Set his cheating message as his screen saver

[Tothemoonandbackx]

So my lying, cheating.....now (not that he knows it yet) EX is snoring away beside me. We have the same make and model of phone, and I'd plugged mine in earlier to charge, but didn't realise he'd taken mine out to charge his up while I was in the shower. A notification popped up, on what I thought was my phone plugged in, I went to read the message and saw it was from another women, talking about how amazing their kiss was, completely baffled, I soon realised it was his phone. Turns out not only have they shared this amazing kiss, but they've also spent nights together while he's been away at work. To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement, anger has over ridden me but I want to play it cool before I dump his sorry, pathetic lying cheating fucking ass!!!! I've set his screen saver to the last message she sent, so there's no way he can deny it, I'm waiting for him to eventually see it in the morning, am I crazy, or do I wake him up and kick him out now?????

Why are people assuming the OW doesn't know she's the OW?

I was also wondering this.

Surprised he left his phone out with notifications on, so blazé

Well done OP. So many women on here don’t act so decisively to their own detriment.

I hope you have your house back to yourself asap.

HAHAHA

I hope you’re okay OP. Take good care of yourself and make sure you each out to friends in the aftermath. I hope his face when seeing his wallpaper is everything you want it to be.

I hope this morning has went okay for your. Keep strong! 💐

OP doesn't need to know what's been going on. She has enough information to make an informed decision regardless of what he says.

Get yourself std checked op. She's just one that you know about.

If he's still asleep get your house key off his set of keys (if he has one). I wouldn't have bothered with the screen saver and all of that. I would have let him walk out the door. Then send him the picture saying he's to never contact you again, then block him on everything.

I'm not the sort for big break up scenes. I think there's something more dignified about opting out of the relationship quietly rather than the big screaming match in front of neighbours, it's also an opportunity for him to lie and gas light you. I wouldn't give him the chance.

No thanks. Don't let the door hit you on the arse on the way out. NEXT! 🛎️

How's it going op?

Love your reaction. Hope he’s out of your life soon!

Some awful advice on here OP. Don’t air your dirty laundry in public! No Facebook posts, no contacting the Ow. just get rid of him after you’ve confronted him and stay classy. Look after yourself, have no contact and focus on you and your goals.

Also longing to know what's happening. I admire OP's (seemingly) calm approach so far. Time for emotion later.

Not unhinged at all. OP means get her to turn up and see their faces when they realise they've been caught.

Absolutely this but as others have said she may not know she is the OW. This happened to me and I was grateful his girlfriend messaged me as I thought we were moving towards a serious relationship.
Send her a short message... Hi, you probably don't know me but my name is.... and I found out that... has been seeing you. How long has this been going on as until last night he was my boyfriend who told me he loves me and was planning to move in with me. We are now finished and his bags are packed - you are welcome to the lying cheating scumbag if you still want him.

Are you quite well dear?

If you've been on Mumsnet for any amount of time you would know that anyone who is unfaithful regardless of their biological sex gets ripped to shreds.

You seem to have some agenda against women to spout such clearly incorrect claptrap

No I meant as ‘revenge’
i was cheated on once so I know it feels awful OP sorry for you.
but when I found out I cheated on them back. It didn’t save the relationship, unfortunately but it did make me feel a lot better at the time.

This.

She doesn't need the sordid details. He's cheated and has proof. He's the problem, he's the one she was in the relationship with. The one he's having an affair with is irrelevant.

Yes OP get her number, call her now and demand answers. That won’t look crazy at all.

‘I don’t live you enough to care’

… apparently that was insulting to my cheating Ex

This!!
@Tothemoonandbackx Oh well done 👏
What an utter W⚓️ He is .

I hope he is out of the door by now. Sounds like you have had a lucky escape.

I admire you OP

@Tothemoonandbackx If this is true, Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Thank goodness it’s your house.
Rid it of the 🐀.

Well, at least you found out before you started getting serious.
Did you meet? Real world or on an App?

I’m actually surprised people still have their phones set to display pop up messages. So easy to get those 6 digit security codes from a phone if they just pop up on the screen. That’s why banks don’t payout when people access your account, and they send a security code to your phone to confirm it’s you, and you share it with everyone instead of keeping it private. Makes a mockery of two factor authentication.

I’d have gone for throwing his clothes out into the street and then waking him up and kicking him out after them. I wouldn’t have let him stay the night.

What are the odds he’s sold her a story of early dating and deciding she’s the one he’s going to settle down with, and the others are just bitter and pursuing him out of jealousy to see if they can sabotage their relationship. But he’s really never met anyone like her before, etc. etc. etc. Would she ditch her self responds and fall for it it it’s what she wants to hear? Flattery will get you everywhere and all that?

Letting him spend the night was not a good sign. I can’t wait for the update.

What a piece of shit. I hope he goes with minimum fuss.