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Sunday morning lifts and bloody McDonald's

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 21:01

Just a rant really.
My partner is going to away football to tomorrow. He'll be out of the house all day from 8am to 9pm. He's asked me for a lift to the train station, but not content with that he wants to go via McDonald's for a breakfast. It's slightly out of the way and will mean leaving house at 7:30am to get an 8:45am train, thus adding extra time on, probably means get up at 6:30am. I know that isn't that early for some people but I work 4 days and we have an early start Saturdays for DDs hobby. Sunday is the only day we have that's more relaxing. I have to get DD (5) sorted up and dressed etc.
He said the reason he wants to go to McDonald's is he won't have any other chance to eat anything all day! I find this hard to believe! The train journey is long but what about the other 10 hours? Anyway, we had a big argument and he said I'm a moaning cunt and that I'm making him drink on an empty stomach. Aww ..didums! 13 hours free time on a Sunday apparently isn't enough 🙈 it all seems a bit ungrateful.

I've no issue with the lift I just don't want to go to McDonald's at 8am on a Sunday morning thus likely making us late. The one nearby has issues with being short staffed and getting orders wrong, so I've no doubt it wouldn't be straightforward. We do have food in the house to eat for breakfast, he just doesn't want it.
AIBU?

OP posts:
Kebsta86 · 04/03/2023 22:21

I’m glad I’m not the only one thinking this.

MrsKeats · 04/03/2023 22:22

Reading this makes me feel I live in a parallel universe.
I would not put up with any of this: or expose my children to it.

PinkRiceKrispies · 04/03/2023 22:22

Um, no.
He sounds vile and you deserve better. How dare he call you that. Angry on your behalf. Please don't let this continue as it will become normalised behaviour.

Emotionalsupportviper · 04/03/2023 22:22

reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 21:01

Just a rant really.
My partner is going to away football to tomorrow. He'll be out of the house all day from 8am to 9pm. He's asked me for a lift to the train station, but not content with that he wants to go via McDonald's for a breakfast. It's slightly out of the way and will mean leaving house at 7:30am to get an 8:45am train, thus adding extra time on, probably means get up at 6:30am. I know that isn't that early for some people but I work 4 days and we have an early start Saturdays for DDs hobby. Sunday is the only day we have that's more relaxing. I have to get DD (5) sorted up and dressed etc.
He said the reason he wants to go to McDonald's is he won't have any other chance to eat anything all day! I find this hard to believe! The train journey is long but what about the other 10 hours? Anyway, we had a big argument and he said I'm a moaning cunt and that I'm making him drink on an empty stomach. Aww ..didums! 13 hours free time on a Sunday apparently isn't enough 🙈 it all seems a bit ungrateful.

I've no issue with the lift I just don't want to go to McDonald's at 8am on a Sunday morning thus likely making us late. The one nearby has issues with being short staffed and getting orders wrong, so I've no doubt it wouldn't be straightforward. We do have food in the house to eat for breakfast, he just doesn't want it.
AIBU?

You are making him drink on an empty stomach?

Any place that sells booze, sells food, even if it's just salty snacks to make him drink more.

Tell him to get himself a bag of pork scratchings.

Kebsta86 · 04/03/2023 22:22

Headabovetheparakeet · 04/03/2023 21:08

It concerns me that him calling you a cunt isn't the part that bothers you the most.

I’m glad I’m not the only one thinking this!

paulaparticles · 04/03/2023 22:23

I would have just done it. I mean seriously would none of you on here do this for your husband 😬 ok without the name calling but aren't we supposed to help each other out in a relationship. Then you wonder why so many split up nowadays.

kitsuneghost · 04/03/2023 22:24

Make him a piece n cheese and stick it in a bag with an apple and bag of crisps. No need for McDonald's now.

Original poster
reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:26

@paulaparticles I have done this kind of thing in the past, when he was kinder to me and when we didn't have a young child.
But it seems so rude and ungrateful.

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Fuckityfuckfuck123 · 04/03/2023 22:26

Now we've ascertained that you're a many cunt, he can pay for a taxi driver to take him for a happy meal on the way to the train station.
Please spend the time instead figuring out why you accept such a pathetic man referring to you as a cunt in your life

Original poster
reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:26

@kitsuneghost That's a good idea

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Motnight · 04/03/2023 22:27

Op do you like him? Because I don't think that he likes you.

Headabovetheparakeet · 04/03/2023 22:28

paulaparticles · 04/03/2023 22:23

I would have just done it. I mean seriously would none of you on here do this for your husband 😬 ok without the name calling but aren't we supposed to help each other out in a relationship. Then you wonder why so many split up nowadays.

Does your husband call you a cunt?

Original poster
reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:28

@Motnight I used to but it's been a tough few years ..

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MrsKeats · 04/03/2023 22:29

I'm assuming that's sarcasm paula

JudgeRudy · 04/03/2023 22:29

So there's absolutely nothing in the house that he likes, he's not prepared to nip put and by something like a meal deal, the train station cafe is closed and 5he buffet will be closed....likewise at the other end. There won't be one burger ba/ takeawy or chips hope in or near the stadium but.........surprise surprise somehow he's going to be able to buy alcohol, plenty I'd guess and thanks to you he's going to be forced to get drunk because he'll be drinking on an empty stomach....HaHa

Can't wait for your trip out.
I suspect you might need to pick up a mascara from 24hr tesco, or maybe do a detour to Sarah's mums so she can drop the dog off...

Intransigentcat · 04/03/2023 22:30

Nobody who loves you calls you a moany cunt.

It's as simple as that.

There's a better life waiting for you OP.

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:30

@JudgeRudy Sorry but that made me laugh. You've met his family then 🤣

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Snazzysausage · 04/03/2023 22:32

The first time my DH called me a moaning cunt or cunt of any sort would be the first and last time. Getting a lift would be the least of his worries. How depressing that so many men have so little respect for their wife/partner,let alone little ones hearing it said to their mother.

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:32

@Intransigentcat Thank you ...I hope so. One day.

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Orangeslemon · 04/03/2023 22:32

Hope you’re able to have a lovely lie in tomorrow reddwardgeek Flowers

Bobbybobbins · 04/03/2023 22:33

OP please do not accept someone disrespecting you in this way. Your life would be better without him.

Devoutspoken · 04/03/2023 22:34

Paulaparticles, and why can't a grown man feed himself and get himself to the football? He sounds like a toddler

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reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:35

@Snazzysausage You're very right and I think that one of the reasons he doesn't want to split up (I have brought it up in the past) is because I do things for him and enable this behaviour. So many women just wouldn't put up with it at all!
My DD doesn't have a great relationship with her dad as he doesn't do things with her or spend much time with her. I wish it were more easy to get out. But he's the high earner and I have no family or friends who would take us in or help me out.
I'm determined that it will not always be this way though.

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Original poster
reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 22:36

@Orangeslemon Thank you 🤞 Flowers

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Theoldwoman · 04/03/2023 22:36

I would do it in a heartbeat for any family member. It’s what we do for each other.

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