AIBU to not use the baby name we picked because she has used it?

[Elciekay]

So I'll try to be as unemotional about this as possible and this is incredibly outing but I'm genuinely at a loss as what to do.

Also this is my first ever thread and I'm not 100% sure on all the MN acronyms!

I have a step-sister who I lived with since I was aged 6 until 15 (she went to university). Our family consists of my mum, brother, me and my sted-dad and two step-sisters.

DSS is 4 years older than me. She became pregnant last spring/summer. I became pregnant last summer. Her due date was 8 weeks before mine. Both expecting girls.

DSS told my mum she liked the name Josephine. My mum told her Elciekay has chosen that name.

DSS said 'oh well we are going to call her Joey and Elciekay can call hers Josie'

Fast forward to today and DSS has finally told my Mum she named her daughter Josphine (4 weeks old)

I am very upset as I had my heart set on Josephine/Josie.
I am due in 4 weeks.

So my question is, do I use the name anyway or not? Yes we have other options but none feel quite right.

For what it's worth the family get together now between 8-10 times a year.

So:

• AIBU it's a name, who cares if they have the same name?

• YANBU they can't have the same name, pick something else

Not everyone has the same beliefs - someone told me after I’d had a miscarriage that they believed the soul of your lost baby would just stick with you, and wait for the next opportunity to have you as a Mum. I felt really comforted by that, and luckily for me DS came along.

For me, it would have been absolutely fine to use the same name if I’d chosen one already.

Congratulations Elciekay Ottilie/Tilly are lovely names.

Oh and congratulations OP - that’s a lovely name!

Lovely name, congratulations.

Use it as a middle name but I'd find it weird if you named your DD after your angel baby, and you don't know how your DD would react when she's older.

Congratulations @Elciekay - a beautiful name.

I just would not call my child the same name as the child I lost. Please never let your child know you did that if you decide to do so.

Sorry hadn't RTFT Ottilie is a fab and beautiful name and I am glad you didn't use your other child's name

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