To think this is bats**t crazy? Don’t know what to do

[Puddingypops]

My DS is 14 and in year 9, his girlfriend from school is 13 and in year 8, they were born in the same year (2009) and there is 7 months age gap between them. She is also FAR more mature than my son, because she’s a girl!

apparently if now you go out with someone in the year below you are a none and pe*o and every other foul name under the son.

my lad is getting the most vile abuse at school but I don’t even know what to do because it’s everyone, in every year group and it’s constant, being shouted at in corridors, voice messages to his phone saying he’s weird and should be locked up, people approaching him at school and saying what he is doing is wrong.

I checked with other kids in other schools and it’s true there too?!?!? When the hell did this happen? When I was at school girls went out with boys in the year above!

Ive spoken to my lad about what he wants to do because he can’t stand the bullying, he’s gone from being really popular to a total pariah in 3 months.

Honestly if he's getting bullied by most of the school I would be moving him elsewhere.

This is mental. I had a boyfriend when I was in Y9 who was 6 months younger than me, but the same year group. We held hands, snogged and went to the cinema together.

This wasn’t a thing when I was at school, plenty of people in my Upper school had boy or girlfriends in the year above or below them. We’d have probably have found it weird and gross if it was someone in Y13 going out with a Y9, but it otherwise wasn’t a big deal.

It was quite normal in my school (90's) for 13 year olds to be going out with older boys. I remember a friend having a boyfriend in his 20s at 13 - not saying that's right, it's obviously very not, but nobody batted an eyelid at the time. Which is bizarre looking back on it.

My D is in year 10. Bf yr 11. Have Ben together 18m. The ragging only lasted a month. It will get better.

Been.

It is absolutely ridiculous that he is being bullied for this. When I was 15 I was going out with someone who was 18. My parents didn't mind and neither did anyone else.

I would definitely speak to the school and stress that you do not want it mentioned in assembly as it would in all probability identify your son as being the victim of this cruel bullying. They need to be very discreet in how they deal with this matter.

Schools seem to be awful places these days. Even in junior school boys appear to be calling each other gay - as an insult. I can only think children are picking up this nastiness from the world around them. If only adults could set some sort of example and act like decent human beings rather than follow this mob mentality.

I do hope you can get this sorted out with the school. It must be awful for your son - and for you.

They have broken up. He couldn’t handle it.

That’s sad.. Hopefully they can still hang out as friends. Which is all kids really are when dating xx

You know what, none of this has anything to do with who says they are dating who etc.

What's really happening is that some little bully has singled him out and started this rumour to be cruel and get a kick from it, they then all latch onto it as they find it funny and love the drama

It's common nowadays for bullying to move online to texts, WhatsApp voicemail and social media.

Stop trying to blame a 13 /14 year old child. The bullies are to blame end of.

He hasn't done anything at all to warrant this.

He's broken up with her now, the bullies won't stop immediately, not until they find someone else's life to ruin.

Don't look to the victim for the reason this has happened look to the bully that started it. Do you think they started it out of genuine concern? No, they started it because the are a little sh**t.