To let my 3yo shower naked after swimming

[Gompurtz]

My LO has nursery after swimming so I try to give him a shower immediately afterwards, removing his costume for the last minute or so. Today, a woman informed me that she found it inappropriate and she "wouldn't let her children shower naked". I told her I found it inappropriate that she was sexualising my 3 year old. Long story short, she told me that "known paedophiles" use the pool and she was trying to be helpful.

So, AIBU reasonable to let him shower starkers? It is a communal changing room. Her unsolicited interference advice has made me question whether I should keep his togs on just to be on the safe side.

YABU
A, it's his private body and you should respect that.
B. Paedophiles are drawn to places where there are young kids.

What's not fair, seeing a naked 3 year old? This is a very weird comment. People have some very serious issues if they can't cope with a naked 3 year old

I wouldn't take my dc's costume off in the showers, but I wouldn't comment on what other people do. I would just shower, and leave.

At my local pool the only showers are mixed communal between the changing rooms and the pool. They are visible from the reception area of the pool. As I was sat waiting for my SD to finish swimming I was quite shocked to see a little boy being showered naked there the other week. Children are entitled to privacy as much as adults.

What risk to your child do you think is posed by a naked shower? What do you think is going to happen if someone "leers" at him? Perhaps you should make a realistic risk assessment.

Sadly, we live in a world where it is important to teach our children to keep themselves safe from a young age. Nudity being private is not a bad lesson for them to learn.
I’d leave the trunks on. They can have a more thorough wash at bedtime. They won’t be very dirty from a swimming pool.

Frankly, if somebody was having impure thought about my boys (who are grown up now) while showering I wouldn't have cared because it wouldn't affect them or me. You can't control people's thoughts and they certainly weren't getting their hands on my children. Obviously, if somebody had been leering obviously at them I'd have had words. I didn't actually strip my sons down as toddlers in the shower at the swimming pool because we were in the ladies section and I didn't want to make any little girls who might be there uncomfortable. It wasn't about any fear that somewhere there might be a salivating pedophile lurking.