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Pissing on the seat

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cocksstrideintheevening · 28/02/2023 21:17

Ffs. This has been an issue for years. I have in the past wiped his toothbrush in the piss. We only have one toilet.

Once again I've sat in piss and I'm at the end of my rope.

I don't care if he leaves the lid up, I'll happily put it down, I just don't want to sit in piss. I wouldn't sit in a public toilet with piss on the seat so why should I in my own home.

I am royally fucked off and ranting.

OP posts:
MakingTheVeganYorkshirePud · 01/03/2023 01:23

My friend once said to me that she thought it was lovely that I didn't piss on her toilet seat, unlike her dirty DH and DS. I corrected her by saying 'oh, I have pissed on your toilet seat, I just wipe it off if I do dribble'. Her face was a picture 😂

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/03/2023 01:27

He's been told, he just doesn't care. He's happy for you to sit in piss, or clean his piss for him, even though he knows it upsets you.

I can't imagine he's a respectful, kind and loving man in ever other aspect of life.

Many German men sit to pee. That's a civilised choice if you are incapable of aiming or cleaning.

Idkrealorfake · 01/03/2023 01:42

People like you are the reason I'd never leave my toothbrush in any bathroom, even my own.

Your dh is gross.

Great match really.

StarsSand · 01/03/2023 01:42

@InsertSomethingMotivationalHere

She said she told him beforehand. He didn't unknowingly put urine in his mouth. RTFT.

And yes, if he is content for his urine to be her problem, I see no issue in her ensuring that it will be his problem too. Clearly he doesn't give a damn about inconveniencing or disrespecting her- maybe he will care when it is he that is inconvenienced and disrespected

StarsSand · 01/03/2023 01:43

I don't believe for a second there is some condition that make it impossible for able bodied men to aim their urine into the toilet. Stand closer or sit if there is an issue. Worse case scenario he should clean up after himself.

ChellyT · 01/03/2023 03:09

SlightlySusan · 28/02/2023 21:48

Have you tried looking at the seat before you sit on it?

In all seriousness, I have a serial seat pisser. 16 years and he's not completely stopped but is much better. DP had a problem with his foreskin being tight and unable to pull back which he says was the cause. It wasn't for the first ten years but was for the latter. Could yours have the same issue?

How does his foreskin stop him from lifting the seat or cleaning his piss off the seat? RANK

DesertRose64 · 01/03/2023 03:26

Urine left on toilet seats, skid marks in the bowl and on undies. Just why do women put up with a pig of a man for a partner? Is it a case of any man is better than no man at all? Just why?

snitzelvoncrumb · 01/03/2023 03:33

I once read a woman would wipe the piss off the toilet seat with her DHs underwear. Her reasoning was if I have to sit in pee, so can you. Have you looked into a toilet seat and lid that open with a pedal? I would definitely leave period blood on the seat if he won’t stop peeing everywhere.

DesertRose64 · 01/03/2023 03:43

snitzelvoncrumb · 01/03/2023 03:33

I once read a woman would wipe the piss off the toilet seat with her DHs underwear. Her reasoning was if I have to sit in pee, so can you. Have you looked into a toilet seat and lid that open with a pedal? I would definitely leave period blood on the seat if he won’t stop peeing everywhere.

But why lower yourself to their level by leaving period blood on the seat or wiping the toilet seat with underwear?

rwalker · 01/03/2023 05:10

Just leave the seat up
it’s when you start and stop pissing is the issue flow a bit unpredictable nothing to do with the size of the hole your aiming at

Redebs · 01/03/2023 05:17

If a man doesn't sit down to pee, he's spraying pee around the toilet whether you can see it or not. (One reason why unisex public toileta are gross)
Why are you sitting in it without wiping though?
And the toothbrush is pathological!

threeisacharm18 · 01/03/2023 05:18

InsertSomethingMotivationalHere · 28/02/2023 21:23

Pathetic overreaction.
If you have in fact wiped his toothbrush in piss (which I doubt) you're an abusive, spiteful object who shouldn't be with anyone.

This is very mean spirited and completely unnecessary

TheRussiansAreComing · 01/03/2023 05:45

Some men just don’t care. And it’s not just the aiming that’s an issue. It’s giving it a good old shake. And if he’s getting it on the seat, chances are that he’s getting it on the floor. Bet he doesn’t wash his hands either, or know how to use a toilet brush.

See if you can train him to do a sit down wee, and become a dabber too. This will stop it.

Emptycrackedcup · 01/03/2023 05:53

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/02/2023 21:18

When you get to the point of rubbings your partner's toothbrush in piss, all respect and affection is clearly gone.

Why do you stay with someone you clearly hold in contempt?

This. My dad pisses all over the floor and it stinks, it will get worse as he gets older

ThepicofmyhairymingeprovesIamsober · 01/03/2023 05:56

Ugh nothing worse than sitting down on a smelly, wet loo seat. Luckily this hasn’t happened to me since my DS’s were little boys over 10 years ago. I wonder at what age your inconsiderate pig of a partner will grow the fuck up and at least clean up if he still can’t manage to lift the seat and aim into that massive toilet bowl.

LookingOldTheseDays · 01/03/2023 06:15

See if you can train him to do a sit down wee, and become a dabber too.

Yes, because successfully toilet training your husband like a puppy is the most any woman can aspire to!

LookingOldTheseDays · 01/03/2023 06:16

rwalker · 01/03/2023 05:10

Just leave the seat up
it’s when you start and stop pissing is the issue flow a bit unpredictable nothing to do with the size of the hole your aiming at

But you have hands, yes? And access to cloths/cleaning materials?

tangeriiinedrream · 01/03/2023 06:23

So many excuses and ways the woman can work around it.

Fuck that.

Someone constantly pissing all over the toilet and not cleaning it up afterwards is a huge mark of disrespect for anyone else living in the same house.

The odd occasion that my husband does it, I refuse to touch it and tell him to go back and antibac spray and clean it up. Every time.
The same with shit left all over the bowl.
The same for piss sprinkled on the floor.

I'd honestly divorce someone they had such blatent disregard for me that they did it all the time.

Sux2buthen · 01/03/2023 06:30

ShutUpBaggyTits · 28/02/2023 22:13

Sounds like it's time to leave period blood in the loo. And on the seat. See how he likes it!

Seriously this would be grounds for divorce in my house.

Solicitors office I used to clean did that regularly with period blood. Rank

Mxflamingnoravera · 01/03/2023 06:38

My house is sit down only too. I live alone and have a weekend partner and I told him from the start that I do not want to clear piss off the floor or seat and he sits every time because he knows it's gross to splash. He's even started to do the same at his own place because he realised it's more hygienic all round.

It would be a deal breaker for me. It would make my blood boil and I'd have to call him to clear it up every time he did it.

Mylittlesandwich · 01/03/2023 06:44

Neither of these actions is really ok. There's absolutely no reason a grown man can't clean up after himself if he does miss. And there's no way I would stoop as low as to wipe a toothbrush in pee. I'd have him packed out the door before I started doing that.

SlightlySusan · 01/03/2023 06:45

For people asking about foreskins, I don't know the logistics of it but if it's there and can't be pulled back fully, it doesn't go where they aim. I think it goes everywhere else.

DP was an animal but is no longer 🥳

I always look before I sit on a toilet. I've been caught out by men and women.

notthisagainforest · 01/03/2023 06:46

You are equally as disgusting

LookingOldTheseDays · 01/03/2023 06:48

SlightlySusan · 01/03/2023 06:45

For people asking about foreskins, I don't know the logistics of it but if it's there and can't be pulled back fully, it doesn't go where they aim. I think it goes everywhere else.

DP was an animal but is no longer 🥳

I always look before I sit on a toilet. I've been caught out by men and women.

But this isn't an excuse! Men have eyes, arms and a brain. They can see the mess and clean it up, just like women do.

The foreskin thing might be an excuse for a 3 year old, but never a grown man.

LookingOldTheseDays · 01/03/2023 06:51

Just ask yourself - if you went to the loo after flooding during your period, and got blood on the floor or seat, what would you do? It's not your fault the mess happened, but it still needs dealing with, so you'd clean it up rather than leaving it for the next person.

So why are our expectations of men so low?

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