To post lingerie shots on my social media..

[Junglejane8]

Right here me out here..
Long term lacking in body confidence. Have never felt very beautiful or feminine. I've been working on my self-esteem recently and a friend who is a photographer treated me to a burlesque shoot. She said it would be a very empowering thing to do, and it was. I actually felt sexy and beautiful and powerful.
The pictures have come through and I'm so happy with them. I want to post them on my social media but am worried that it will come off as vain, desperate, attention seeking etc.
There is lots of crap on social media but then I think of some of the women I follow who post lingerie / swimwear images and I don't judge them at all. I think they are beautiful and confident. I want to do that too.
Or is it vacuous and shameful?

I personally wouldn't
Imagine if you employer or future employer saw them!!!

I'd be keeping them for me

They sound lovely pictures but personally I wouldn’t put them on social media. Why not get them framed so you can remind yourself daily of the confidence they give you.

You could set privacy levels so only certain people see? Or if you would prefer certain people not to see?

I think in your circumstance, I wouldn't judge and would think go girl! If it was constant Instagram look at me shots then yes not appropriate.

I wouldnt. If I saw it on someones social media I would judge, likely think it was sad and attention speaking.
Keep them for you. Be proud of them. Show friends if you want. Dont put them on social media for future employers etc to possibly see.

If the photos made you feel powerful, why do you need further validation?

I've seen this done and tbh it does come across as attention seeking and it's a bit cringey.
If you know you look great why do you need anyone else to see them? It means you're getting your validation from other people which isn't healthy.

I would think anyone doing this was a huge attention seeker. If you are trying to build your self esteem you need to go back to the drawing board. Healthy self esteem does not come from external validation and likes online. Don’t do it.

I wouldn’t. I’ve seen others do this with boudoir shoots in the past and the upside down on the bed pics always make me cringe a bit.

I’m sure they are lovely but just enjoy them for yourself.

I would be wary, but only because the images are on the Internet. Regardless of your social media settings, they can be copied,shared, and stored by whoever surprisingly easily.

“I've been working on my self-esteem recently”

Part of working on self esteem is working on not seeking validation from others. You enjoyed the photo shoot and you like your photos. That’s enough. Do not train yourself to base your self esteem on the “likes” of others.

That would be the worst idea I’ve ever heard, or close to it.

You don't need to seek validation from randoms on the internet by posting pictures of yourself in lingerie.

If they make you feel good looking at them, then be glad & leave it at that.

If you post them & people don't praise them, you'll feel bad.
Just imagine if people you work with got hold of them & put them into photoshop.
Or you found yourself memed in an unflattering way.
Or kids who know your kids.
Or potential bosses who don't think they project the professional image they expect.

Better to keep them offline where they can do you no harm.
Once they are online, you have lost control of them forever.

I really wouldn’t. I mean wouldn’t that mean everyone you know could see them? Parents, other family members etc. It’s just not a good look imo.

@MumOf2workOptions what would a future employer care? They are very tasteful, not like page 3 / porny. I only ask as thinking about women's empowerment / freedom / rights why should we be defined and judged our careers for our own choices about our bodies..
I know like, employers seeing excessive drinking, drug abuse etc in socials is so inappropriate. But is this in the same category? Seems wrong. Honestly wasn't something I'd considered or even crossed my mind.

What would putting them out for the world to see do for you?

Don’t put them on social media/the internet. You have no control over what people do with images of you and future employers may well find them. The first thing many employers do is Google prospective employees, it’s common practice these days. You don’t need other people to tell you how gorgeous you are. You can see it in the mirror.

What is your job? Do you have children? Those would be influential factors for me.

Oh wow ok I'm kinda surprised by these responses which are pretty unanimous that it's a bad idea.
I expected more pro female empowerment. You do you etc..
I'll take it all on board.. thanks everyone.

People thinking you look sexy i.e. would want to shag you, is not empowering.

It's a fallacy told to women to encourage us to put up pictures of us in our knickers, look "better" in make up, or show off "a hint of cleavage".

Empowerment is choosing not to because that's your power.

No. Dont put them up there.

I wouldn’t. You have no idea what anyone could do with them.

I have a few friends who have done this.

If you are proud of them (and happy with your social media privacy settings) then go for it! It doesn't matter what others think 😄

Someone I went to primary school with did this, thought it was really weird that she shared half-naked pictures tbh as I don't really know her very well.
Maybe if you are close to everyone on your socials? My gut says more of an instragram thing than Facebook

@Christmascracker0 thank you 😊

How many tasteful pictures have you seen of your boss, dad, brother in their pants.