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Original poster

… to be so SMUG

136 replies

LittleBrownJug · 09/03/2023 18:55

… I’ve told my partner where to stick it, explained to my 4 year old what mummy’s boundaries are, & stormed off out to a wine bar that is handily around the corner from my house. And I am VERY pleased with my decision.

Can’t recommend this enough to be honest.

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LittleBrownJug · 09/03/2023 19:27

shouldhavetakenmorenotice · 09/03/2023 19:19

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I did love this reply. No, she’s not, I brought her with me because I was so cross with my useless partner, but then I got really pissed & I seem to have lost her, she’s probably playing on the main road outside. Never mind - having some more wine!

OP posts:
Wallabyone · 09/03/2023 19:28

Will he have cleaned up by the time you get home? I hope so.
Enjoy the break, and your wine and snacks OP...sending love xxx

userxx · 09/03/2023 19:29

@LittleBrownJug Don't forget letting her play with matches, such fun for the little ones. I'm sure you'll agree.

Wildspace · 09/03/2023 19:30

Good for you. Enjoy your glass of wine and don't hurry going back...

IWineAndDontDine · 09/03/2023 19:30

Sorry? You have stage IV cancer and he complained of no intimacy in the relationship? Can you ask him where he bought his fucking audacity from and if it was expensive?

Vloader23 · 09/03/2023 19:30

Just came here to say OP you are amazing
Enjoy the wine

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 09/03/2023 19:30

Eat your weight in lovely Portuguese food and drink a flagon or two of wine. Have a bloody glorious evening 🍷🍷

JackHackettsMac · 09/03/2023 19:36

🍷🍷🍷 to you OP. Sláinte.

Msloverlover · 09/03/2023 19:40

I think I love you. CHEERS 🥂

Original poster
LittleBrownJug · 09/03/2023 19:40

I love you @IWineAndDontDine. I’ll just WhatsApp & ask him

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HaggisBurger · 09/03/2023 19:41

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SeulementUneFois · 09/03/2023 19:43

Well done OP!
(and ignore the graders on the thread)

MotherOfDemonss · 09/03/2023 19:44

As usual people aren't reading OP's responses to the same thing over and over.

FOR THOSE IN THE BACK, THE 4 YEAR OLD DIDN'T HEAR AND SHE IS SAFE AT HOME WITH HER DAD.

Also worth pointing out you can literally click on a button and see all of OP's posts at once. I guess that's way to hard for you all though 😆

Madeintowerhamlets · 09/03/2023 19:45

Starseeed · 09/03/2023 19:11

Good for you. Enjoy your wine! Did you know there’s theories suppressed anger is linked to cancer? All the best with your treatment and recovery, and express your anger all you like - it’s healthy!

I’m sure you mean well but as someone who has also had stage 4 cancer (now in remission) I hate these theories. It just feels like another way to blame people for having cancer- like they didn’t express their emotions enough. I agree it’s healthy to get anger out but there is absolutely no evidence for any of these woo theories or ideas that ‘cancer is not a disease’ but some cry for help & a chance to work on your well-being . Sorry it makes me so angry.

SatInMySpottyOnesie · 09/03/2023 19:47

Good for you girl 💪🏻
Book yourself a suite in a fabulous spa hotel, nip back, settle your daughter in bed and fuck off with an overnight bag for more wine and a pillow menu
Cheers 🥂

ChimbarasiKotapaxi · 09/03/2023 19:47

I salute you OP

Madeintowerhamlets · 09/03/2023 19:47

Sorry for the derail OP & I admit I am really over sensitive about that type of thing having had people tell me all sorts of ‘theories’ behind why I had cancer.
I just want to say solidarity OP- you should absolutely put yourself first & he needs to bloody well suck it up! Sorry on a rant tonight 🙈.

Strangedarkcloud · 09/03/2023 19:51

Does he realize what stage IV cancer means or is he thinking that actually its not too bad and that you're exaggerating? Depending on your prognosis he could end up sole parent of a child who he doesn't know how to take care of. I hope he wakes up and starts pulling his weight before its too late. I also hope that you continue to grab as much joy as you can and outlive all predictions. Enjoy the wine and food right now and know that we are cheering you on x

GenAndWine · 09/03/2023 19:52

My mum had a theory that a bit of booze and nice food and generally doing what you fancy helps stage 4 cancer. Well perhaps any stage of cancer.

I mean it didn’t cure her, but it made her last couple of years a hell of a lot more fun.

So by that measure, I say enjoy your wine and tiny pots and pickles.

Do you need someone to go kick your DH up the arse before you get back or do you think he might be tidying up and arranging dinner, wine and flowers for you?

Luredbyapomegranate · 09/03/2023 20:02

rothbury · 09/03/2023 18:59

Is the 4 year old safe?

Playing with matches and vodka I imagine.

You know just because the OP has hightailed it off for a negroni doesn’t mean she is a bad mother or a moron. Of course the 4 year old is safe - as is obvious from the OP s/he is at home with his/her father.

SummerHouse · 09/03/2023 20:02

Hero. The DP and DD know this is what you are. They just need reminding every so often in elaborate, memorable, self serving ways. Those little pots of food aren't going to eat themselves.

mommatoone · 09/03/2023 20:07

Good for you OP. Enjoy that wine or 2! 🥂 x

Newnamenewname109870 · 09/03/2023 20:09

Please tell us what you’re having! And maybe this can become a thing? Time to yourself should be very much in the diary.

Olive19741205 · 09/03/2023 20:11

rothbury · 09/03/2023 18:59

Is the 4 year old safe?

Ffs.

AnuSTart · 09/03/2023 20:13

YANBU.
I did this once with far less justification. I was even wearing my jimjams.

Sent him a photo!