Page 10 | Set his cheating message as his screen saver

Tothemoonandbackx · 2023-02-26T01:38:34+00:00

So my lying, cheating.....now (not that he knows it yet) EX is snoring away beside me. We have the same make and model of phone, and I'd plugged mine in earlier to charge, but didn't realise he'd taken mine out to charge his up while I was in the shower. A notification popped up, on what I thought was my phone plugged in, I went to read the message and saw it was from another women, talking about how amazing their kiss was, completely baffled, I soon realised it was his phone. Turns out not only have they shared this amazing kiss, but they've also spent nights together while he's been away at work. To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement, anger has over ridden me but I want to play it cool before I dump his sorry, pathetic lying cheating fucking ass!!!! I've set his screen saver to the last message she sent, so there's no way he can deny it, I'm waiting for him to eventually see it in the morning, am I crazy, or do I wake him up and kick him out now?????

Notimeforaname · 26/02/2023 11:14

Well done op you handled that fantastically 👏

quietnightmare · 26/02/2023 11:15

Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 11:11

You've all been absolutely amazing in your responses, I can't tell you how much they all mean to me, thank you so much. I had to go into the bedroom to get my clothes out for work, I made myself a coffee, and walked in, as calmly as I could, he woke up, said good morning with a smile on his face, I casually asked him to check the time for me as I was running late.............the look of pure confusion was priceless!!!!!!!......I just looked at him and said, no need to explain anything, I've seen enough, when I get back from work, I want you and all your stuff out of here. I didn't even give him a chance to explain himself, just walked out and headed to work. The coward hasn't even had the balls to message or call me, so it really does show how little he cares.

And that is how you do it with class. Well done op. Sorry this has happened it's awful for you but you deserve more

cinci · 26/02/2023 11:15

Oh my word, you're braver than I am. I can't believe you've handled it so calmly. Well done, you seem like you'll have it figured out soon enough. His loss.

purpledalmation · 26/02/2023 11:16

You are amazing Op ❤️

jelly79 · 26/02/2023 11:17

You are a classy woman OP!!!

sopsop · 26/02/2023 11:17

Wowsers op you are incredible. What a woman!

BollocksToThem · 26/02/2023 11:19

Good for you @Tothemoonandbackx , you have handled it really well

Elderflower14 · 26/02/2023 11:20

Just wanted to say well done you..

XelaM · 26/02/2023 11:21

Amazing 👏🏼 wish I was as classy as you OP 😂

BridieConvert · 26/02/2023 11:23

Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 11:11

You've all been absolutely amazing in your responses, I can't tell you how much they all mean to me, thank you so much. I had to go into the bedroom to get my clothes out for work, I made myself a coffee, and walked in, as calmly as I could, he woke up, said good morning with a smile on his face, I casually asked him to check the time for me as I was running late.............the look of pure confusion was priceless!!!!!!!......I just looked at him and said, no need to explain anything, I've seen enough, when I get back from work, I want you and all your stuff out of here. I didn't even give him a chance to explain himself, just walked out and headed to work. The coward hasn't even had the balls to message or call me, so it really does show how little he cares.

The update we needed 👏👏

Parroteets · 26/02/2023 11:23

Why did you leave him in your house??

Mariposista · 26/02/2023 11:24

Good for you OP. What class. What's the betting he will be there when you get back and you can play bullshit bingo with the usual phrases:
Can we talk
Let me explain
I am such an idiot
It's not what it sounds like
she meant nothing
please give me a chance

ShakinSteven · 26/02/2023 11:25

Bravo OP! Bravo! 👏🏻

WentForAWalk · 26/02/2023 11:25

Very classy !

Led9519 · 26/02/2023 11:26

Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 11:11

You've all been absolutely amazing in your responses, I can't tell you how much they all mean to me, thank you so much. I had to go into the bedroom to get my clothes out for work, I made myself a coffee, and walked in, as calmly as I could, he woke up, said good morning with a smile on his face, I casually asked him to check the time for me as I was running late.............the look of pure confusion was priceless!!!!!!!......I just looked at him and said, no need to explain anything, I've seen enough, when I get back from work, I want you and all your stuff out of here. I didn't even give him a chance to explain himself, just walked out and headed to work. The coward hasn't even had the balls to message or call me, so it really does show how little he cares.

That’s a brilliant exit though!!!! Hope you’re ok.

Colourinsidethelines · 26/02/2023 11:27

Well done! Very well done! Hopefully he does actually leave whilst you are at work. If not, just ring the police and put his stuff in bin bags. Good for you, stick to your guns now! X

GoodChat · 26/02/2023 11:28

I like your style, OP. Good work!

TheNoodlesIncident · 26/02/2023 11:29

Oysterbabe · 26/02/2023 09:36

I think they're real, at least I believe this one is. You find out something upsetting, it's the middle of the night, your friends aren't awake and even if they were you might not feel ready to talk to real life people about the situation. There's comfort in getting support and validation, even if it's just from online strangers.

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It's considered that the best confidante when you need to get something off your chest is a disinterested stranger, as they are not biased towards you as a friend or family member would be. So you get more honest advice and sympathy.

(Obviously disinterested doesn't mean uninterested but unbiased which makes a difference...)

And you know that there will always be people up and scrolling MN/the internet no matter what the time is, so you wouldn't be disturbing anyone.

diddl · 26/02/2023 11:29

Why do you trust him just to leave Op?

KnitFastDieWarm1 · 26/02/2023 11:31

You're a legend. I've been waiting for an update all morning. Sounds like you handled it amazingly and I hope you're ok x

Sparklesandsunshine1 · 26/02/2023 11:33

Well done on how you’ve handled this! I hope he’s done the decent thing and left with his cheating tail between his legs by the time your back

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Tothemoonandbackx · 26/02/2023 11:37

I only left him in as I was genuinely running late for work and I didn't know how his reaction would be, if he had tried to argue or get me into a conversation, it would have been meant me being late, and his poor excuses would never be worth me loosing my job. I'm going to nip back on my break and see if he's still there. Still no word from him, actually relieved at that. I didn't get the other woman's number, so have no way of warning her about him, if she chose to believe me anyway, from the messages sent back and forth, it did seem like she thought he was single, I'd never have a go at her unless it was clear she knew he (used to) have a partner, and even then I honestly don't think it'd be worth the effort. Won't change the situation and won't make me feel better about it.

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Trinity65 · 26/02/2023 11:40

Dotcheck · 26/02/2023 07:37

This happened to a friend of mine. She called the OW, and they both woke him up. The look on his face……

That is Fantastic

Hancocksmentalnft · 26/02/2023 11:41

@Tothemoonandbackx you’re a legend. Hold the line, keep it civilised, I recommend you do plenty of non-intimate and highly selective dating to help make sure you don’t give him another chance. Mainly focus on yourself of course and do anything big or small to feel good. He doesn’t deserve a minute more of your time

AllOfThemWitches · 26/02/2023 11:42

Good lass ! I imagine you've ruined the 'excitement' for him somewhat.