Would you feel uncomfortable if your cleaner wore these?

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My cleaner often wears quite revealing leggings, I wouldn't care except my husband often works from home and she also cleans his office which requires bending etc. She's also very attractive. It makes me feel uncomfortable and inferior but I don't feel like I can say anything to her. I personally don't feel this is professional for anyone to be wearing to work, except perhaps if you work in a gym or similar. What do others think? Would you be ok with it?

When your husband leaves the house I think he probably sees attractive women in tight fitting clothing. I assume he does go out- don't have to keep him on a leash?
Leave the cleaner alone, let her wear whatever she likes, and I think this is a time for reflection. Is he a huge and uncontrollable perv or are you insecure?

Wouldn't bother me

People are fed up of women being judged for their clothes. People don’t believe a woman’s clothes choice should be centred around men. Or around insecure women, whose judgement is solely based on fear their husband will run off with the woman wearing those clothes.

It's fine.

If you don't trust your husband that's a whole different story - but it's not the cleaners fault!

@Redebs have we reverted to the 1800's? The Male Gaze? Poor men, not knowing where to look.
@Donnashair totally agree

I'm with you OP.

Sadly , on this issue, you will be besieged by the herd mentality.

Another crap marriage. Insecure jealous woman and lecherous husband. (If this situation is true). This board should be used to teach young people how not to conduct a relationship.

I always think these look like a big puckered arsehole, they make me cringe.

Well I assume he's not a perve, but he has eyes. Even I can't help notice her butt. I'm surprised that so many people aren't bothered by this so obviously I'm in the minority. She's an extremely attractive young Brazilian woman, and well I'm quite far from that at the moment. Clearly IABU. Thanks for the feedback! I doubt I'll feel less secure, but maybe knowing that most of you wouldn't care will give me some perspective.

I agree with you OP. I really don't think it's necessary to have the seam riding up the bum like that. Tbh that's the first time I've seen these type of leggings.

They’re extremely ugly leggings but loads of people like them and if that’s what my cleaner wanted to wear then that’s her business. My husband doesn’t gawp at other women in my presence, or at all as far as I can possibly know. And I trust him not to make a woman working in our home, or me, uncomfortable with his behaviour, so it’s irrelevant to me what leggings a cleaner might wear.

I think you should work on improving your self confidence

Holy hell, it wouldn't bother me what she wore to clean the house, but you have to wonder about the rationale of a stitched in wedgie?

If he isn’t a perv, what’s the issue?

If it’s a case of he can’t help but see, Do you really believe he wouldn’t have noticed how attractive she was if she wore jogging bottoms? That the bottoms will make him go from a decent man, to one that follows her round drooling after her?

Unprofessional to wear comfortable clothing to clean? Would you prefer she wore a suit?

He probably will notice her bum but as long as he's not perving or commenting on it there's no issue.

Oh OP… don’t do it to yourself. You’ll have to lock up half the planet if revealing leggings are going to cause you this much angst.
Just don’t even attempt to manage your cleaner’s attire. It’s not like she’s showing up in pornmaid cosplay and going at your DH’s cock with the feather duster. She’s the one scrubbing your family’s poo streaks from the toilet so… don’t put your angst onto her.
She’s just doing a job. I clean my own house and if you’ve ever done so yourself, you’ll totally understand why leggings and a t shirt are totally appropriate! Plus you get sticky and uncomfortable. Scrubbing a home is heavy labour.
Do explore why you’re feeling this way. Is it stuff you need to work on within yourself? Is it your DH?

I know im missing the point, but why is she cleaning his office whilst he's working in it?

I can guarantee that your extremely attractive, young Brazilian cleaner is not wearing these to try and gain your husbands attention. This will just be here style.

Who in their right mind would wear leggings that purposely dig in like that?!

But I don't think you should worry. If your husband is loyal, a pair of leggings highlighting her bum won't change anything. I'd probably just feel a little sorry for her for feeling she has to show her body off that like

Yeah that's true. He's never given me any reason to think he's a perve. I'm just insecure, which is understandable now because I'm not looking my best, but even when I was pretty hot (if I do say so myself), I was still quite insecure.

YAB ridiculous.

Same!

Perhaps you could provide her with a uniform if you’re unhappy with her clothes? A nice shroud perhaps? Or a niqab would cover her face too so your husband can’t letch at the poor woman then.

I personally don't feel this is professional for anyone to be wearing to work,

Weirdest use of “professional “ I’ve heard to cover just being judgmental.

Totally normal. I had a cleaner years ago, when the kids were tiny, who used to clean the office because my then husband wouldn’t shift his arse to give her 5 minutes alone to tidy the room. He refused to budge. She cleaned around him. Otherwise the room would never have gotten cleaned. He was an arse, my ex.