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Sunday morning lifts and bloody McDonald's

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 21:01

Just a rant really.
My partner is going to away football to tomorrow. He'll be out of the house all day from 8am to 9pm. He's asked me for a lift to the train station, but not content with that he wants to go via McDonald's for a breakfast. It's slightly out of the way and will mean leaving house at 7:30am to get an 8:45am train, thus adding extra time on, probably means get up at 6:30am. I know that isn't that early for some people but I work 4 days and we have an early start Saturdays for DDs hobby. Sunday is the only day we have that's more relaxing. I have to get DD (5) sorted up and dressed etc.
He said the reason he wants to go to McDonald's is he won't have any other chance to eat anything all day! I find this hard to believe! The train journey is long but what about the other 10 hours? Anyway, we had a big argument and he said I'm a moaning cunt and that I'm making him drink on an empty stomach. Aww ..didums! 13 hours free time on a Sunday apparently isn't enough 🙈 it all seems a bit ungrateful.

I've no issue with the lift I just don't want to go to McDonald's at 8am on a Sunday morning thus likely making us late. The one nearby has issues with being short staffed and getting orders wrong, so I've no doubt it wouldn't be straightforward. We do have food in the house to eat for breakfast, he just doesn't want it.
AIBU?

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:37

@Theoldwoman I know, me too. But not everyone would or does.

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:37

@Theoldwoman Or do you mean the lift and McDonald's?

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:38

I've given him so many lifts in the past, in various states of his drunkeness at all different times of the day (and night!) I just want a little more respect this time round.

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Devoutspoken · 04/03/2023 22:39

Not me, sorry, kids come first, and sorry if i have missed it, why can't he get himself to his own obsession?

AlwaysLatte · 04/03/2023 22:39

DH and I do favours for each other like early/late station lifts, getting up early for whatever reason, etc. it's pretty even. But if either of us called the other that I think that would be the end of the relationship.

Motnight · 04/03/2023 22:40

Theoldwoman · 04/03/2023 22:36

I would do it in a heartbeat for any family member. It’s what we do for each other.

Before or after they call you a cunt?

DocCee · 04/03/2023 22:40

Headabovetheparakeet · 04/03/2023 21:08

It concerns me that him calling you a cunt isn't the part that bothers you the most.

Same! He’d be 100% gone.

Helenloveslee4eva · 04/03/2023 22:40

Do you not have food in the house 😂

he can eat breakfast and pack sarnies for the train too !

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:40

Tbh one of the reasons I don't want to do it this time is he would never do it for me, particularly if for a jolly. He's no good at getting up in the mornings generally.

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:42

@Helenloveslee4eva Of course we do!

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Devoutspoken · 04/03/2023 22:42

Tell him to make some porridge, it'll keep him fuller for longer, although he's already full of shit

Remaker · 04/03/2023 22:44

Bloody hell, is there any wonder you don’t want to help him when he speaks to you like that? My husband got up early this morning to take our son to his sport. The milk was unexpectedly off so he raced to the supermarket to buy more (and a fresh sourdough loaf while he was there) not for himself but so I would have something in for my breakfast when I got up.

He’s treating you like a slave OP, he can buy himself some sandwiches at the station FFS.

Ruffpuff · 04/03/2023 22:44

At first I thought, ‘oh just get him the McDonald’s’. Then I saw he called you a cunt. He should be getting a taxi.

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:44

@Devoutspoken You know that's exactly what I said! We have loads in and it's what I'll be eating for breakfast. But no, not interested.

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SunshineLoving · 04/03/2023 22:45

No way is it acceptable for him to call you that. Completely wrong.

I would do lifts like this for my DP but I don't think it's fair to get your DD up so early on a Sunday. It's up to you and your DP whether you choose to do these early mornings at the weekends but imposing this on your DD and risking her being tired at school all week is a bit much.

Anyway, I would seriously be reconsidering your relationship when your DP thinks it's acceptable to talk to you the way he has done.

Muu · 04/03/2023 22:46

If my partner called me a moaning cunt I wouldn’t do a bloody thing for him.

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:48

I just want to say that I give him lifts regularly, and always have done in our relationship. He has done less so for me.
My issue with it this time is it's early on a Sunday and the only chance me and DD get to relax, the inconvenience and being called a cunt.

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Headabovetheparakeet · 04/03/2023 22:48

@paulaparticles

Im sorry you have such low standards for your life.

arethereanyleftatall · 04/03/2023 22:49

I think youve completely missed the point @paulaparticles
Of course loving couples do this or other favours for each other all the time. It's one of the lovely things of being in a lovely relationship with a lovely man - you're kind to each other.
That isn't what's happening here though is it?!? He's vile.

Devoutspoken · 04/03/2023 22:50

Why do you give him lifts regularly? Can he not drive?

askmenow · 04/03/2023 22:51

Theoldwoman · 04/03/2023 22:36

I would do it in a heartbeat for any family member. It’s what we do for each other.

No you wouldn't! Not when you'd been repeatedly undermined, denigrated and abused. There's more to this than meets the eye and OP has said as much. A high earner exerting coercive control.

What type of person would drag a small child out of bed 30 mins early just so they can pickup a McD enroute to a child free jolly with mates..... Says it all..

NoWayRose · 04/03/2023 22:53

Nasty piece of work. No one should be calling you so much as an idiot, let alone a cunt.

Plus he doesn’t have the wherewithal to make himself a sandwich?

Bin

78Summer · 04/03/2023 22:54

How horrible. You should not be called that awful word. Plus why can he not just get up and make himself egg and beans on toast. He sounds very selfish.