I'm giving a lift - he's taking the credit

[thebluehen]

So, we are going out tomorrow night with friends. I spoke to DP and offered to drive, he then suggests we pick up one of the other couple's too. I agreed and he said he would let them know.

Now I see on a group chat between us all, those friends are thanking DP for giving them a lift. He won't be giving them a lift as I will be driving - and making the sacrifice of not having a drink, which I do quite regularly so his friends are aware of who ends up not drinking.

AIBU to think DP should now comment in the group chat and correct them that actually he won't be driving but I will be??

He also makes offers for people to come round to dinner without asking me. DP doesn't ever do any food shopping and cooks about 3 times a year.

Both these things make me feel disrespected.

I have no problem in giving the lift and I have no problem with people coming round - it is the way he deals with it that offends me.

What do you think?!

This will be tip of the ice berg

I think there are two separate issues here.

You driving - they are under the impression your partner is doing the driving, but they will find out on the day that it is you. No doubt they will thank you then.

Your partner asking people round for meals without consulting you is, I think, disrespectful, and he should at the very least be helping with shopping and preparation.

Did she offer the lift or did he?

Has to be. Nobody is bothered about this as a one off. But as a pattern of ignoring her feelings, taking her for granted, making decisions without consulting her and generally taking credit for when she does something good, then it makes more sense that this would just be another time to be pissed off with him.

Exactly but op denied

different benchmark for happiness I suppose