Pissing on the seat

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Ffs. This has been an issue for years. I have in the past wiped his toothbrush in the piss. We only have one toilet.

Once again I've sat in piss and I'm at the end of my rope.

I don't care if he leaves the lid up, I'll happily put it down, I just don't want to sit in piss. I wouldn't sit in a public toilet with piss on the seat so why should I in my own home.

I am royally fucked off and ranting.

Call him back into the bathroom each and everytime he's pissed on the seat.

Just stand there pointing at it.

My kids soon learnt to aim better / clear it up.

😂 Absolutely! The invective there is spot on. Women really are their own worst enemies.

I thought my husband was weeping on the seat but it was actually him being careless when washing his hands afterwards.

The loo sink is one of those tiny ones.

There is absolutely no reason for a male to leave a mess other than laziness or disrespect. The only exception would be a toddler who is still learning or someone infirm or with disabilities.

Everyone else should either sit to pee or clean up after themselves.

Shortly after we got married I was horrified by the splatters in the bathroom- I showed DH- he had never realised and since then has either knelt or sat to pee.

Start as you mean to go on- call them out on it every time!

@LookingOldTheseDays oh I agree with that!

It's vile and annoying but this is a flaw I can live with. Im not missing the point that they should clean it up and he does 9/10 but he didn't used to and we talked about it. He's never done it out of disrespect. Now after many many years together, I accept it as one of his few flaws. I have mine too that he's not so fond of.

Sorry there is no excuse for allowing your wife or worse, your daughter, to inadvertently sit in your piss that you couldn’t be bothered to wipe up. Any decent man would only need that lesson once. You’re making excuses for the indefensible.

wow that's so disgusting...
First, I can understand you that you must be completley upset as I have been in a similar situation as you, except that I lived in a HMO and there was another stranger who was not upto hygiene standards and I had to clean this subjects piss every day from the toilet seat...

My approach was to confront this subject and make him aware that we both use the downstairs shower / toilet and that there are regularly piss marks on the toilet seat. Since then the situation worsened and there were many other antisocial behaviour displays like playing loud rap music in the middle of the night with full bass on so that my walls next door are trembling, or on another occassion tempering with my private food belongings when I found dirt inside my milk, insulting comments ...

I have also reported him to the landlord, or it's representatives the landlord's agency who reacted quickly by sending a round email to all tennants reminding everybody of the house rules.

I havn't been treated like that before in the past and it all started when I moved into this house.
I can only imagine that this gentlemens social and family networks must have thought him to treat others in such a manner ... on the other hand, another occupier in this very same house verbally abused and accused me of colonialism and slavery the very next day after I moved in ... I don't want to tell this story here now, but it had a very bad impact on me as well ...

My position and case might be similar to your's but at least I have the opportunity to move out since I am only a tennant at this property.
I have made a horrible experience and I am happy when I have left this place and don't need to see or have contact with this subject any more.

To come back to your story and the revenge part with the toothbrush, it should never escalate that far because at this point it also impacts your mental health in a bad way. Basically you are lowering your moral standards to his low standards which you tried to avoid in the first place.

My piece of information is of general advice like obvious things, approaching him to make him aware that you feel bad if the toilet seat is not clean. If that doesnt help then to have a discussion with the wider family to address the issue about keeping bathroom areas clean for the whole family to enjoy.

All the best, J