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AIBU?

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Original poster

… to be so SMUG

136 replies

LittleBrownJug · 09/03/2023 18:55

… I’ve told my partner where to stick it, explained to my 4 year old what mummy’s boundaries are, & stormed off out to a wine bar that is handily around the corner from my house. And I am VERY pleased with my decision.

Can’t recommend this enough to be honest.

OP posts:
DappledThings · 09/03/2023 20:44

Maireas · 09/03/2023 20:37

That's what worries me. They'll be upset and frightened.

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She was cheerily told that Daddy was cooking her tea and Mummy would be back later. What do you imagine a 4 year old would find frightening about that?

jays · 09/03/2023 20:45

Enjoy your wine beautiful woman, sending love, I’d buy you another bottle if I had the chance. 💖

RainLover · 09/03/2023 20:46

Zola1 · 09/03/2023 20:17

Yesss you fucking queen, you deserve that wine. Eat the Portuguese tarts.
I cannot believe you are battling stage 4 cancer, working part time, raising a little one, and he has the brass neck to say anything other than 'I've already done the housework and made the tea'.

Exactly this!! OP I hope you have the best evening, and grab every single ‘smug’ opportunity you can, you bloody deserve it! X

jumperoobaby · 09/03/2023 20:46

Hope you're enjoying your wine and treats. A well deserved breather by the sound of it

Cloudhoppingdancer · 09/03/2023 20:47

You have achieved Greatness. Own your moment.

Supersands · 09/03/2023 20:47

Enjoy! I hope it gives him the kick to sort the mess for when you get home!

Alargeoneplease89 · 09/03/2023 20:50

Well done... I don't blame you! 🍷

SchoolTripDrama · 09/03/2023 20:51

You explained your 'boundaries' to a 4yr old child?

jays · 09/03/2023 20:53

SchoolTripDrama · 09/03/2023 20:51

You explained your 'boundaries' to a 4yr old child?

Please read the OP’s further posts. You’re an absolute embarrassment right now. Just stop.

Justforlaffs · 09/03/2023 20:54

Sending multiple bunches of 💐 🌺 🌸 OP - that's shit x

Lannielou · 09/03/2023 20:54

I hope the wine is going down a treat, and that your husband pulls his head out his arse. Much love xx

foxlover47 · 09/03/2023 20:56

Hope you're on your second glass of wine by now 🍷

Thedogscollar · 09/03/2023 21:06

@LittleBrownJug
Good on you my lovely. Life is for living and sometimes you just need to put yourself first.😘

EconomyClassRockstar · 09/03/2023 21:08

Not only are you definitely NOT BU, this is tempting me to up sticks and go to my local wine bar in solidarity!!

OnlyFannys · 09/03/2023 21:11

Fully support this op and strongly suggest you continue to spend every evening at said wine bar until he bucks his ideas up

FabFitFifties · 09/03/2023 21:12

In fairness to the first few PP, OP didn't come across well in her first post and it did come across that the 4 year old had been exposed to a situation she shouldn't have been. Further context was needed. Having read your update OP, good for you. I hope you have other more supportive and understanding people around you and your daughter.

LemonJuiceFromConcentrate · 09/03/2023 21:14

FabFitFifties · 09/03/2023 21:12

In fairness to the first few PP, OP didn't come across well in her first post and it did come across that the 4 year old had been exposed to a situation she shouldn't have been. Further context was needed. Having read your update OP, good for you. I hope you have other more supportive and understanding people around you and your daughter.

I thought she came across kind of awesomely tbh

TheBigWangTheory · 09/03/2023 21:16

Starseeed · 09/03/2023 19:11

Good for you. Enjoy your wine! Did you know there’s theories suppressed anger is linked to cancer? All the best with your treatment and recovery, and express your anger all you like - it’s healthy!

stupid fucking theory, not to mention offensive

MumoftwoGranofone · 09/03/2023 21:18

Take care OP.

Muu · 09/03/2023 21:24

Enjoy your evening op.

IAteAllTheTomatoes · 09/03/2023 21:25

I'm not sure it's smug but I know that feeling.

When you just think fyck this, I'm done with this crap, it's not good enough, and I quit to go do nice things for me.

It's usually been a long time, overdue and well deserved.

Enjoy that wine!!!

allthegearandnoideaatall · 09/03/2023 21:25

Yes!!! Hope that sharing board was amazing and that the wine was copious. Book the same table for next week! 🍷

cass5 · 09/03/2023 21:30

Enjoy your evening. Do it as often as you need. I admire you.

ArabellaScott · 09/03/2023 21:31

Can you get those wee custard tart things? Get lots. Enjoy your wine. X

Novatherova · 09/03/2023 21:32

Shall we all dump our fellas an go live on a luxury island with cocktails on tap