To think if you work with people or children you should not be rude?

[StopInvolvingMe]

Why are some people rude in the work place? It’s annoying me!

I visit schools each week to work with children and often have to go in classes to get specific children. There’s a particular person who is always very abrupt and rude to me. She talks to me like I’m one of her yr 2’s. Talking more slowly, emphasising words as if I’m stupid. She never smiles and acts like I am an annoying inconvenience because I’m interrupting her! She also tries to manage when I should visit- I’m more than flexible by the way and totally get some times are not convenient (eg I avoid core subjects sessions) but it’s yr 2 who are doing painting mainly when I’m there.

I spoke to the Head and it turns out this person is not even in a teacher (I had assumed she was the teacher as she’s always quick to respond when I go into the class) she’s the TA for Gods sake! Head then laughed and said she thinks she’s actually in charge and runs the school and rolled her eyes 😂 and offered to have a word with her. (I realise this is not personal and she likes no one)

so if you don’t like people / children why would you work in this environment? I don’t get it.

May be you’re Ms Trunchball too 🤣

I work for the kids. I'm paid by the govenment.

Sometimes it can be used to designate importance. And to be fair you mentioned your important qualifications and implied your importance over whatever was happening in class.

I went for the most important well qualified school visitors i could think off.

I’ve been neither of those, just factual

My guess is she does not teach art 🤣🤣

Well I might do?!

‘Liaising with the ht’ 🤣

I always grit my teeth when I send kids out for music lessons. I never understand why they cant be organised outside of school

The problem with this whole thread is the apparent belief that rude behaviour is somehow even less acceptable in a TA than a teacher. It was wholly unnecessary to argue she “wasn’t even a teacher” and then belligerently continue to attempt to justify that.

If you teach art Have you considered art therapy as a satisfying career choice? I know a couple of kids whose lives have been turned around by art therapy....

Oh, ha, ha - a headteacher who lets an art teacher come into school and interrupt lessons when they clearly hold art in such contempt that they let the teacher leave the class when the children are painting? 🤣

Surely the OP can't be a music teacher? I mean music teachers are great and all that but really?

@MichelleScarn I'd hazard a guess that op is not quite sure of the qualifications needed to become a play therapist - hence the derogatory tone!

Music teacher here. I often have to fetch children who have forgotten their time and i feel awful interrupting a lesson. Luckily, most class teachers are understanding. It is noticeable that I am micro managed much more in junior or prep schools than in high schools, despite my years of training and experience. Sympathy to the OP.

Then you should blame the school for offering them, not the teacher that the school (often) employs.

OP confirmed they work directly for the parents.

They liase with the head

I reckon you are a SALT.

Are you being fascetious?

Yes I agree with that. But as a parent there's no way my kid would be missing maths or whatever subject to learn an instrument. But sadly it is often poorer families who need to use the local subsidised music service who end up losing learning

Liaise has two i’s

Parents don't usually pay for this directly though do they? Although the one that worked in my school was incredibly miserable and rude and the children didn't like her either.

Ooooh get you all snooty- not condescending at all 🤣

I have to add her colleague who took over from her was lovely. No generalisations here.

No, parents don’t pay for this

Yes they can. The private SALTs I know are lovely though.

@StopInvolvingMe is modelling the the right behaviour to the children, the TA is not.

No need for anyone to be rude in a professional environment, particularly around children.

The head was unprofessional talking about a member of staff but that shows she clearly has form. If the TA is annoyed about disruptions then she should take it up with the head or she could even mention it to the OP.

So many people making assumptions about WHY the TA is rude without knowing. Bottom line is she is rude and the OP hasn't been rude. OP has raised it with the head and the TA can also raise it with the head is she has a problem. It's that simple.