To post lingerie shots on my social media..

[Junglejane8]

Right here me out here..
Long term lacking in body confidence. Have never felt very beautiful or feminine. I've been working on my self-esteem recently and a friend who is a photographer treated me to a burlesque shoot. She said it would be a very empowering thing to do, and it was. I actually felt sexy and beautiful and powerful.
The pictures have come through and I'm so happy with them. I want to post them on my social media but am worried that it will come off as vain, desperate, attention seeking etc.
There is lots of crap on social media but then I think of some of the women I follow who post lingerie / swimwear images and I don't judge them at all. I think they are beautiful and confident. I want to do that too.
Or is it vacuous and shameful?

@Poppchipps thanks it was a genuine question.

I think most are though, aren’t they?

Larger than what? The average uk dress size is 16.

May I ask why you asked this question? Genuine question.

So what if they are?

@xsquared because normal this body positivity thing only comes from larger ladies. I'm a size 6/8 and I really really love my body but wear quite modest clothing as I don't really need to promote any body positivity

That seems to be the reality here

OP, I think if it's done tastefully rather than in your face overtly sexual, then I personally wouldn't have a problem with seeing that on my social media. It's up to you.

If however you're worried about future employers finding it, then you may want to reconsider or just have it as a story which will disappear after 24 hours.

A friend had a professional photo taken while she was heavily pregnant in a black crop top bra and briefs, posing with a hat while cradling her bump. I thought she looked radiant with confidence. There were many positive comments to and likes for that photo.

No, unless you have extremely high privacy settings on them - because there will be plenty of people who will tear down your confidence just as soon as you do it even though I believe that you look and feel great. It also sounds a bit superficial as a justification - a bit like Zara McDermott having that grand realization that her pictures encourage unhealthy attitudes and feelings in young girls. Why isn't it enough to enjoy the moment between yourself and really close family/friends?

Do you think that size 6 instagrammers who pose in lingerie and bikini dislike their body amd are trying to promote body positivity?

@xsquared I think the size 6 instagrammers are silly girls who however have found a way to make money out of their bodies.

OP is not making money so she's gratuitously exposing her body for everyone to see and comment. I am strongly against it but I'm not Op, she can do what she wants but hopefully from these comments she gets an idea (most are suggesting not doing it)

Okay, I see where you’re coming from here.

Many boudoir photographers are a bit old hat in their style. Having had a “boudoir” shoot 11 years ago, I have noticed that style just doesn’t change with time, and it’s my most hated shoot looking back.

The old “here’s me draped across the chaise lounge in my lace gear with a sheet” does often have an aged, cheap look (and often £500+ bill to boot) . And they do make me cringe , only because I know the person has been practically duped. The photographers have overcharged, probably made the hard sell viewing sesh and warned the client “if you don’t buy, they’re gone forever”

@Junglejane8

I wasn’t going to comment until I saw the above. My friend posted her “boudoir” photos online.
Not 10 minutes later, four different friends of ours texted me and told me about it, all with rude and snarky remarks about the boudoir friend.
The remarkable thing is, they never would’ve said anything to her face — this was all behind her back.
If you post your boudoir photos, be prepared for your friends to do the same.
Because we never really know - do we.

"am worried that it will come off as vain, desperate, attention seeking etc."
Then don't do it.

Looking at the date of this original post, I have no idea how it's back but I'm very intrigued to know the outcome!
Did you post the pictures OP?!

...I was also in the camp of saying that it was fantastic that you did the shoot and felt so pleased with the pictures but I don't know why on earth you'd post them on social media.

Why do people keep resurrecting old threads lately? How are they finding them?

No one wants to see them

They get them from the ‘similar threads’ bit at the bottom of every thread.

And then they don’t notice the date.

It seems every thread I open at the minute is an old one and I'm getting sick of it tbf.

Me too. I wish people would read the bloody dates.

The old threads, or the boudoir shots?

The photos. They can get it on only fans if they want rather than being smacked in the face with some randomer they knew at school in their underwear

This ❤️

It's a two year old thread revived by a creep.

I wouldn't - to others it does look like attention seeking for validation -