To be raging that DH puked on the carpet

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He's not drunk.
He's had a bad stomach all day, lots of loud burping and moaning that he feels ill. Although he felt well enough to eat a nandos at 2pm.
At around midnight he goes to the bathroom and I hear him retching. He comes back to bed and carries on with the loud burping.
At half past midnight he vomits twice on the bedroom carpet on the way to the bathroom.
Im raging because my argument is that if you feel sick you keep a bowl next to you. I've known a grown adult vomit on the carpet.
He says I'm disrespectful and unkind to have a go at him because he's ill.

@liveforsummer are you his mom?

It does sound a bit fancy. I like it

No, what a strange thing to say but making someone accountable for being sick the next day after they'd eaten some food is stretching!

@liveforsummer you just seem to be willing to challenge every single other poster in order to defend him. It's a bit strange.

I hope its not a bug going around you all OP, fingers crossed even if your LO gets it, it would pass quickly. I've always found as babies and toddlers they seem to get over these things really quickly leaving the adults still wiped out days later!

Good luck at the GP. I've been there, got that sertraline t-shirt and come out the other side. Life is so much better now.

I was on zoloft for a year. Not fun but I couldn't properly look after my little when I was bouncing back and forth between tears and rage. PPD manifests differently for everyone too. I didn't think I had it because I was mostly just angry. I didn't know depression could cause anger so I was surprised.

Are you two 18/19 years old?

Person was sick on the carpet, big deal it happens.

Seems like you two need to grow up and sort your life out.

No we're not. We're in our 20s and 30s.

Thanks for your help.

YABU. If I was sick enough to be vomiting multiple times and not make it to the toilet, I would hope that my DH would at the very least get a sick bowl for me.

Your DH didn't do this in purpose.

It sounds like that was a productive talk given your last posts. Well done for agreeing to go to the GP, I hope things improve for you both.

Picture the scene…

‘Hey guys, so yesterday I was feeling rough all day, I felt sick but hadn’t actually been sick. I felt well enough to eat at one point so I thought I was fine. I went to bed and woke up in the middle of the night suddenly needing to be sick and I didn’t make it to the bathroom, it was awful. I feel terrible and I’ve been sick all over the bedroom carpet 😢 What’s worse is my husband saw all this and shouted at me for ruining the carpet - he’s really angry at me and says I need to clean it up myself and I’ve ruined the carpet and the room stinks, AIBU to be really upset by this?’

If I had a £ for every ‘LTB’ or ‘abuser!’ Replies this would get I would be a very wealthy woman indeed. MN double standards are quite frankly insane.

And yes, I recognize that OP has some other issues going on here, I’m really directing this at the people who are just instinctively blaming the man for this.

I've said I will get some help. He said he would never leave because it's clear I need help and support and he knows deep down that the stuff I say about leaving isn't true. I will call the gp this week.

He sounds a good one OP, and I'm very glad you're going to get some help. I think it will do you a lot of good.

It’s good to see that the two of you are talking and trying to work through this together.

My standard advice is that unless there is abuse, don’t make any major marriage decisions in the first year after a baby. It is just too difficult of a time.

you seem like a couple that could really benefit from marriage counseling. Just that little tune up to help.

you really should talk to your GP though. PND takes many forms and the timing is too coincidental to ignore. You don’t have to take medication if you don’t think you need it, but sometimes a trial of a low dose can give you the perspective to realize that you do actually need to be on a real dose. It can also help you work a non-medication program like cbt or much more effectively.

Just to keep the carpet incident in perspective, once DH got so violently ill from both ends that we had to repaint. I drove him to a&e right after it happened. He wasn’t drunk. The doctor’s never did figure out for certain if it was food poisoning or a virus, but he was admitted to the hospital for a week.

That sounds good. I do think your low mood and flattened emotions probably are something to get hep with. I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

And he does sound like a broadly good bloke (even if the football stuff would send me batty) so don't make any hasty decisions about LTB.

All the best.

And to all the people obsessing about sick bowls and Southern expressions, OP is clearly struggling and seems to have PND. I know you're having fun but it's maybe not the time of place. You can start a thread about y'all and sick buckets if you'd like.

I'm glad to read that update OP.

I hope you can get some help & I hope DH will support you while you do.

Hopefully there are better times ahead for you 💐

It's good to see your most recent replies OP. It sounds like you two are generally a good team. I hope you are feeling back to yourself soon xx