Aibu to think this trip isn't really worth it?

[Funkyslippers]

DD1 is at uni 200 miles away. She's due back for couple of weeks at Easter. She wants us to travel up with DD2 to meet her new boyfriend then we'd stay the night then drive back with her the next day. OH and I think it's a long journey to just meet her boyfriend for a couple of hours (on a bad day could take up to nearly 6 hours 1 way) plus expensive for us in petrol and accommodation for 3 people especially as she's coming home anyway. She says it would be cheaper for her if we drove as no train fare for her but we'd contribute to her train fare anyway. She reckons it's the only time in quite a while we'd get to meet him as he's working abroad for a few months. They've been together about 2 months but she's besotted. Would like some views please

I would go, it is a hassle of course but I think it’s good that she values your opinion.
And @T1Dmama right - she might not ask again if you refuse this time.

The boyfriend's just about to go abroad for several months. DD is hoping that introducing him to her parents and sister will make him think twice about forgetting her or dumping her when he meets someone else while he's away. She's trying to give him the message that after just eight weeks of dating he's part of her family.

I know I'm from a different generation but crikey, some of the expectations that offspring in their late teens and 20s need constant support and 'niceness' explains an awful lot of my experiences with entitled first-jobbers who expect to be babied and jollied along all the time. Thank goodness my parents left me to make my way backwards and forwards to university regularly and we only spoke on the landline once or twice a month. University is supposed to be about growing up and away from dependency on mum and dad and learning to cope on your own.

Back in my day you could.send a trunk,full.of your possessions ahead to your hall. Of residence or shared house by train, it would be picked up and delivered. Students nowadays have pcs, laptops etc so somehow these and their clothes and everything else, all the pans etc have to be got to uni, can't do it by rail any more. If having a car makes it easier for them to ferry their stuff about then why not
I'd go and meet the boyfriend even if I went on the train, I'd always be pleased when my children wanted to involve me. Now they are adults they put themselves out to help me and see me, didn't do it so they did that but it is a good thing to come out of it
If, I'd called them. Spoilt brats and refused to help I'd not be surprised if they did similar to me

I didn't say that at all.

I think it's lovely that your daughter wants you to meet her new boyfriend, rather than, as many young people do, leave you completely out of the loop.

I can see it will be expensive and inconvenient but I think it would show your love for her.

I think it's rather cynical to assume she is just wanting a lift home. Only you know your daughter and whether that is possible, but that would surprise me.

A lot of people have said that I said she just wants a lift home. I don't think I said that and she's happy to get the train but said it would be cheaper for her if we drove obviously. I'm going to gently suggest she gets the train back this time as she's coming back anyway

She's going to take that as "no I don't want to meet your boyfriend"

I think it's lovely that your daughter wants you to meet her new boyfriend,

That's possible though without the whole family driving there & doing an overnight stay!

Tell her you would love to meet her boyfriend at a more convenient time. Maybe he can come to yours one weekend when he is back from wherever. Or you could go up for a mini break mid term. Personally I'd rather take the train for a longer journey which would make more sense if a lift back isn't required.

PS are young people so flaky these days that they can't see that some requests to parents are not particularly sensible? Are they also so sensitive that mum is binned off for one refusal? Thats what many posters seem to want to believe. Luckily, mine aren't like that.....

This, totally.