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Pissing on the seat

108 replies

cocksstrideintheevening · 28/02/2023 21:17

Ffs. This has been an issue for years. I have in the past wiped his toothbrush in the piss. We only have one toilet.

Once again I've sat in piss and I'm at the end of my rope.

I don't care if he leaves the lid up, I'll happily put it down, I just don't want to sit in piss. I wouldn't sit in a public toilet with piss on the seat so why should I in my own home.

I am royally fucked off and ranting.

OP posts:
ShakespearesBlister · 28/02/2023 21:18

Does he know about the toothbrush? If not maybe it's time you told him.

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/02/2023 21:18

When you get to the point of rubbings your partner's toothbrush in piss, all respect and affection is clearly gone.

Why do you stay with someone you clearly hold in contempt?

fairgame84 · 28/02/2023 21:18

I don't understand how he can miss a massive hole and get it on the seat.

fairgame84 · 28/02/2023 21:18

The toothbrush is too far though.

drpet49 · 28/02/2023 21:19

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/02/2023 21:18

When you get to the point of rubbings your partner's toothbrush in piss, all respect and affection is clearly gone.

Why do you stay with someone you clearly hold in contempt?

This.

Cas112 · 28/02/2023 21:21

I'm sorry but you should have left him before rubbing his toothbrush in piss

UWhatNow · 28/02/2023 21:22

He has no respect for you but in fairness if it’s ‘been an issue for years’ and he’s still getting away with it you’ve only got yourself to blame imo. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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cocksstrideintheevening · 28/02/2023 21:23

Oh I told him, I'm not that mean but ffs just piss in the toilet

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InsertSomethingMotivationalHere · 28/02/2023 21:23

Pathetic overreaction.
If you have in fact wiped his toothbrush in piss (which I doubt) you're an abusive, spiteful object who shouldn't be with anyone.

Peppermint81 · 28/02/2023 21:23

Hope you are ranting at him!! Go full on every time he does it then he may slowly learn

SleepyHedgehog · 28/02/2023 21:25

I literally have the same problem! Minus the toothbrush incident.... Small droplets and a fine mist from the stream all over 9 til 3 o'clock, big ol drops at 6 o'clock. It's so rank.
No amount of kicking off has made any difference at all. It is utterly unsolvable. He says he was never taught to put the seat up as a child so it doesn't occur to him.
Please share any solutions to this!

UWhatNow · 28/02/2023 21:30

These are grown men presumably? They can show some respect and clean up. They choose not to.

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cocksstrideintheevening · 28/02/2023 21:35

InsertSomethingMotivationalHere · 28/02/2023 21:23

Pathetic overreaction.
If you have in fact wiped his toothbrush in piss (which I doubt) you're an abusive, spiteful object who shouldn't be with anyone.

💀

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StarsSand · 28/02/2023 21:36

Love the toothbrush idea OP.

InsertSomethingMotivationalHere · 28/02/2023 21:44

cocksstrideintheevening · 28/02/2023 21:35

💀

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Makes her partner swill his own piss without realise, but I'm the 💀 one?! 😮

5128gap · 28/02/2023 21:46

Either leave him, or check the seat before you sit down.

SlightlySusan · 28/02/2023 21:48

Have you tried looking at the seat before you sit on it?

In all seriousness, I have a serial seat pisser. 16 years and he's not completely stopped but is much better. DP had a problem with his foreskin being tight and unable to pull back which he says was the cause. It wasn't for the first ten years but was for the latter. Could yours have the same issue?

StarsSand · 28/02/2023 21:48

@InsertSomethingMotivationalHere

She told him beforehand.

He's happy for his piss to be her problem. She flipped it on him and made it his problem as well.

MajorCarolDanvers · 28/02/2023 21:49

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/02/2023 21:18

When you get to the point of rubbings your partner's toothbrush in piss, all respect and affection is clearly gone.

Why do you stay with someone you clearly hold in contempt?

This.

The toothbrush thing is appalling.

HirplesWithHaggis · 28/02/2023 21:50

Put both seat and lid down every time it's used. It's as easy for him to lift both at once as it is for you to just lift the lid, and the seat won't be available to be pissed on.

StarsSand · 28/02/2023 21:50

@MajorCarolDanvers

I think pissing on the seat every day for years and not cleaning up after yourself is appalling.

BankOfDave · 28/02/2023 21:51

I just don’t get this. Is he not embarrassed he’s left wee all over the seat? If I accidentally pee on the floor I’m not just gonna leave it.

If you sprinkle whilst you tinkle, be a sweet and wipe the seat 😂

Cling film on the toilet?

Sorry no helpful suggestions as this sounds like War of the Roses.

Aquamarine1029 · 28/02/2023 21:52

SlightlySusan · 28/02/2023 21:48

Have you tried looking at the seat before you sit on it?

In all seriousness, I have a serial seat pisser. 16 years and he's not completely stopped but is much better. DP had a problem with his foreskin being tight and unable to pull back which he says was the cause. It wasn't for the first ten years but was for the latter. Could yours have the same issue?

Ok, he has a physical issue, but he should then clean off the toilet seat.

Why some of you choose to live with these neanderthals is absolutely beyond me. These men have zero respect for you.

InsertSomethingMotivationalHere · 28/02/2023 21:57

StarsSand · 28/02/2023 21:48

@InsertSomethingMotivationalHere

She told him beforehand.

He's happy for his piss to be her problem. She flipped it on him and made it his problem as well.

You think piss on the seat, which can been seen and easily cleaned - although obv not ok - is the same is deliberately making a person unknowingly brush their teeth with urine? You're foul.

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/02/2023 22:09

SlightlySusan · 28/02/2023 21:48

Have you tried looking at the seat before you sit on it?

In all seriousness, I have a serial seat pisser. 16 years and he's not completely stopped but is much better. DP had a problem with his foreskin being tight and unable to pull back which he says was the cause. It wasn't for the first ten years but was for the latter. Could yours have the same issue?

How exactly does his foreskin stop him lifting the seat? Or wiping it up?