To buy DD a present between birthday and Christmas.

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DD is desperate for a Rainbow High doll. She’s 6. I think it’s a bit tied up with friendship issues because it’s become a thing on her friendship group and she feels left out when they play with them.

Her birthday isn’t until June.

We usually don’t buy ‘big’ presents outside of birthdays or Christmas.

We can afford it, I just worry about spoiling. What do other people do about toys outside of birthdays or Christmases.

YABU - Buy her the bloody doll.
YANBU - hold out till Christmas

Buy the doll. If you can afford it, why not. No one thinks anything of buying non necessary clothes outside of bdays and Xmas, expensive days out etc, so what's the difference.

Get her the doll! Do you really need a reason?!

Nothing wrong with buying something extra if you can afford but maybe say she needs to save up for it and give her a goal / target. You could give her a task and say will match 50/50.

What about buy8ng it for Easter instead of an egg from you? As ours got tons of chocolate for Easter we always bought a different gift not chocolate

aww get her the doll and if it makes you feel better then find a “reason” for it. Eg she’s modelled some behaviour that you really want her to keep up or she achieved something

honestly she’ll be absolutely made up and you’ll feel amazing when you see how chuffed she is

J’ai acheté la poupée

Buy her the doll. It’s only £21 on Amazon. I appreciate that might be a big present for some people but you said you can afford it.

I've always bought my daughter everything she wants pretty much - I get her gifts big and small all the time - and you would definitely think I spoil her but she has consistently been kind, hard working and well behaved. And she definitely knows the value of things and that she is privileged. She’s 15 now and not in any way ‘spoilt’. She works incredibly hard, does chores, is trustworthy, sticks to the rules we set out for her and is a delight to be with.

I don’t think it’s buying too much that ‘spoils’ kids but inconsistent parenting and poor boundaries. If you raise your child to understand the value of things and give them good guidance, buying them a doll they want really won’t mess them up.

She's bought it. She's bought it. She bought it.

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Our 3.5 year old has up to £20 per month pocket money. Since we implemented this we no longer get the ‘can I have’ aa she knows her chance to buy her one new things is around pay day.

I'm glad you've written this I give mine £5 a week and was never sure if this was an OK amount**

Complete side message but am I supposed to give my three year old pocket money? That hasn't even occurred to me! How much should I be giving her?

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They are staring into my soul 😦

Op how did she react when you have her it? She will remember this xx

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My daughter's birthday is late October so if she got nothing between Christmas and birthday it would be a long sad 10 months with no summer / garden toys!

We have bought really big stuff (like a jungle gym) in summer in the past with the caveat that birthday would be smaller, but in reality we don't make a big fuss over birthdays and Christmas and she gets other toys through the year for various reasons

• holiday souvenirs
• earning through chores
• rewards for trying really hard at something
• sometimes we just see something awesome and if I know she'd get a lot of play out of it I get her it.

She sees me treat myself the same way to things I fancy. We do get loads of stuff second hand though as I try to be eco friendly so it's rare I'm spending ££££

Ha. Apologies. Have you given her the doll yet? Was she amazed?!

Buy her the doll. I still have the doll my beloved grandad sent me and my parents back into town to buy for me, when I was six or seven, many years ago. Money was tight, and I wasn't a particularly acquisitive child, but I'd been enchanted by this one. I've remembered it all my life - it seemed like a miracle. I'd still have loved him to bits with or without the doll, but she was just the icing on the cake!

SHE BOUGHT THE DOLL.
Over 24 hours ago. She has updated about this fact multiple times.

Ha ha ha ha! This is brilliant.

Some of them are truly horrendous! I hope you bought the one she wanted, or don't you know which that is?
Looking forward to the update when you give it to her.

They’re bloody horrendous. Yes, she was very clear about which one she wanted.

I gave it to her. She’s really pleased. I wouldn’t say celestial beings are trumpeting joy or anything - I’ve seen her more joyful at lots of other things - but she’s pleased and it’s in bed with her now.

She’s now decided the next two dolls she wants and the house. This is all very new from her. She’s not normally at all acquisitive. Just need to ride the wave, I guess.

For £22, I’d buy the doll 🙂x

It is so hard to decide whether to give them things between normal presents. I agree with you that you don't want to spoil them.
All my children are adult now and I give them things when they need them, rather than on "occasions", so much easier.

Get the doll. There were strings attached to everything my mum bought me. Pisses me off just to think about it. Nothing given with love or joy or just for the hell of it. Get the doll and enjoy seeing her happy.

Do you think I should? I’m not sure.

There was always a "reason" why he got gifts outside of Christmas and birthdays.
(easter, good school report, exam results, etc) but yes, he got gifts toys and he wasn't spoilt

Is it bad that I'm jealous? I'd love to buy a doll rather than f'ing transformers. Can I have one? It's nearly my birthday.