To be raging that DH puked on the carpet

[Willyswaggingfinger]

He's not drunk.
He's had a bad stomach all day, lots of loud burping and moaning that he feels ill. Although he felt well enough to eat a nandos at 2pm.
At around midnight he goes to the bathroom and I hear him retching. He comes back to bed and carries on with the loud burping.
At half past midnight he vomits twice on the bedroom carpet on the way to the bathroom.
Im raging because my argument is that if you feel sick you keep a bowl next to you. I've known a grown adult vomit on the carpet.
He says I'm disrespectful and unkind to have a go at him because he's ill.

I’m struggling to understand why anyone would be angry at someone vomiting regardless of where they’ve done it. He’s sick, he didn’t make it to the bathroom in time, show some compassion

Of COURSE the guy should have fetched a bowl, I'd be pissed off too, especially as we all know who's going to end up deep cleaning the carpet. FGS when my 5 and 8 year olds feel mildly nauseous, the first thing they do is politely ask for the sick bowl, or even fetch it themselves. It's just common sense.
However I think the subtext from the start - which OP made clear in her last post - is that she's had enough of this guy, and this is probably the last straw.

I’d say there is a 95% chance both you and the baby are going to be sick too in the next couple of days given the vomit bugs released into the air in the room so on that basis alone I’d be enraged. The extent of how much id show that rage would depend on how much of an accident it was and whether it is reflective of typical selfish and thoughtless behaviour by my husband. In my case, my DH would be MOrTIFED and apologetic so while I’d be inwardly annoyed I’d be supportive. Doesn’t sound like this is your husband however!

It doesn't take much effort to grab a bowl and have it next to the bed or ask your partner to get one for if you feel too ill to do so yourself. I can't even remember the last time any of my children threw up all over the floor let alone any adult. He's not dying ffs.

I think OPs DH sound horrible and inconsiderate. He’s been laying there in bed belching loudly whilst his wife and baby are trying to sleep. He should have stayed on the sofa or somewhere else in the house if he can’t at least keep quiet. There is no doubt in my mind that when the OP and the baby gets the same bug in a couple of days he’ll be off to work leaving her to deal with it.

‘y’all?’………..Do you live in the Deep South?

why do people write like this??

Yabu

I would have asked how he is and then if he had a bowl. If the answer was no I would have told him to get one. Do you not speak to each other especially if one of you has just been throwing up?

Was it really worth the “ your big enough to look after yourself “and get him a bowl

the thing is you’ll probably come down with it so don’t be pissed off when he’s completely unsupportive

I use a bucket, horrified at all this talk of bowls. Also convenient cos you can stick your whole face in

There was another thread recently about strange habits and some one commented
Y’all need Jesus.

For some reason this amused me and I’m smiling now thinking of it.

For years we had a mothercare step which was curved in to fit around the toilet base.
Flipped over it fitted perfectly under the chin as a sick bowl.
In our house if anyone felt sick someone shouted
Fetch the step!

No idea what happened to it but it was a perfect sick bowl.

Did these months go all the way back before you got pregnant?

I didn't make him clean it up, I cleaned it up because he was rubbing it in the carpet.
I totally get he didn't do it on purpose and he's not an arsehole, he's actually a lovely man but just doesn't think. I'm annoyed he didn't get a bowl or put the bin next to him. I don't see why I need to fetch him a bowl when he's capable of doing it himself. I was trying to sleep because I have to do the night feeds.

I think he will actually leave after this, he's reached his limit and I won't see the gp about my mood so his argument is that nothing will change. I'm not cruel to him like some posters think, I don't physically or verbally abuse him and I do like him, I'm just indifferent. I don't hate him, I just don't feel the same about him that I used to. We just want different things, he wants to go out for coffee dates etc like we used to and I want stay at home. He gets excited about everything where I just get stressed about everything.

Thanks for the tips about getting rid of the smell, I'll be at tesco as soon as it opens.

I'm glad I sound awful and he will leave me. It's probably for the best. I've been trying to get him to go for months but he won't, maybe this will give him the push he needs. He keeps saying it's pnd talking but I literally feel nothing.

Out of interest OP, did you choose to have a baby with a man you already disliked, or might your DH be right about the PND?

No of course not. Just the last 2-3 months.

Cross posted. It sounds like seeing the GP would be a good thing. Why aren't you willing to?

No of course I didn't. It's only been the last 2-3 months that my feelings towards him have changed.

I'm just not bothered and I don't know why. How i feel isn't bothering me but it's bothering other people.
I had pnd the first time around but it was really bad. It's not as bad now and I feel like I should be able to pull myself out of it. Some days I'm fine.

Does that not concern you, that your feelings have just switched off? It isn't a sign of weakness to ask for help. And no one is going to judge you/take your baby away, if either of those are concerns you have. It doesn't sound like your DH is a bad man, but you're deliberately sabotaging the relationship and trying to push him to the point of leaving. You're no longer able to feel empathy at all when he's sick. PND is horrible, I've been there, but help is out there if you ask for it.

So you’re willing to turn your children lives upside down by pushing your husband away to the point he feels he has to leave.
to have your children live between two homes, probably primarily with a mother who feels indifferent about things which is a miserable environment to live in.

just because you don’t feel your PND is as bad as the 2st time so can’t be bothered to go to the GP?

be bothered for your children sake. Because for what it’s worth your PND does sound very bad.

Maybe they do?! I live in a southern US state where y’all is vvv common. What’s your issue?!

2-3 months is fast to give up on a relationship unless it's abusive. It sounds like you do need to ask for help.
Go see your GP.

Op go and see the GP. Don’t sabotage your relationship.