SIL knowingly took DD out in her pjs

[pollydolly09]

DD (2years) normally spends one day of the week with SIL. The night before she had spent at my mums who didn't have any clothes for her to get her dressed in the morning, but knew SIL had some as she checked with her beforehand.

Later in the day, SIL posted a picture of DD in a coffee shop. DD was in her pjs. I asked SIL why she was still in pjs and she said she didn't know she wasn't dressed when she picked her up as she already had her coat on and they went out straight away.

I asked my mum what happened during pick up. She said she apologised for not getting DD dressed in the morning, she didn't have any spare clothes but knew SIL did so thought she would get DD ready before taking her out.

So either my mum is lying or SIL is.

Besides the point, you can tell what a child is wearing underneath their coat. DD's coat goes to just above her thighs. SIL would have been able to see her pj bottoms.

Mentioned this to DH who said he'd speak to SIL, but I don't think he has yet otherwise he would have informed me of the outcome of her conversation.

I've also now made a point of getting DD fully dressed before she goes to SIL. DH normally drops her off first thing, before she's even had breakfast, so she isn't dressed as SIL will dress her before going out (well I thought so anyway).

So AIBU to think that SIL knew DD was in her pjs and took her out anyway?

This happened a week ago, but I can't get it off my mind. I don't know if I should just let it go, but it just makes me so angry that my poor baby was taken out looking unkempt.

If you want your child to only experience things only YOUR way you simply can't use any childcare. PJs are clothes, most toddlers have little to no difference between pj's and day clothes. You're being previous and ungrateful to this heavy lifting by your family in really supporting your daughter and showing an interest.

I also remember deliberately buying a "pj" set for both my girls that was a sort of tunic / shorts combo with their favourite characters on for a holiday outfit. Nobody cared.

You are being very silly

This is a joke, surely? if it isn't a joke, then you most certainly are a joke.

Put it down to a funny story. It’s a pair of pjs.

Get a grip 2!

Look after your own kid if you don't like the way your unpaid childcare does it. Jeez ,op!

I would see where you are coming from if she wasn't wearing a coat, as it's still pretty cold but pj's no. Not a big deal

Who have free childcare. Who really cares?! I'd love family to take my DD out, in any clothes! You are being unreasonable Op

Dear God. No good deed ever goes unpunished, does it? You have free child care and you’re whining because your daughter was wearing pyjamas at a cafe? Your sister-in-law is a living saint. I’d have pulled the pin and told you to find alternative child care.