’ve been right there. My husband puked on my freshly painted downstairs loo wall, when we had an 8mo and a 3yo.

Maybe you will speak to someone about PND and then you will still want to divorce him. It doesn’t invalidate your feelings about him, so don’t let that be a reason not to deal with it.

I left it a long time before I dealt with my PND, but eventually I did it for my daughter, not myself.

@Willyswaggingfinger Jesus, you're heartless.

What I would have done in that scenario to help my sick husband - got him a drink, got him a bowel and wipes/towel and asked him if he needed anything to make him feel better. Not berated him on a forum for vomiting. Imagine if a woman had said on here that her husband had a go at her for vomiting on the carpet.

Grow up! He's not a child but he could have done with your support. When I'm ill my husband does the same for me and sometimes you're so sick getting up to get a bowl can make you vomit.

I preusmed from the title this was another drunk as a skunk DH and I was already to come on here and say YANBU but he wasn't drunk, he is ill! He hasn't got himself in this state on purpose. My husband has been ill and puked everywhere once and I cleaned it up and got him a bowl, and more recently I was the pukey one and he returned the favour. I kind of thought this was one of the perks of being in a loving partnership/marriage.

@Willyswaggingfinger you’re getting an unreasonably tough time on this thread particularly given your later posts. Please go and see your GP, it sounds like you’re not yourself and even if your PND is not as bad as before it’s still bad enough to need help.

Fwiw I think your DH was an arse not to get a bucket for himself or ask you to get him one if he was too unwell to do it. Why turn a sickness bug into such a drama by vomiting on the carpet? Grim. And if he didn’t know he was going to be sick how the fuck were you supposed to know?

y’all?’………..Do you live in the Deep South?
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why do people write like this??*

What an odd post - I'd assume yes they probably do live somewhere where they speak like this and write that way because it's how they'd say it.

Another thread reminding me im
glad I’m single

no one to “bark orders” at me when I’m so ill Iv accidentally puked on the floor

wtf

So you specifically tagged her so she wouldn’t miss your post telling her she’s heartless and to grow up? I think speaking to someone with PND like you have done is heartless and incredibly unkind.

When you feel sick you're ever hopeful you won't acne sick or once you have been you're hoping that's it. It's irrelevant he felt well enough to eat hours before as it can come on quickly. Poor guy didn't intend to vomit on the carpet and fetching him a bowl when he's feeling rubbish would have been easier than scrubbing the sock in the night. Please see a Dr as untreated, your PND is likely to get worse

Sometimes you can feel well enough to eat and then it pushed you over the edge. Especially if it's a stomach bug. He's hardly pretending to be sick is he?? My husband is ill atm and he felt well enough to eat a meal yesterday and then halfway through couldn't stomach it and it made him worse.

Some people on here are stuck up numpties to put it politely...

I would have helped my DH if he was unwell.

My DH stopped himself from vomiting a few years ago and ended up damaging his oesphagus leading to a stay in intensive care and many weeks in hospital being fed by tubes. So I'd choose a pukey carpet over that tbh.

When my DH is sick I make sure he's got medicine, water, tissues, vitamins and something to eat and anything else he may need before I leave for work for the day. Yes he is an adult and can look after himself. But when you are sick just getting up and evening thinking straight can be an effort. Show some compassion. You knew he was sick. You should have got a bowl for him.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches sounds like gaslighting to me actually, on her part. If a man was to dissect every little reason why the woman is irritating and is an excuse to leave her it wouldn't be seen in the same light, would it?

Try reading all the OP's posts before you wade in

Those cat/dog urine get-the-smell-out like Out! and Nature’s Miracle work well on vomit @Willyswaggingfinger- you can find them in the pet section at large stores or on Amazon.

I once choked on a bite of chicken and my husband sat there, calmly eating his dinner and watching tv while I struggled and hit the table and watched the edges of my sight blur.
I finally managed to swallow.
A month or so later I left. FTS