To cancel the date and ditch the bloke because of this..

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I've been talking to a man I met online for the past week and a half. We have a date set up for next week. He's very chatty, extremely keen, bordering on too keen really but I was open to seeing how the date. I have been completely put off.

He has taken a picture of me from my social media and sent it to this random bloke (random to me atleast, it's his friend) saying this is the pretty woman I'm taking out next week.

The friend replies "she ain't pretty" and asks him to send a picture of me without a filter on. There's no filter on the picture in the first place.

He then asks him to show him a picture of my teeth!

I know all of this as the guy I'm scheduled to go on a date with thought it would be a great idea to screenshot their exchange and send it to me alongside a request for a picture of my teeth.

Who the fuck does that?

What that says to me is that he has a total disregard for boundaries, my privacy and decency in general. His friend is obviously a prick. Probably the sort who insults people for fun under the guise of "banta mate"

I know I'm not BU for cancelling a date for whatever reason I see fit but do you see this the way I see it or am I being OTT due to embarrassment? How would this make you feel?

I've NC for this.

Oh I see, thank you.

I've read it in a message sent to my DH who thinks it's disgusting x

Coffeepot72 · Yesterday 14:16
I swear we as women were genuinely better off when religion and social rules meant that a man had to ask permission from the Father to take his daughter out, and then had to return her by 10 pm. As women collectively it seems we are shit at exercising self respect or enforcing decent behaviour. And therefore men get away with it

Aww I love a happy ending to a thread, looks like we’ve found this guys perfect match! Someone as misogynistic as he is, who sees women as property that need men to control. Someone who thinks that when men act like cunts, it’s women’s fault - I bet she’d happily send his mate a picture of her teeth for his wise assessment too. ❤️❤️❤️

Block block block!

Teeth? What does he think you are....Shergar? Are you sure he didn't mean to type tits, but spell check changed it to teeth?
There's a reason he's single and looking, he's a wankstain.

Re the pub garden humonculous, his exact words were, "Given enough money I could make do with you...but I bet you're a sh*t to live with"

Oh yes, if only more women had the confidence of these weird mediocre men!

I don’t think it’s unusual for a person to show a friend a picture of someone they are going on a date with. But the rest of it!!! Definitely negging, block and run far away!

Have you ever shown a friend the picture of a prospective date? Did the pair of you have a good giggle over it? Lucky you weren't overheard, isn't it!

@exaltedwombat He wasn’t overheard, he chose to chose the OP, that’s the issue!

This is an easy YANBU the kindest possibility is that the would be dates is immature and holds his Dhead mate in high esteem.
And that's being very kind. You're not being OTT .

Is he a trafficker? Does his buyer have a teeth fetish? Is he just a nasty peice of work? Let's not learn more!

Major red flag - be relieved that you found out this early, block block block!!

Ugh, what a weirdo. So inappropriate.

He's clearly not trying to impress, is he?

Yep, that's so far from appealing behaviour, especially so early on. It's belittling.

What a sexist tosser - you definitely did the right thing to block, just make sure you've blocked him on Instagram and all other social media too!
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Definitely block

In no way shape or form are you BU. What a prick!

Block him

Are you sure he didn't mean to type tits, but spell check changed it to teeth?

Lol

Run away!

and don’t add people you’ve not even been on one date with, to your social media

Take this chance to tell him politely why this is offensive (he and his mate are obvs too thick to understand) then tell him you’d never ever date someone with this mentality and can’t believe he thought you would after those comments. There are so many divvys about.

Whoa….red flags there, definitely cancel and block!

Block and run!!

I’m one of the few that’s saying YABU. Only because it’s common for women to share social media pics amongst their friends and seek approval.

Probably get flamed for it now.

Yes, agree with block him! But tell him why, don't let him paint the 'shes crazy' 'she ghosted me' angle!

What a odd odd man! Sending you a screenshot of someone saying you weren't pretty!

Maybe reply saying I’ve shown your message to my friends they knew without even seeing your photo that you aren’t for me… block